Juggling multiple women without lying

[jc_80]

So I'm back in the game. I'm sleeping with two, working on a third (I really like this one so far), and there is another I just started talking to that has high interest. I haven't juggled this many at once since I was about 18-19. Things were different then. Morals werent at the top of my list.
This new load has come from a combination of online dating and me picking up women in public rather than through friends.
I've hit the point where I'm a little overwhelmed. Im getting asked by all of them what my plans are. I've tried the neutral approach and said "busy, have some things I need to get done, have to meet with somebody,etc. But then the follow up questions start. At this point I feel a lie is needed. Theyre all wanting to take things further. I think it would be dumb to tell them I'm seeing someone else. At first they need to know you're a catch and all. But at some point quickly they really zero in on you.
I don't want to lie. Ive been losing track of what I told which ones. I actually started a note pad for each one on my phone lol.

Any advice on how to handle this? Maybe I'm taking on too much? I'm not ready to pick just one. Each one brings something unique to the table.

 

[Julian]

If what your doing is being a player then my bro, you need to let these hoes know from the go. That translates to you saying "hey im enjoying life doing my thing meeting people and I urge you an everyone to do the same"...use that when she is saying she wants more from you. Also lay out your contract. At this point you have the power. If you want a relationship and settle down pick the one you like let her know your expectations and boom headshot. Sometimes honesty really is the best policy. If you would let a girl know what your all about ie random play and dating...then she can't be mad when you mention plans with another female

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Julian and JC,
You guys are playing with yourselves...Unless you are disgustingly rich or incredibly attractive,you have to be a little creative and disingenuous..You cannot keep multiple relationships by being honest...All is fair in love and War!

 

[Lexington]

Keep it vague. When the "what are we?" talk comes up give her a very open-ended answer. That way you leave open the possibility that it could lead to something down the road (you're not lying, if this girl really knocks your socks off you might just keep her).

"Babe, I love what we got going on, I like things where we are now, let's see how it goes....and who knows?"

Be honest and tell her what you like about her and why you enjoy spending time with her. Give her the impression that if she works hard for your commitment, she might just get it.

Of course, she may well just come out and ask directly if you are sleeping with other people. In that case, give a vague answer, "I am talking to a few other people." Don't explicitly state it if you are fvcking them. If she asks, immediately flip the script on her:

"You know, this sounds a little desperate. Why are you in such a hurry to lock me down?"

The argument should be reframed to put her on the defensive for her desperation. Why is she being such a buzzkill and trying to make it all so serious? There must be something wrong with her if she wants to move so quickly. What's her timetable for the expensive ring and the house with the white picket fence? Throw some humor into it.

This should at least buy you some time. Plates will spin out and you will have to replace them with new ones. Always assume that it's not going to last very long. Of course, some women want commitment ASAP. These broads usually need to lock down a provider or have baby rabies and should be avoided anyway.

 

[Bokanovsky]

Dear Julian and JC,
You guys are playing with yourselves...Unless you are disgustingly rich or incredibly attractive,you have to be a little creative and disingenuous..You cannot keep multiple relationships by being honest...All is fair in love and War!

Exactly. Unless the girl is a wh0re and you are very good looking or otherwise highly desirable, the whole "I'm enjoying life and encourage you to do the same" sh!t is not going to fly. If you want to bang multiple girls without lying, your options are quite limited (become a rock star or start banging escorts).

 

[ZTIME]

Yes!! There is no way to spin plates and be completely honest. I try to maintain a busy schedule and see a plate once a week (3 plates=3 dates). If the "relationship" word comes up, I respond with: "Are you kidding? I barely have enough free time to see you once a week! Maybe down the road some time, but right now just doesn't work". This is a lie, but it works better than "I'm seeing other women" or "I'm living life free, you should do the same".

 

[Slickster]

Back when I was single and seeing multiple women I was taking them on dinner dates in the next town just to stay low key. (I live in a smallish city). When I would pick one of them up for a date they would ask where we were going and I would tell them it's a surprise. We would drive to the next town which was a beautiful drive and chat the whole way. They would eat it up because they thought I was being romantic. Sometimes I would take two different girls to the same restaurant within a week and the same waitress would serve us. I remember at one point the waitress doing a double-take when she noticed I was with a different girl. She looked at me and smiled a devilish grin.

Gaming multiple women is exhausting and can really suck up all your time. Have fun while it lasts.