Hey guys, I'm currently 16, senior year with about 7 months left, decided to take my life in my hands and quit letting other people push me around. I'm starting my journal, hopefully I can see some change and get some help.
I'll start from my background, and go from there:
I have for as long as I have known, been an AFC. I think it stems mostly from my family situation, in which my Dad was always more of a educational/pushing figure rather than a friend/guide. I excel at school, acing my SAT, maintaining my 4.0, and winning competitions that have allowed me to travel around the country. Unfortunately, my relationships, with both my guy friends and girls have always been a massive crutch. Most of the time I just accept being pushed around by my friends, but whenever I am struck with a bout of oneitis I feel like there is no point in giving two ****s about other people.
For as long as I can remember I've worried about what others think about me. It's embarrassing for me to say that before these past few years the only time I really felt secure was when I was behind some sort of screen. I don't really find my life too interesting; I just feel like I'm forced to excel at school, and this has completely killed my social life. I have a few true friends but I almost always take a beta position.
I've worked on things such as esteem, confidence, and assertiveness but my inner voice always kills me when it comes to doing things I WANT to do. For example I'll think of things but I won't act upon them because I'm too ****ing worried about others. Then when I do act upon them it'll come out insecurely because I'm not assertive enough. This becomes a vicious cycle. Because of this, up till now I have not had a girlfriend, only some makeout on occasion whenever there are parties and such.
Now, I'm sitting here, typing up this journal. Time for entries. I'll try to update regularly.
I'll start from my background, and go from there:
I have for as long as I have known, been an AFC. I think it stems mostly from my family situation, in which my Dad was always more of a educational/pushing figure rather than a friend/guide. I excel at school, acing my SAT, maintaining my 4.0, and winning competitions that have allowed me to travel around the country. Unfortunately, my relationships, with both my guy friends and girls have always been a massive crutch. Most of the time I just accept being pushed around by my friends, but whenever I am struck with a bout of oneitis I feel like there is no point in giving two ****s about other people.
For as long as I can remember I've worried about what others think about me. It's embarrassing for me to say that before these past few years the only time I really felt secure was when I was behind some sort of screen. I don't really find my life too interesting; I just feel like I'm forced to excel at school, and this has completely killed my social life. I have a few true friends but I almost always take a beta position.
I've worked on things such as esteem, confidence, and assertiveness but my inner voice always kills me when it comes to doing things I WANT to do. For example I'll think of things but I won't act upon them because I'm too ****ing worried about others. Then when I do act upon them it'll come out insecurely because I'm not assertive enough. This becomes a vicious cycle. Because of this, up till now I have not had a girlfriend, only some makeout on occasion whenever there are parties and such.
Now, I'm sitting here, typing up this journal. Time for entries. I'll try to update regularly.