Journal to be a good conversationalist

[protienpowder]

Write in a private journal about all the interesting stuff that happened in your day. Interesting thoughts, events, jokes. . . .anything interesting at all.

That keeps all the interesting stuff fresher in your memory, and whenever you meet people, you have more topics to bring up.

 

[Taviii]

I aint got time to sh!t twice a day, and you want me to keep a journal?

 

[Azidoro]

I aint got time to sh!t twice a day, and you want me to keep a journal?

Lmao.

 

[spesmilitis]

wrong un

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

I understand the premise but c'mon, it you can't remember your own experiences are they really all that interesting?

 

[protienpowder]

I understand the premise but c'mon, it you can't remember your own experiences are they really all that interesting?

We all have a few interesting thoughts everyday, and something interesting happens to us every couple days. Can you honestly remember all of them off the top of you head? To get what I mean, think about the year 2003. Out of 365 days that year, how many days can you actually remember?

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Actually I can remember the truly interesting ones whenever I'm in a similar situation. The anecdote makes for good conversation fodder. Hell, I can still tell stories about studying U.S. history in the fourth grade. But lets be realistic, if anyone needs to memorize the events of every day out of the year for topics of conversation, the person really should work on the breadth of the conversation skills, not necessarily their content.

 

[protienpowder]

the person really should work on the breadth of the conversation skills, not necessarily their content.

That is also true, for me atleast. But having contest fresh in my mind does help weed out those awkward silences.

Another reason im doing this is figure out what I spend most of my time thinking about. The most socially suave people i've ever met. . . .they just know how to get me to open up, I could talk forever with those people. One pattern I noticed is that they bring up stuff that I think about a lot, therefore I have a lot to say about that topic.
That is something i'm trying to do. To do that, I have to figure out what people generally think about. To do that, I'll try to figure out what I generally think about.
Im sure this may seem ridculus to someone who is naturally a good conversationalist, but for someone like me, its the next step to becomming one.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

I wouldn't say it's ridiculous but anything that's scripted in order to be memorized tends to lose spontaneity points when finally delivered. Now I have replayed funny incidents I had during the day on my way home and find some jovial twist to it that would make for a good story.

The thing is that being natural in your conversations is really easy once you become comfortable in your ability to contribute to a conversation. The fact is that no one can memorize stories for every possible conversation, occasionally you'll need to wing it. Remember that a conversation isn't all about you entertaining someone else, it also helps if you can lead them in keeping you entertained.

 

[diplomatic_lies]

You could talk about eating sh!t, and if you do it well, you'd still get laid. Nobody ever pays attention to what you say, not in today's visual-orientated culture.