crashdietguy
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Wall of text, bear with me.
I got a job offer (summer job) yesterday, delivering morning papers. It's my first job if I choose to take it, and it will be good experience and some money even if it's a crappy job. Since it involves working night, from roughly 1 AM to 5-6 AM, I'll have to make some adjustments in my daily life, which upsets my girlfriend.
At first, I was happy about it (MONEY), then I got the blues because I realized I'll not get to see as much of my friends and my GF as I'd like. I expressed this to my mother (hardworking conservative) and she gave me some tough love about first jobs being crappy, but they mean experience. I took it to heart but was still in sour mood yesterday.
From my girlfriend's POV, I'll sleep the whole day away, won't be able to party since I'll have to drive at night and etc, essentially she feels like I'm putting her on the backburner. She wants to spend the summer with me, and I totally understand that because I want to be with her also.
From my POV, I'll work to 6 AM (maybe get done sooner depending on fast I get the papers out), then come home and sleep 'til about midday (12ish). That way, I'll still have time to spend; I'm young, I can handle a few weeks of non-circadian rhythm. I'll make money which we can spend on good times later.
Still, we had an argument today about the job. She feels like she'll be on the backburner, and I said that I'm not 100 % satisfied with the job either, but I'm young and I have to take every chance I get. We'll still see each other!
She sent this whiny text after I left (argument unresolved): "Just so you know, do what you feel is best! You want money then take the job, it will be for the best since you won't have to fight with your parents!"
Then, after I didn't reply: "Please answer!"
I answered: "Here's how it is: yes, it's a crappy job and a ****ty schedule, but it means money which equals good times for us. It won't last the whole summer and we'll still see each other despite the work schedule. I'm not 100 % satisfied with it, as little as you are, and I understand it feels like **** right now. But it's not an lifetime job! We'll get through this babe, it's gonne be a great summer "
She replied with: "We're not gonna have good times with your money! It's your money, not mine, so only you'll get to spend them! We'll see if we'll get through this. I'm not only thinking about if we're gonna meet or not, I'm thinking about you too. It's a tough job and you'll have to adjust all the time, sleep by day, work by night."
She's a typical 18-year old, really lives in the moment and by her feelings. Do I even reply to this? Been together nearly 11 months, is she losing attraction?
I got a job offer (summer job) yesterday, delivering morning papers. It's my first job if I choose to take it, and it will be good experience and some money even if it's a crappy job. Since it involves working night, from roughly 1 AM to 5-6 AM, I'll have to make some adjustments in my daily life, which upsets my girlfriend.
At first, I was happy about it (MONEY), then I got the blues because I realized I'll not get to see as much of my friends and my GF as I'd like. I expressed this to my mother (hardworking conservative) and she gave me some tough love about first jobs being crappy, but they mean experience. I took it to heart but was still in sour mood yesterday.
From my girlfriend's POV, I'll sleep the whole day away, won't be able to party since I'll have to drive at night and etc, essentially she feels like I'm putting her on the backburner. She wants to spend the summer with me, and I totally understand that because I want to be with her also.
From my POV, I'll work to 6 AM (maybe get done sooner depending on fast I get the papers out), then come home and sleep 'til about midday (12ish). That way, I'll still have time to spend; I'm young, I can handle a few weeks of non-circadian rhythm. I'll make money which we can spend on good times later.
Still, we had an argument today about the job. She feels like she'll be on the backburner, and I said that I'm not 100 % satisfied with the job either, but I'm young and I have to take every chance I get. We'll still see each other!
She sent this whiny text after I left (argument unresolved): "Just so you know, do what you feel is best! You want money then take the job, it will be for the best since you won't have to fight with your parents!"
Then, after I didn't reply: "Please answer!"
I answered: "Here's how it is: yes, it's a crappy job and a ****ty schedule, but it means money which equals good times for us. It won't last the whole summer and we'll still see each other despite the work schedule. I'm not 100 % satisfied with it, as little as you are, and I understand it feels like **** right now. But it's not an lifetime job! We'll get through this babe, it's gonne be a great summer "
She replied with: "We're not gonna have good times with your money! It's your money, not mine, so only you'll get to spend them! We'll see if we'll get through this. I'm not only thinking about if we're gonna meet or not, I'm thinking about you too. It's a tough job and you'll have to adjust all the time, sleep by day, work by night."
She's a typical 18-year old, really lives in the moment and by her feelings. Do I even reply to this? Been together nearly 11 months, is she losing attraction?
