Junior Sanz
Don Juan
this dangerous, evil, and sinister characteristic alone can destroy even the strongest of people.
what is jealousy?
one way to define it is an intense interest for another's honor or prosperity.
Jealousy is one of the strongest passions that can destroy EVERYTHING you stand for over time. (if you let it of course)
Its so important to acknowledge the destruction of jealousy in relationships.
Im a late bloomer when it comes to LTR's. Im soon to be 25 and my only LTR is the one im currently in. roughly going on 8 mos. now.
i underestimated the power of jealousy all my life because never did i spend enough time with one woman to even get jealous. Now being a little more older and wiser, it was my JEALOUSY all along that has hindered any possible LTR's i could have had in the past.
Now that im in a LTR, i would like to share how jealousy has the potential to kill ANYONE and hinder them from being in a great relationship with someone.
i was that guy who always said to himself, "im not the jealous type." It was only a matter of time until my denial caught up to me.
i always put blame on my GF for my jealous reactions.
If my GF commented on another guys appearance or made a comment like, "He's hot." i deemed it disrespectful for her to do that to me to my face. Forgetting that my GF like myself, is a human being and has the right to find someone else in this world attractive besides myself.
But then i said, what about me? ill be the first to say something like, "what a beautiful girl" or "whoa, shes smokin!"
i let my insecurities set off my jealous rage which in turn got me where? NO WHERE!!! just another stupid argument over nothing at all. I soon begin to realize after a couple more incidents that my jealous tendencies were getting the best of me that i had to do something about it.
so i went to the root of it all and pulled out the dictionary...
To the definition of Jealousy. "an intense interest for another's honor or prosperity."
Hmmmmm? thats interesting. i said to myself, " Now that im thinking about it, what about MY OWN "honor and prosperity?"
Im not going to get into tooting my own horn or stroking my own ego here, but so many of us quickly and so easily forget to look at ourselves in the mirror and see how unique and powerful our own self worth is. No one can EVER take the place of YOU and there will NEVER be someone like YOU in this world ever again.
Jealousy is quick to make someone feel worthless which inevitably makes them feel inferior to others.
Theres always going to be someone who makes more $$$ then you, drive a nicer car, more attractive, funnier, wittier, etc. BUT if we tend to focus our attitudes on this way of thinking, you might as well live in a cave your whole life because you will get NO WHERE with this attitude.
Im not trying to say here that someone can totally block jealousy out of their lives all together. what i am saying is that the next time you feel JEALOUSY trying to creep into your mind; Acknowledge it, realize what it is doing, and remember all your unique, special, and one of kindness. Whether you believe it or not, you are just as AUTHENTIC as the next person.
When you feel jealousy trying to overcome you in the future ask yourself this question, "WHY?" And then begin to reflect on your AUTHENTICITY and what you bring to the table. 9 times out of 10, you will knock that JEALOUS TENDENCY right out of your thought process and a total feeling of great self worth with overcome you.
good luck to all!
Joon
what is jealousy?
one way to define it is an intense interest for another's honor or prosperity.
Jealousy is one of the strongest passions that can destroy EVERYTHING you stand for over time. (if you let it of course)
Its so important to acknowledge the destruction of jealousy in relationships.
Im a late bloomer when it comes to LTR's. Im soon to be 25 and my only LTR is the one im currently in. roughly going on 8 mos. now.
i underestimated the power of jealousy all my life because never did i spend enough time with one woman to even get jealous. Now being a little more older and wiser, it was my JEALOUSY all along that has hindered any possible LTR's i could have had in the past.
Now that im in a LTR, i would like to share how jealousy has the potential to kill ANYONE and hinder them from being in a great relationship with someone.
i was that guy who always said to himself, "im not the jealous type." It was only a matter of time until my denial caught up to me.
i always put blame on my GF for my jealous reactions.
If my GF commented on another guys appearance or made a comment like, "He's hot." i deemed it disrespectful for her to do that to me to my face. Forgetting that my GF like myself, is a human being and has the right to find someone else in this world attractive besides myself.
But then i said, what about me? ill be the first to say something like, "what a beautiful girl" or "whoa, shes smokin!"
i let my insecurities set off my jealous rage which in turn got me where? NO WHERE!!! just another stupid argument over nothing at all. I soon begin to realize after a couple more incidents that my jealous tendencies were getting the best of me that i had to do something about it.
so i went to the root of it all and pulled out the dictionary...
To the definition of Jealousy. "an intense interest for another's honor or prosperity."
Hmmmmm? thats interesting. i said to myself, " Now that im thinking about it, what about MY OWN "honor and prosperity?"
Im not going to get into tooting my own horn or stroking my own ego here, but so many of us quickly and so easily forget to look at ourselves in the mirror and see how unique and powerful our own self worth is. No one can EVER take the place of YOU and there will NEVER be someone like YOU in this world ever again.
Jealousy is quick to make someone feel worthless which inevitably makes them feel inferior to others.
Theres always going to be someone who makes more $$$ then you, drive a nicer car, more attractive, funnier, wittier, etc. BUT if we tend to focus our attitudes on this way of thinking, you might as well live in a cave your whole life because you will get NO WHERE with this attitude.
Im not trying to say here that someone can totally block jealousy out of their lives all together. what i am saying is that the next time you feel JEALOUSY trying to creep into your mind; Acknowledge it, realize what it is doing, and remember all your unique, special, and one of kindness. Whether you believe it or not, you are just as AUTHENTIC as the next person.
When you feel jealousy trying to overcome you in the future ask yourself this question, "WHY?" And then begin to reflect on your AUTHENTICITY and what you bring to the table. 9 times out of 10, you will knock that JEALOUS TENDENCY right out of your thought process and a total feeling of great self worth with overcome you.
good luck to all!
Joon
