Jealousy...I don't understand it...

[Fuglydude]

Hey all,

I'm 25 years old, and currently in my first serious relationship. Me and my gf were talking, and she basically stated that I was incapable of feeling jealous...This is kinda true, I don't really understand the concept of jealousy...Not to sound like an a-hole, but I'm pretty confident that my gf and girls in general will have a tough time digging up other guys who are better than me in terms of the combination of looks/physique, personality, intelligence/intellect, attitude, who will treat them as well as I will.

Case in point...my gf's a model, so she gets approached all the time...she got picked up at the walmart parking lot yesterday by some dude who just came and tapped her car window! They ended up goin for coffee. She was like "ya I didn't give him my number by he gave me his"...i was like "why didn't you give him your number?"...and I encouraged her to call him to hang out, even tho this dude stated blatantly that he wanted to date her!

My take is if there's a guy who's better than me then he DESERVES to get hotter girls, etc...so why should I feel jealousy...it just makes sense... As a rule, very attractive gorgeous, high quality women are EARNED... If anything dudes that are better than me inspire me to better myself, and I definitely do admire them.

I guess I'm wondering if this sort of attitude is normal...I'm not really sure if others on this board feel jealousy...like is it DJ characteristic to not feel jealousy?

 

[Vypros]

As a rule, very attractive gorgeous, high quality women are EARNED...

Why?

What does "earning" have anything to do with it? They are either attracted to you or they are not. If you are NOT attracting quality women it's because you are not a quality man. You then need to strive to be a quality man. Not to attract quality women, but because you want to be the best you can.

There is no "earning" hot gorgeous women, In fact, "hot gorgeous women", to me, are low status females because they have no personalities and they are all alike.

But the word "earning" should never come into your vocabulary when you talk about women. NEVER.

Other than that, I like your outlook on jealousy. Very secure viewpoint, and I am willing to bet that threw her off a bit when you said that.

 

[Teflon_Mcgee]

I know for a fact I am probably the best my girl can ever get. Sometimes I feel like she is under my league. I've dated serious hotties and she is at best just cute. I also get interest from hotter smarter girls at school.

I am the prize in the relationship. Should I ever feel jealous? no. Do I? All the time.

Not because I'm worried about her leaving me. She's the one that's worried about that. But because I know that as a woman with an outgoing personality, she can f^ck 90% of the guys she meets and I would never know about it.

So yeah, I get jealous when she meets guys.

 

[Fuglydude]

Vypros...another great post...Haha, ya she thinks i'm weird anyways, so its all good! By "earn" I simply mean trying to maximise your innate potential...I'd never get where I am today if I didn't try and better myself, and I know I'll continue to become better and better with time. Why would a hot girl want an average joe with game, when she could have a stallion with game, with a cool personality, who could explain the molecular basis of ischemia reperfusion injury and have all her friends talking about how lucky she is to have him?

Because of my work I've met alot of strippers, bartenders, etc...many of them have very cool personalities and are just fun/nice girls to hang out with. So I disagree with your point about hot women having crappy personalities. my gf is a model/miss hawaiian tropic contestant/ex-bartender, and there's no way I'd have committed to being exclusive with her if it wasn't for her personality and brains.

 

[John_Galt]

Stop demonstrating value on a f*ckin' forum, you f*ckin' ugly dude. You can make up all this hot model crap and how you're a big man, but we all know the women in Calgary are ugly.

 

[lookyoung]

I think everyone is jealous up to a certain point. If your GF fvcked this guy and left you for him, you would get jealous. Its human nature.

Call me jealous, call me insecure, but if my GF went out for a coffee with a guy she just met that tapped her window than I would not consider her long term material.

Why would a girl go out for coffee with a guy she just met. Sounds strange to me. A girl that displays this type of behavior is more likely to cheat. I sure as hell would not tolerate that behavior.

 

[Fuglydude]

I think everyone is jealous up to a certain point. If your GF fvcked this guy and left you for him, you would get jealous. Its human nature.

Call me jealous, call me insecure, but if my GF went out for a coffee with a guy she just met that tapped her window than I would not consider her long term material.

Why would a girl go out for coffee with a guy she just met. Sounds strange to me. A girl that displays this type of behavior is more likely to cheat. I sure as hell would not tolerate that behavior.

I definitely see where you're comin from here. But my gf has to go thru a lot to be with me. I'm an entertainer, and its a part of my job to have girls have their hands all over me...No girl likes seeing other girls hands all over their guy. Plus when you're on the road there's contstant temptation. I'm also VERY liberal when it comes to sex. I'd love to have a system set up where I could tap additional poonani on the side, and she could hook up w/ other dudes on the side, but she won't have any of it.

John Galt, you wanna come check out Calgary girls with me...hmmm i think we're at the roadhouse (In calgary) again for ladies night in 2 weeks...I swear they dont' let bad lookin people into that bar!

 

[DJDamage]

Not to sound like an a-hole, but I'm pretty confident that my gf and girls in general will have a tough time digging up other guys who are better than me in terms of the combination of looks/physique, personality, intelligence/intellect, attitude, who will treat them as well as I will.

A-hole? you sound like what a DJ's attitude should be, good job.

She was like "ya I didn't give him my number by he gave me his"...i was like "why didn't you give him your number?"...and I encouraged her to call him to hang out, even tho this dude stated blatantly that he wanted to date her!

I think your attitude is refreshing since you know your market value and thus you unknowingly passed her sh1t test by telling her she should hang out with him. However you have to ask yourself that question: why are you only with her if she allows herself to be picked up by strange men at a walmart parking lot?? There is a fine line between jealousy and indifference and if you are indifferent to her behaviour then you'r essentially giving her the green light to cheat on you. If you don't care about her cheating on you then why are you limited yourself to one girl??

 

[Fuglydude]

DJ Damage thanx for the props...to be quite honest...i don't understand why she's with me...we're very different in lotsa ways, and I dont' really see myself as long term material right now due to a number of factors.

As a rule, I do not let her dictate my actions...i associate with who I choose to. I have lotsa female friends, some of whom I've hooked up with, and many of whom I know wouldn't mind hookn up with me. I understand this is hard for her to deal with, yet she trusts me...so why can't I throw that trust right back at her?

 

[Juan_Man]

If you don't feel the tiniest bit of jealousy when you are with a girl, then chances are you aren't that into her.

However, just because it is okay to feel jealousy doesn't mean that it's okay to show or express it.

 

[Tha Realnezz]

I've rarley in my entire life have been jealous of anybody..over girls...maybe when I was 12.

I think it's an important part of being a player..not being a hater.I don't even comment on another guy on anything.

I notice AFC's qualify themselves alot against me and talk behind my back with stupid lil' comments.

I don't even give them the time of day.

 

[Nighthawk]

I don't do jealousy.