How do you guys deal with a girl that becomes jealous/controlling over your hobbies?
Lets say for example you spend a few hours a week with your hobbies. In my case, it's playing video games that makes my girl jealous. In fact, she has said to me that she is fighting for my attention with the computer. The xbox/computer is in the middle of our relationship. I really only spend about 6-8 hours a week playing games or reading about games. That really isn't a lot of time and sometimes I rarely get that much time in at all. It really isn't enough time for her to call it an addiction like she has.
At this point, things have come to an impasse. The other day I took a few extra days off for my vacation. That night I told her that there would be a few days when I would be at home and she would be at work. Personally, I was looking forward to this time and I planned to relax alone. Oddly enough, she wasn't too happy about that prospect and I couldn't figure out why.
When the time came I did exactly as I had planned and spent the entire day playing Skyrim. When I told her what I did, she became very upset with me and told me that I was addicted to the computer. Needless to say, I stayed calm and told her to relax. To make matters worse, I was sick that day with a cold, so obviously I had nothing better to do than to sit and do nothing. In one way I'm glad that I was sick because I'm sure that she would have jumped on me allot harder for not doing something else that she considered to be more productive. At this point, it's obvious to me that she is very controlling. :trouble:
What this girl can't fathom is that I'm perfectly happy being by myself and I don't need her to have a good time. At the same time I really don't want the added stress of her jealous and controlling behavior.
Thus far I have considered this behavior to be her problem and not mine. I don't let it bother me, but I really don't want to deal with the added stress/bull****.
What the best advice here? Should I tell her to suck it up even if she cries?
On this very topic, I've read several threads on the net about this issue and all of them have replies from women who claim that the guy isn't providing enough attention to her. In other words these women would advise that I pay the toll to enjoy my hobbies.
Lets say for example you spend a few hours a week with your hobbies. In my case, it's playing video games that makes my girl jealous. In fact, she has said to me that she is fighting for my attention with the computer. The xbox/computer is in the middle of our relationship. I really only spend about 6-8 hours a week playing games or reading about games. That really isn't a lot of time and sometimes I rarely get that much time in at all. It really isn't enough time for her to call it an addiction like she has.
At this point, things have come to an impasse. The other day I took a few extra days off for my vacation. That night I told her that there would be a few days when I would be at home and she would be at work. Personally, I was looking forward to this time and I planned to relax alone. Oddly enough, she wasn't too happy about that prospect and I couldn't figure out why.
When the time came I did exactly as I had planned and spent the entire day playing Skyrim. When I told her what I did, she became very upset with me and told me that I was addicted to the computer. Needless to say, I stayed calm and told her to relax. To make matters worse, I was sick that day with a cold, so obviously I had nothing better to do than to sit and do nothing. In one way I'm glad that I was sick because I'm sure that she would have jumped on me allot harder for not doing something else that she considered to be more productive. At this point, it's obvious to me that she is very controlling. :trouble:
What this girl can't fathom is that I'm perfectly happy being by myself and I don't need her to have a good time. At the same time I really don't want the added stress of her jealous and controlling behavior.
Thus far I have considered this behavior to be her problem and not mine. I don't let it bother me, but I really don't want to deal with the added stress/bull****.
What the best advice here? Should I tell her to suck it up even if she cries?
On this very topic, I've read several threads on the net about this issue and all of them have replies from women who claim that the guy isn't providing enough attention to her. In other words these women would advise that I pay the toll to enjoy my hobbies.
