Hello everyone! So here it goes. Currently I am in a relationship with a girl who has serious trust issues. She is a truly 'sensitive' girl who needs a lot of pampering and attention or else she gets sad. As far as I understand it she used to be in a very toxic relationship, before me, with a man who was notoriously unfaithful to her.
Yesterday we went out on the town with a few girlfriends of mine and among them there happened to be a girl that I used to have some history with, this I hadn't told my girlfriend. And she could sense from the start that something was awry. To make her feel at ease I demonstratively kissed her in front of the other just to make a statement. However, as the night went along I happened to sit at a corner table alone with my former flame, we had to shout to hear what each other was saying so my former flame said 'are we strangers now, come and sit next to me'. Almost immediately after I had sat down my girlfriend came to table seeing my former flame speaking to me close to my ear and her arm touching my shoulder.
I should add that I for the first time in my life had been trying drugs that night, MDMA, so I wasn't thinking clearly and my attention span was about zero. The atmosphere was just weird so I just left the table. Later I sat down at another table where a couple of other friends of mine were sitting, two girls came up to the table and one of them placed herself next to me really closely like. I admit that I was flirtatious, but only in a social kind of way. Is there any other way of speaking to women out on town?
Again my girlfriend came up the table, smashed her beer down at the table 'saying I am going home, you can just stay here, we are done'. for the rest of the night she was just crying and didn't let me console her. At one point she got dressed and said that she was leaving and wouldn't be coming back. I was tired so I remained lying in bed and told her 'please not to go'. Eventually she got back to bed saying 'You don't love me, you didn't even bother to get up and fight for me' etc etc.
The next morning I finally managed to kiss and make up. She was smiling and laughing and everything seemed to be good and nice. But then at one point she got silent and sad again. So brothers what should I do? Was I in the wrong here? Is this just a game on her part, guilt tripping me, consciously or unconsciously? Or do you think that she is genuinely disappointed and sad?
Yesterday we went out on the town with a few girlfriends of mine and among them there happened to be a girl that I used to have some history with, this I hadn't told my girlfriend. And she could sense from the start that something was awry. To make her feel at ease I demonstratively kissed her in front of the other just to make a statement. However, as the night went along I happened to sit at a corner table alone with my former flame, we had to shout to hear what each other was saying so my former flame said 'are we strangers now, come and sit next to me'. Almost immediately after I had sat down my girlfriend came to table seeing my former flame speaking to me close to my ear and her arm touching my shoulder.
I should add that I for the first time in my life had been trying drugs that night, MDMA, so I wasn't thinking clearly and my attention span was about zero. The atmosphere was just weird so I just left the table. Later I sat down at another table where a couple of other friends of mine were sitting, two girls came up to the table and one of them placed herself next to me really closely like. I admit that I was flirtatious, but only in a social kind of way. Is there any other way of speaking to women out on town?
Again my girlfriend came up the table, smashed her beer down at the table 'saying I am going home, you can just stay here, we are done'. for the rest of the night she was just crying and didn't let me console her. At one point she got dressed and said that she was leaving and wouldn't be coming back. I was tired so I remained lying in bed and told her 'please not to go'. Eventually she got back to bed saying 'You don't love me, you didn't even bother to get up and fight for me' etc etc.
The next morning I finally managed to kiss and make up. She was smiling and laughing and everything seemed to be good and nice. But then at one point she got silent and sad again. So brothers what should I do? Was I in the wrong here? Is this just a game on her part, guilt tripping me, consciously or unconsciously? Or do you think that she is genuinely disappointed and sad?
