The biggest problem with most advice from the seduction community is that it’s so longwinded and needlessly complicated. Therefore, I’m posting my most valuable lessons to date as a simplified tip sheet.
This is the result of all the hard work I've put into my development as a DJ and everything included here comes from personal experience and observations. Treat it as a guide to steer you clear of my failures and point you in the right direction. Putting it into effect is upto you and your efforts.
Self improvement
Self improvement is the surest path you can take to being successful with women, developing confidence and a better lifestyle. It takes time, sacrifice and dedication, but if you are willing to take this route, you will eventually experience the pay offs and be in a position to use it in whichever way you choose.
Just remember, it takes more than looks to be successful with women and self-improvement entails more than just getting in shape – it also involves developing social skills, gaining experience and working on a better way of life for yourself, a lot of which is covered below.
Trial and Error
Study as much seduction theory as you wish, but until you have seen it working, it is just theory so don’t expect miracles! You will hear/read many theories, lies and exaggerations, even from the “experts”, so never follow anything blindly. Get in the field and see for yourself whether it works or not! If it doesn’t, reevaluate it, adapt it or simply drop it and try something else. Learn from trial and error.
Strategies, techniques or lines merely act as a crutch - at some point you are going to have to walk on your own. The more you practise, the sooner you can do this!
Social Experience
Go out and mingle, spend time with friends and friends of friends, strike up conversations with people, get rejected, get numbers, make calls, arrange dates, arrange group meetings and nights out, and learn from your experiences. The more you practice, the more experience you will gain, and the more proficient your social skills will become and the more comfortable you will feel around people.
If you can’t get out for some reason or you currently feel too shy, it’s not a bad thing to chat to women on the internet. It’s risk free conversation practice and cyber-socialising is better than not socialising at all.
Learn to move on and let go
You will get rejected! You will get insulted or hurt! It’s unavoidable and happens to us all. Suck it up, don’t ask questions, don’t try to salvage any losses, explain yourself or repair any mistakes…just let it go! Embrace your failures as part of a learning process that will add to your development as a DJ. The more you fail, the wiser and stronger you will get!
A woman may come back to you for a second chance, she may not, but in all my experience and observations, she will only come back when she is ready and only once you have let go.
Get in shape
Your body can excite or repulse women, it’s your choice. Get in shape! Working out also keeps your mind focused and gives you purpose, while weightlifting increases testosterone, and can help you develop a bold, masculine and confident state of mind.
Women have free will
Women can think for themselves, and the idea that you can control their minds with your words and actions is a lie! Not even hypnotists can control people without their consent and co-operation. So stop trying to control, persuade and convince women and learn to accept their free will and work with them. A woman should be with you because she wants to, not because she feels obliged or because you talked her into it.
Improve your appearance
People do judge on appearances, so think of the statement you wish to convey. Men who look after themselves are men who respect themselves, so always dress and groom well!
Look after your skin, teeth, nails and hygiene. It’s time and money well spent, because looking good will make you feel good, and will also earn you respect from others. Get some opinions, take some tips from the male models in catalogues and the male pin ups that make women drool. Do not be afraid to take a few fashion risks and ignore those who think taking care of yourself is for gays only.
Eat healthy
Your diet is essential to looking good and feeling good. Not only does a nutritious diet improve your body, but also your skin complexion, mental functions, health and your moods.
Overcome your fears
Free yourself of fear. If you’re shy, scared to socialise, scared of rejection, afraid to flirt or go for that first kiss, you MUST eventually overcome this if you ever hope to be successful with women, and you know it! Whatever the consequences, billions of people have suffered it before you and worse than you, and not only survived, but emerged stronger for it. Also, try to consider the consequences of NOT acting! These are often worse! If it takes baby steps to overcome it, then take baby steps, but never retreat from your fears!
Chill out
Don’t take yourself too seriously. Learn to laugh at yourself and shrug your shoulders at life’s trials. Sh!t happens and no amount of analysing or worrying is going to change it. It will only prolong it, so why bother? Go watch the Simpsons or something instead. Maybe you fvck up a few times. We all do! At least you’ll know better next time.
Slow down and stand tall
Slow down and take everything at your own pace. Rushing causes people to make mistakes, speeds up their heart rate, their breathing rate and increases anxiety.
Your posture is very important to how you are perceived by others. A man who hunches his shoulders and holds his head down is perceived as scared, weak and insecure, while a man who stands tall, holds his head high is perceived as strong and confident. More importantly, your posture has a subconscious effect on how you feel.
Learn to appreciate your value
You are the most important person in this entire world! This is your one shot at life, don’t throw it away! Respect yourself and never sell yourself short! Don’t let people walk over you. If people don’t show you the respect that you wish to receive or drag you down, ditch them! It’s better in the long term.
Set standards and stick to them. Never settle for anything less than you deserve.
Get a life
Women are a nice addition to any guy’s life, but they are not essential to it. Find something you enjoy doing and do it. Get a hobby, start a project, seek to achieve some goals. Basically, occupy your mind with enjoyable activities. This way, if you experience a bad period with women, you’re not going to be sitting around dwelling on it, calling her up and making a nuisance of yourself.
Be a man
No, I do not mean a neanderthal, a controlling chauvinist or a lecherous pervert. What I mean is that you must embrace your masculinity. Don’t be shy of flirting and (tactfully) expressing your desires. Women have sexual and emotional desires too and seek men who can fulfill them.
Women also like a man who makes them feel safe, who will take the lead, and who they can look upto. Women don’t want a wimp, an ass kisser, a sucker or indeed anyone who doesn’t respect himself. NEVER play for sympathy, run yourself down, show weakness or whine to her about your problems!
Be cool
Take everything one step at a time, hold no expectations and keep a healthy degree of emotional detachment. Avoid throwing yourself at women, pestering them and craving their attention. Avoid throwing tantrums or getting mad at her when she lets you down, and learn to contain your frustration and anger.
Don’t get involved in their drama, guilt trips or attention seeking. Women often create drama to manipulate guys, then disrespect them for being under their control, so walk away from it and show her that you are the one with the power and give attention on your terms.
Know when to exercise indifference
Similar to the above, if a woman disrespects you, disappoints you, plays games with you or starts showing low interest, respond with indifference. Anger, jealousy, frustration and desperation are all responses that will feed a woman’s ego and give her some degree of power over you. Indifference shows that they cannot control you or take you for granted and places the power back in your hands.
People value most what they fear losing or cannot have. Giving her a taste of loss can give her chance to appreciate your value and teach her not to pull any little stunts on you.
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This is the result of all the hard work I've put into my development as a DJ and everything included here comes from personal experience and observations. Treat it as a guide to steer you clear of my failures and point you in the right direction. Putting it into effect is upto you and your efforts.
Self improvement
Self improvement is the surest path you can take to being successful with women, developing confidence and a better lifestyle. It takes time, sacrifice and dedication, but if you are willing to take this route, you will eventually experience the pay offs and be in a position to use it in whichever way you choose.
Just remember, it takes more than looks to be successful with women and self-improvement entails more than just getting in shape – it also involves developing social skills, gaining experience and working on a better way of life for yourself, a lot of which is covered below.
Trial and Error
Study as much seduction theory as you wish, but until you have seen it working, it is just theory so don’t expect miracles! You will hear/read many theories, lies and exaggerations, even from the “experts”, so never follow anything blindly. Get in the field and see for yourself whether it works or not! If it doesn’t, reevaluate it, adapt it or simply drop it and try something else. Learn from trial and error.
Strategies, techniques or lines merely act as a crutch - at some point you are going to have to walk on your own. The more you practise, the sooner you can do this!
Social Experience
Go out and mingle, spend time with friends and friends of friends, strike up conversations with people, get rejected, get numbers, make calls, arrange dates, arrange group meetings and nights out, and learn from your experiences. The more you practice, the more experience you will gain, and the more proficient your social skills will become and the more comfortable you will feel around people.
If you can’t get out for some reason or you currently feel too shy, it’s not a bad thing to chat to women on the internet. It’s risk free conversation practice and cyber-socialising is better than not socialising at all.
Learn to move on and let go
You will get rejected! You will get insulted or hurt! It’s unavoidable and happens to us all. Suck it up, don’t ask questions, don’t try to salvage any losses, explain yourself or repair any mistakes…just let it go! Embrace your failures as part of a learning process that will add to your development as a DJ. The more you fail, the wiser and stronger you will get!
A woman may come back to you for a second chance, she may not, but in all my experience and observations, she will only come back when she is ready and only once you have let go.
Get in shape
Your body can excite or repulse women, it’s your choice. Get in shape! Working out also keeps your mind focused and gives you purpose, while weightlifting increases testosterone, and can help you develop a bold, masculine and confident state of mind.
Women have free will
Women can think for themselves, and the idea that you can control their minds with your words and actions is a lie! Not even hypnotists can control people without their consent and co-operation. So stop trying to control, persuade and convince women and learn to accept their free will and work with them. A woman should be with you because she wants to, not because she feels obliged or because you talked her into it.
Improve your appearance
People do judge on appearances, so think of the statement you wish to convey. Men who look after themselves are men who respect themselves, so always dress and groom well!
Look after your skin, teeth, nails and hygiene. It’s time and money well spent, because looking good will make you feel good, and will also earn you respect from others. Get some opinions, take some tips from the male models in catalogues and the male pin ups that make women drool. Do not be afraid to take a few fashion risks and ignore those who think taking care of yourself is for gays only.
Eat healthy
Your diet is essential to looking good and feeling good. Not only does a nutritious diet improve your body, but also your skin complexion, mental functions, health and your moods.
Overcome your fears
Free yourself of fear. If you’re shy, scared to socialise, scared of rejection, afraid to flirt or go for that first kiss, you MUST eventually overcome this if you ever hope to be successful with women, and you know it! Whatever the consequences, billions of people have suffered it before you and worse than you, and not only survived, but emerged stronger for it. Also, try to consider the consequences of NOT acting! These are often worse! If it takes baby steps to overcome it, then take baby steps, but never retreat from your fears!
Chill out
Don’t take yourself too seriously. Learn to laugh at yourself and shrug your shoulders at life’s trials. Sh!t happens and no amount of analysing or worrying is going to change it. It will only prolong it, so why bother? Go watch the Simpsons or something instead. Maybe you fvck up a few times. We all do! At least you’ll know better next time.
Slow down and stand tall
Slow down and take everything at your own pace. Rushing causes people to make mistakes, speeds up their heart rate, their breathing rate and increases anxiety.
Your posture is very important to how you are perceived by others. A man who hunches his shoulders and holds his head down is perceived as scared, weak and insecure, while a man who stands tall, holds his head high is perceived as strong and confident. More importantly, your posture has a subconscious effect on how you feel.
Learn to appreciate your value
You are the most important person in this entire world! This is your one shot at life, don’t throw it away! Respect yourself and never sell yourself short! Don’t let people walk over you. If people don’t show you the respect that you wish to receive or drag you down, ditch them! It’s better in the long term.
Set standards and stick to them. Never settle for anything less than you deserve.
Get a life
Women are a nice addition to any guy’s life, but they are not essential to it. Find something you enjoy doing and do it. Get a hobby, start a project, seek to achieve some goals. Basically, occupy your mind with enjoyable activities. This way, if you experience a bad period with women, you’re not going to be sitting around dwelling on it, calling her up and making a nuisance of yourself.
Be a man
No, I do not mean a neanderthal, a controlling chauvinist or a lecherous pervert. What I mean is that you must embrace your masculinity. Don’t be shy of flirting and (tactfully) expressing your desires. Women have sexual and emotional desires too and seek men who can fulfill them.
Women also like a man who makes them feel safe, who will take the lead, and who they can look upto. Women don’t want a wimp, an ass kisser, a sucker or indeed anyone who doesn’t respect himself. NEVER play for sympathy, run yourself down, show weakness or whine to her about your problems!
Be cool
Take everything one step at a time, hold no expectations and keep a healthy degree of emotional detachment. Avoid throwing yourself at women, pestering them and craving their attention. Avoid throwing tantrums or getting mad at her when she lets you down, and learn to contain your frustration and anger.
Don’t get involved in their drama, guilt trips or attention seeking. Women often create drama to manipulate guys, then disrespect them for being under their control, so walk away from it and show her that you are the one with the power and give attention on your terms.
Know when to exercise indifference
Similar to the above, if a woman disrespects you, disappoints you, plays games with you or starts showing low interest, respond with indifference. Anger, jealousy, frustration and desperation are all responses that will feed a woman’s ego and give her some degree of power over you. Indifference shows that they cannot control you or take you for granted and places the power back in your hands.
People value most what they fear losing or cannot have. Giving her a taste of loss can give her chance to appreciate your value and teach her not to pull any little stunts on you.
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