Hey guys. Sorry it took me so long to jump in here, but I've been busy with my buddy's wedding and such. Also, I've been sarging with SexPDX every night, and haven't got much sleep.
Anyways, I highly recommend hooking up with a fellow PUA. I've learned a TON of new concepts over the last few days.
I agree with PDX in that his style complemented mine. He is VERY aware of his surroundings, and able to use funny observations to come up with quick openers on the fly. He also has this strange laid back appeal and I also agree with him that one of his strengths is in 1 on 1 conversation. I on the other hand usually say the same shyt from girl to girl and rely more on their initial attraction to me to score.
Here are some random observations of mine from this weekend:
The Sketchbook
I actually am an artist and have done figure drawing for years. The main reason I bring my sketchbook around is to draw. I brought it out the day I met PDX
(a) to draw people in the bar in case he was late and
(b) to write down girl's numbers in because I lost my cell phone on the flight over.
And yes, I also to a lesser degree kept it around as a prop. For the record, I have never had a PU happen based solely on me drawing people. Most of the women that approach me when I'm drawing are older and unattractive. Young bytches have no appreciation for art or give a shyt about it. Most young girls only see art as a way to validate themselves by having a guy draw them. I've only drawn two girls on an intimate level and those I'd already fvcked.
Things I learned:
1. If you and your wing sarge a solo target (the yankee cap girl), As soon as rapport is gained and the wing has become a form of social proof, the one who's feeling less of a vibe should eject.
For instance, when Nick approached the Yankee girl, after a few moments, I should have ejected with something like, "PDX, I'll be right back. I'm going to grab a coffee across the street." Then I could leave him alone with the target so he could # close. I felt he could have with that girl had I not been around.
2. Be aware of your surroundings. Several times there were very interesting things going on in our environments that were great for openers (city bicycle race, tons of cops buzzing around, ghetto P.O.S. Geo Metro blasting cheezy hip hop in a rich neighborhood) but I failed to recognize them as openers. Fortunately PDX was there to notice them for me.
3. Always close. I mentally talked myself out of several close attempts for various reasons (she seemed to have low IL) but I realize that coming up with a smooth confident close is as important as a smooth opener, and something I need practice at.
4.
The engagement present approach
This worked so well for me I almost don't want to post it. The day before I sarged with PDX, I went to the neighborhood (a posh area where hot ass girls shop) and scoped things out. My favorite place was Urban Outfitters.
What I did was wander around the girl's section of the store and approach targets with, "Excuse me. I was wondering if I could get a FEMALE opinion on something. My buddy's getting married soon and I got him a personal gift. Now I'm thinking of getting his fiance something small and personal, but something she'll love. What would YOU suggest?"
Most are happy to get a chance to share their opinions on gifts and style with you. Eventually they ask, "What kind of a girl is she? What does she look like?" I reply, "Well, she definately has a style similar to yours. She actually looks similar to you, except she's a little bit taller." Did anybody catch my neg hit?
From there you can talk to her about fashion, her taste in style, where she's from, what she does for fun, etc.
I approached several girls in a couple stores with this. I was never rejected or rudely turned away. I number closed on a three college girl roommate group.
The Go-Go girl
We went to this ghetto-ish dance bar and I jumped onto the floor immediatly because they were playing great music. I approached HB9 and got turned down immediately (she gave me the "talk to the hand"). But HB9's friend, HB8 had her back turned to me and stepped on my toe. I said, "Hey! Watch where you're dancing!" in a joking tone. She turned to me and apologized, "Oh! I'm so sorry!" and put her hands on me and it was on. (later she turned out to be a semi-professional dancer, so it was more of a neg hit than I thought)
I set myself apart from the ass grabbing thugs in the place. I pulled her to me gently until our pelvises were touching and grinded on her very gently, running my hands up and down her sides and lower back.
She tried to see if she could make me lose control by turning and grinding her ass on my c0ck, but I remained in complete control and continued to gently tease her by running my hands up and down her sides, thighs, and around her stomach. I only grabbed her firmly on the arm a couple times to turn her towards me or away from me. I also hovered my mouth near her neck and breathed on her.
Finally, she said she was going to see her friends and that she'd had a great time dancing with me. She told me I was different from the other guys in the place and that she loved my moves.
I said, "I'm taking you out into the city sometime soon. Give me your number." The look on her face was priceless. She was shocked, but impressed.
She said, "Why don't you give me yours?" I ignored that comment and pulled out my cell (I had bought a replacement for my lost one). She punched in her number. Then she said, "I'm Go-Go dancing at Cobalt Lounge tomorrow night. I do it every sunday. You should come down and see me dance!"
I said, "I would love to, but I already have plans to hang out with my family that night.(which was true) But I'll take you out Monday night."
She said, "Ok! I understand about the family thing. Family is very important. I understand that."
I danced with her briefly once more over the night, but she failed to say goodbye to me before leaving. I get the feeling HB9 c0ckblocked me and told her about my C&B earlier in the night. No big deal. Bytches come and go.
Jake
[This message has been edited by Jake Steed (edited 09-02-2002).]