ive tried everything. I just cant get a gf!!

[scorpion666]

Yep title says it all. Im getting to a stage where im becoming severly depressed from loneliness. Im 22 and have only had sex once in my life and have been dating since i was 18 and have no luck whatsoever. I actually dont know what im doing wrong thats the problem. I work, im very friendly and attractive, lots of girls have told me, im confident, i am straight edge but i dont see why i have to change that to get a chick and all i seem to get are girls who think im "amazing and great" but just dont consider me as boyfriend material..

Ive pretty much tried everything, dating sites, going out but i still keep attracting the same types of girls who will ditch me if someone else better comes along. Mind you these chicks are not 9 or 10s, theyre average looking and theyre age group are around 17-20 and im still getting turned down!! And the ones that do end up wanting me i usually dont like them in that way.

Im starting to think maybe its my personality or something? Please dont say its all about confidence because i know that and feel like im being confident around them and no i dont care what people think about me so its not that either. Ive read books, your articles, you name it ive read it and im still getting the same results. I have a mission for you all, try and figure out what im doing wrong because i cant for the life of me think what the problem is!!! D:

 

[Amazing]

Too desperate?

Do you tell them you want to hang out too soon, call them often? make plans too soon?

 

[scorpion666]

yes i have, but they usually make up their minds about me after the first date....or they will continue to see me untill they meet someone better then me and i dont hear from them ever again.

 

[CarlitosWay]

Yep title says it all. Im getting to a stage where im becoming severly depressed from loneliness. Im 22 and have only had sex once in my life and have been dating since i was 18 and have no luck whatsoever. I actually dont know what im doing wrong thats the problem. I work, im very friendly and attractive, lots of girls have told me, im confident, i am straight edge but i dont see why i have to change that to get a chick and all i seem to get are girls who think im "amazing and great" but just dont consider me as boyfriend material..

Hmmm....maybe tooooo friendly at times perhaps? If you let women acknowledge through your actions you're not a push over, it's a great thing. Plus letting them know some way some how from the get go, you're looking for something other then a friendship it saves you lots of time not having to deal with some bull****.

For example two days ago I got a cute black chics number after building a quick rapport with her and having her laugh her ass off. I told her I thought she was cool and straight up told her "I'm going to get your number right now" and we exchanged numbers. Told her "we'll definitely hang out some time" and before finishing the convo I said with confidence "Just to warn you I'm kind of trouble" with some laughing. She loved this.

You know what happened she ends up texting me a few days later cause I was to busy with my life, weight training, watching movies with my little sis, studying and what not and it was cause I was on her mind! It wasn't me who was sitting anxiously by the phone every night. Yes a part of me wished she called but at the same time "I didn't care either way".

I straight up told her to in a nice way what I wanted, cause she was wondering about my "intentions" I told her I'm not looking for anything overly serious, just a nice relationship, going out having some fun and taking it slow. She responded with that's "perfect". Cause you have to remember you're young and the chics you're talking to are young. Most don't want a serious relationship at all. Of course if you start something you can later turn it into something greater if you wish and if you play your cards right.

Face it though most young girls will go through a few relationships/flings. So lay it on em slow but don't be boring/mediocre. It's like a balancing act of remaining cool collected but at the same being unpredictable, exciting, outgoing, fun and not a pushover!


Ive pretty much tried everything, dating sites, going out but i still keep attracting the same types of girls who will ditch me if someone else better comes along. Mind you these chicks are not 9 or 10s, theyre average looking and theyre age group are around 17-20 and im still getting turned down!! And the ones that do end up wanting me i usually dont like them in that way.

Like I mentioned I bet with the ones you don't really like that. You're probably acting busy on purpose (even if you're not) avoiding their advances. Yet just giving them a little attention. **** like this drives a lot of women wild. Then you wonder why they end up wanting you? lol

Im starting to think maybe its my personality or something? Please dont say its all about confidence because i know that and feel like im being confident around them and no i dont care what people think about me so its not that either. Ive read books, your articles, you name it ive read it and im still getting the same results. I have a mission for you all, try and figure out what im doing wrong because i cant for the life of me think what the problem is!!! D:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/images/kirsch/editor/smilie.gif

My question is what's going on in your life ? Do you have a purpose? Goals/passions you're working to?

Can you gladly say every morning. I'm going to do this or that to better myself whether physically/mentally.

The guys I know who are landing girlfriends (some far from being very handsome). They're go getters! Even if they don't have a bad ass car or career yet. They're all forever improving some how. Learn to love every ****in' person in your life until they give you a major reason not to. (Ever meet that cool fun loving guy who just seems to get along with everyone? Be that guy!)

Try getting a new wardrobe, new haircut. When you look in the mirror and think damn you look like a handsome sexual man, you feel awesome. It's a powerful thing.

 

[Rescue Mission]

The problem IS NOT that you don't have a girlfriend.

The problem is that you do not have any sex with chicks.

Trust me, it is the dumbest idea ever for an inexperienced guy to JUMP into a meaningless relationship with some random useless "girlfriend" - that is not what you need to be aiming for!

what you REALLY need is some easy party girls to have fun with

EDIT: Basically, what I am saying is that your whole mindset is wrong for wanting to get committed out of thin air to some wh0re, when what you really should be doing is partying, having fun, and getting some azz - be more laid back and easy going

 

[scorpion666]

hey thanks for the reply!

yes i am friendly to them but i do let them know im not a pushover! eg: one chick that i was seeing who was totally into me, decided after 2 weeks that we werent "compatible" and she completely ignored me and went with some other dude? i got upset at her and told her she didnt give me a fair go and i didnt deserve to be cut off without explaination like that esp when she could "See us together" . Didnt change how she felt about me though...

Yes i do have hobbies, i like drawing and playing musical instruments and chilling with my friends...and i do tell them what im after at start and its usually all ok with them and they can be totally into me an then drop me when they get better offers....

 

[Gears of Led Zep]

Mind you these chicks are not 9 or 10s, theyre average looking and theyre age group are around 17-20 and im still getting turned down!! And the ones that do end up wanting me i usually dont like them in that way.

D:

That may be part of the problem dude since the hottest girls are the most likely to F%#! your brains out, than the 'average' looking ones.

I'm no expert or anything so the other sage advice here would be better to listen to, but from waht I read in your post it seems like your goal is just GEAT A GF which isnt the right way to go about it. Your questioning your personality in crap so your stressing way to much about this.....getting a girl isnt the ultimate goal, the goals to be a better person and after that, people will be naturally attracted to you...


so yea bro just calm down a little. My two lincolns!!!!best of luck

 

[vagrant]

You're 22. You don't need a girlfriend. I came from a 3 year relationship where I got so much p*ssy. Everytime after s e x, I'm thinking, s e x is good, but I need to do something more with my life.

Right now, I don't even care if the girl wants to sleep with me, or if she wants to be my girl, I don't want any relationship period. If we make out cool. If we have s e x, fine. Relationship? I'm sorry but not right now. I hate it because I'm meeting A LOT of women who have great potential but like I said, I came from a 3 year relationship and where is it at now? Somehow I lost trust with these young girls. Not right now. Bro, just have fun man.

These young chicks are different from your grandma. The minute they find someone better it's close to the 4th quarter being over man. I'm telling you, they get bored no matter how exciting you are for once. Plus, you don't want to be breaking girls heart. I know I can't be in a relationship right now period. I let them know and hey it is what it is.

Once I meet someone who actually cares for me that I actually care for then hey, that's it. She's the one. Right now, all the girls I meet, forget about it.

I'm young, you're young. What's the f*ckin rush bro. This is your time to shine. Go after your dream. Do you even own a car? Sh*t, did you really live your life? If I were to shoot your a s s right now, did you really f*ckin had the time of your life?

If you tell me that once you get a girl then yes you've lived your life then I ought to get a shotgun and point it at your skull. Yup, you better think about that one more time!

 

[scorpion666]

thanks for everyones advice

Its just discouraging that ive been in the dating game since i was 18 and still to this day i cant seem to pull a decent chick whose enthusiastic about me enough and when i do think things are going well with someone i actually do like im always sadly mistaken because next day i will probs get ditched for someone else...or they'll make up their minds that "im not the one"..It makes me feel like its me or something...

And yes i would like sex from them also but i dont know how to put the hints out to them about it without seeming like im just "after sex"

 

[garruk]

You're 22. You don't need a girlfriend. I came from a 3 year relationship where I got so much p*ssy. Everytime after s e x, I'm thinking, s e x is good, but I need to do something more with my life.

Right now, I don't even care if the girl wants to sleep with me, or if she wants to be my girl, I don't want any relationship period. If we make out cool. If we have s e x, fine. Relationship? I'm sorry but not right now. I hate it because I'm meeting A LOT of women who have great potential but like I said, I came from a 3 year relationship and where is it at now? Somehow I lost trust with these young girls. Not right now. Bro, just have fun man.

These young chicks are different from your grandma. The minute they find someone better it's close to the 4th quarter being over man. I'm telling you, they get bored no matter how exciting you are for once. Plus, you don't want to be breaking girls heart. I know I can't be in a relationship right now period. I let them know and hey it is what it is.

Once I meet someone who actually cares for me that I actually care for then hey, that's it. She's the one. Right now, all the girls I meet, forget about it.

I'm young, you're young. What's the f*ckin rush bro. This is your time to shine. Go after your dream. Do you even own a car? Sh*t, did you really live your life? If I were to shoot your a s s right now, did you really f*ckin had the time of your life?

If you tell me that once you get a girl then yes you've lived your life then I ought to get a shotgun and point it at your skull. Yup, you better think about that one more time!

hey this is a really inspirational post. i feel as though im in the same boat as the OP. in high school, i got alot of girls (for a high schooler), two "serious" girlfriends, a few flings, and i knew alot of girls who wanted me. it went to my head and in junior college my standards got too high and i sotpped going to the gym, stopped doing things really, because i wasnt getting girls and i still acted too highly with myself. now that im in a 4 year, i feel as though im a little behind with my peers, im not completely inexperienced but im certainly behind. Ive ****ed one high school gf, and a random girl in jc.

lately ive been letting my lack of a gf get to me, but i realize that i shouldnt be thinking about it, and i should just live my life.

thanks boss.

 

[AlmostThere!]

It's so annoying when a guy says stop worrying about girls when he's in a LTR or was in a LTR and got his **** wet on a regular basis.

 

[Rampage1]

Go out and get a better social life. Go out to more parties and hit on girls more. If you hit on enough girls frequently enough you will not only get better at it but increase your chances at getting some action too.