I've sort of been dumped, got to move on. need advice and help Please :(

[Fingerling]

Hello everyone, I’m new to this but I read the No Contact challenge which made me feel better.

Need some help please DJ’S I would love some help/advice right now. I’m 26 from the UK, she was 21

I’ll give you all a little background reading, so I ask for you to be patent and please give me some support

Was going out with a girl for 2 ½ years she was so smitten and constantly telling me what a future we will have bah blah (my brothers mate actually said that she looks like she would have eaten my s**t) When the other week she said she wants a break so I go along with (baffled though as it came out of the blue for me).
4 days later I just sent a polite text saying how are you, she called and said
“I was going to call you I really miss you an love you”
to which I replied “same here but carry on with your break and clear you head”

I did see her the next day for 1 hour or so and it was like normal again, the way we where talking etc.
I left her alone and didn’t hear anything for another 4 days.

I ended up going on facebook and seeing a lot of messages from this one guy…..nothing too bad but you know when you have a bad feeling. So rang her up and said whats going on. She said it’s an old friend and they where just talking….hmmm anyway we decided to do something on the Sunday (we are now at Wednesday) but don’t speak till then.
So Saturday arrives and I get a text saying how are you what are we doing tomorrow. So I said I thought the zoo (yeah, the zoo lol) would be a laugh and maybe after that watch a film in mine. She said yeah ok cool.
10 min later comes a text saying “I don’t want you to get your hopes up about tomorrow but I think I still want to be alone/single”
as you can probably guess I’m confused and a little shocked. The point of going out was to sort it out so I thought. She rang me up for half an hour going in circles she basically said I had the chances to propose but I didn’t (?????) and if I did this wouldn’t have happened (is she a bit crazy?) then said she wants to be single and she if she fancies other guys or realises she still loves me like she used to but at the moment she doesn’t and she still wants a break. STILL AWAKE EVERYONE?

Sooooooooo i sent a text in the heat of the moment saying I love her and I still want to be with her etc etc just so I can look back and say, well I did try……….i didn’t get a reply. So thought F this went home (she doesn’t live with me but stays a lot) packed up all her clothes and bits dropped them off because I knew she was out. Had to go back in the morning cause I had another car full. Her car was there so knocked her mum answered I slung it in her house and went before I could see her and vice versa.

Few hours later I got a text saying “thanks for bringing my stuff you didn’t have to”. To which I replied “I know I didn’t but I can’t move on with your stuff here. Take care of yourself” she said “I understand take care of yourself to x”

I thought I would have got a bit more than that. Anyway I’m getting on with things no contact (2 full days without contact, this is day 3) for my sake (deleted phone numbers, emails, facebook, not going to turn up at the same club we used to go to) to move on not for her to come running back. But I still want her to text me even though I know she won’t, just so I know she’s thinking about me.

Anyone got any thoughts on what’s going through her mind. We have the same group of mates but to get over this I’m happy not too see them as I can’t bare to here “oh yeah you seen ***** new fella” and so on. I just have to move on.

Sorry it’s a long post but don’t really have mates that have been through this experience so I need people who can give me advice. I was not a coward or backed down too much in the relationship and I did treat her very well, mentally and taking her out and stuff. But also got her jealous to keep her interested.

Thanks for reading and hope you guys have some good input.

PS she has a mate who is quite attractive but comes out thinking she’s the queen bee…you know the kind, full of make (sometimes looks like a drag queen) up hasn’t got much money but thinks she does. She has been dumped quite a few times and they are hanging out more now. I think she has been planting seeds in her head so she has someone to go out with of a weekend.

 

[CrazyandLazy]

You don't need to get rid of everything that reminds you of her. It's time consuming. Just toughen up and talk it out with friends or better, talk with a hot female friend if you have one.

 

[Cure]

Sounds like a fairly typical breakup senario, though obviously it wont seem like it to you.
The whole "well you should have proposed" is bollocks. 2.5 years with no proposal, youve dont nothing wrong at all, its just excuses on her part.

Talk it through with mates, the one thing you must NOT do is stop seeing your mutual friends. sounds like you've lost her but dont let her take anything else away from you.

Best thing is you've come to the right place to learn how to get many hotter women, best way to get over someone is get under someone else and all that. If shes gonna flaunt another guy, you are a man, and thus have the capacity to do it a lot better without being called a slut.

start here.
http://www.jbspencer.com/djb

good luck mate,

 

[Fingerling]

Cheers for the input guys. I'll take a look at that site
it does look like some other lads been trying it on though don't u agree? An made her think o I can get loads of lads. As with every new relationship the honeymoon period doesn't last that long.
I'll keep the mutual lad mates but not the girls they are insensitive so prob just come out with stuff that will make me feel worse.


Now where's the links to Chat up women got no issues on approaching thenm just dunno what to say.
Anyone elses input is more than welcome

 

[Mofongo]

What has worked for me in the past is to go and meet other females and try not to think about her. Don't stop talking to mutual friends even if they are females. Think of this as a new start and learn and apply the things that you learn here. By not talking to the female friends that you both have, you are behaving in a childish way and basically giving up and showing fear. Improve yourself so you are happy with yourself and the female friends will notice this and it will get back to her. I'm not saying that you should go after her friends but show that you are not a wimp and are not scared. Hopefully as soon as you start looking for other females you will forget about her. It has worked for me before, I hope it works for you.

 

[Unbridled_Phoenix]

Actually, you should bang those female friends. As Bible Belt sais, "She'll blame herself."

 

[trv26]

Agree with unbridled phoenix. There's a chance one(or more if you're lucky) of the mutual female friends had a crush on you, so definitely keep in contact, unless of course they try to give you ****.

 

[Fingerling]

Lol I like it. Cheers guys. That break post was great I wish I came here a week early then I wouldn't of sent a message saying I want to be with her. But 2 hours after I sent it I dropped her stuff off an dropped off the face of the earth.Do I still look pathetic for my I still want you back outburst. I want her to think " why hasn't he contacted me " rather than " thank god he's not pestering me anymore"

No contact at all for the first day it was hard but day 3 an I'm looking forward to chatting up some new ladies.

Thanks guys for the inspiration keep them coming it's really helping me

 

[robinincarolina]

Bet she will get banged b4 you do, women always do, you just don't know it.

 

[Fingerling]

i would normally agree. but she said break on wednesday so i got a chick back on the friday. then a week of break and i've taken it as me being single now, so roll on the weekend.

unless she was doing a bit of banging while we where together lol

 

[youbaby11]

man i know it hurts dood i feel your pain