I've blamed my poor success with women on my looks

[RickRoll]

This should be my first post/thread.

Up til now I have blamed my poor success with women on my looks. What do I mean by "looks"? I mean I have an awkwardly large nose and ears that protrude like dumbos. I'm also too skinny but I'm working on that.

I'd like to think I have a good head on my shoulders, pretty confident, kind, funny (to a point where I look like a goon err not alpha maleish i dunno).

Basically I come here to ask "Is there hope for me?" despite my poor blessing of genetics? If truly, am I in fact "ugly (not physically attractive)" and is there nothing I can do about it? If true I will continue to live my life as I have and be happy but man I really want to get laid now.

Success with women is not limited to looks, that I acknowledge, but this one facet of attraction, this lingering question of mine is stopping me from evolving as a person.

I really want to here what you guys think. Any input, even brutally mean, I wanna hear because I want the truth. I am truly banking on the anonymity of the internet.

Pics :

http://i38.tinypic.com/hvscj9.jpg
http://i34.tinypic.com/mvrk2c.jpg
http://i38.tinypic.com/s6ppwz.jpg

 

[RickRoll]

Anyone?

 

[TheWayOfAllFlesh]

We've been rickrolled

 

[Solomon]

Dawg you look like a ligther version of my man Mos (DEF)

http://thm-a01.yimg.com/image/c997a3316fe3e3f4



NO homo you ain't that bad looking of a dude, and you got a nice smile, yeah you might have to bulk up (*looks at my belly*) but who am i to talk?

Personally I think when you got your type of body, "Layers" will fit on you well. you know a shirt like you got on then a sweater, or a shirt, button up, and a blazer, if I was that skinny again man I'd be killing it out that 10 TIMES AS MUCH!

Get your swagga up mayn, that's it, change your mind, I'm the biggest i've ever been in my life and I still do pretty decent

peace

 

[Jitterbug]

You might've been sniffing the fruits from the ugly tree too much to get that big nose but certainly you did not fall from it, hitting all the branches on the way down.

You'll look fine if you bulk up a little and dress better.

I've seen some real ugly mofos get laid by hotties. Like "damn this sob is ugly, my eyes hurt" followed shortly by "holy fvck he's with HER????"

 

[Nexus Polaris]

The first thing that jumps out at me in those pictures as being unattractive is not your looks. It's your body language. You carry yourself like I used to. Not exactly exuding a lot of confidence. You look like if somebody were to come up and push you, you would probably lose your balance pretty easily.

That's one thing I noticed about confident body language among alpha types when I was still in the learning phase. They always had a really solid center of gravity. Their weight was always evenly distributed on both legs which anchored them firmly and made pushing them like running into a wall. And some of these guys weren't even all that big. Once I realized this and later got into some martial arts classes and got used to more evenly distributing my own weight, I started standing like them naturally without even thinking about it.

 

[domingo_mandingo]

There are some ugly mofos out there who still pull in some fine @ss. For Women, personality means a lot more than looks. Remember that everyone looks good when they smile (providing they have teeth).

 

[Just a Shot Away]

You look fine, dude. Just gotta find the style that suits you. And in the first pic you have your arm around a hotter chick than I ever have, and I'm probably a good 10 years older than you. Your lack of success has nothing to do with your looks. Keep looking, heh.

 

[Giles]

yeah I think if I looked like you I might could pull more than I do as me.

 

[Acq]

Playing women is like playing poker, you dont play the cards, you play the person. You dont have to look at ur cards to win MANY small pots, you can simply win them by seeing the players play and their reactions.

Sometimes you do need good cards if you want to win a HUGE pot though, in that case your looks may matter, I would gain weight if I were you, and try to pick up women who are into men with more skin pegment than an average white guy.

 

[Groovy]

I don't think you look bad...

 

[RickRoll]

Thanks everyone for the kind words. This definitely helps.

I think its a combination of everything plus my acne that has kept my confidence down.

Its just that every time I would chat up a girl my roommate would invariably get involved and always get the "looks". He never really says anything really.

The first thing that jumps out at me in those pictures as being unattractive is not your looks. It's your body language. You carry yourself like I used to. Not exactly exuding a lot of confidence. You look like if somebody were to come up and push you, you would probably lose your balance pretty easily.

That's one thing I noticed about confident body language among alpha types when I was still in the learning phase. They always had a really solid center of gravity. Their weight was always evenly distributed on both legs which anchored them firmly and made pushing them like running into a wall. And some of these guys weren't even all that big. Once I realized this and later got into some martial arts classes and got used to more evenly distributing my own weight, I started standing like them naturally without even thinking about it.

I couldn't tell you the first thing about body language but I do know that I have awful balance.

 

[ENIGMA16]

Its just that every time I would chat up a girl my roommate would invariably get involved and always get the "looks". He never really says anything really.

It's not about what you say. Hell, you don't even really have to talk that much to get girls interested in you. It's about the vibe that you give off. You could be chilling at a party by yourself and give a girl a confident smile while looking into her eyes and you'd generate way more interest than some dude that says all the right things with a weak attitude.

EDIT: And BTW, blaming your poor success on your looks is first a cop out and second a denial that it is something you can change.

 

[Warrior74]

Fix the acne problem. Hit the gym and get a little muscle on you, work on your inner game and your golden man. Nothing to stop you! No excuses.

 

[The Decay of Meaning]

If you really are disappointed by how you look, you can always do a small surgery. I know several people who have ears that were pointing a bit outwards, and they fixed it easily, all of them at a fairly young age (you could never tell now that they had ears pointing outwards before). Or, if you don't want to do surgery and it still keeps you down, you can grow some slightly longer hair.

But it must be only if it keeps your self esteem or confidence down. It all comes down to what you want.

Keep it up! :yes:

 

[FairShake]

Reality czech...

You aren't much to look at. Ok? Now is the time to get over it because while you aren't particularly attractive you also aren't particularly ugly. You are maybe a shade below or above average. Depending on whether we take face or body into account because you aren't fat and aren't acne ridden and that's always a plus.

With the right attitude you could pull it off and do pretty well for yourself.

 

[IamMe]

K your not like beautiful or anything but hey think of it this way, there are many people way worse than you lmao. One thing i would do is change your hair, just do something with it...no matter what you do girls notice that you tried. Play around with it until you find something that looks good with you. Once you achieve that step, then you have to pretend like your one of the best looking guys around and eventually you'll believe it. Just be confidant and never show any unconfidence, trust me it goes a long way.

 

[Tyson420]

You're not ugly man, your game just sucks.

 

[SandHawk]

You need to dress with more style. Because your clothing style in the last photo is pretty bad(MY OPINION).

I have a similar frame, and you should exploit that. Work on building mass on your shoulders/chest to get a nice top. Loose the sweater and start wearing button shirts. Go to a good shop where they sell shirts and ties and get some advice on what's currently in fashion and then proceed to have them get you some skinny fit shirts out. These shirts accentuate your frame, which looks pretty good with our frame.

Also, try to play a bit with colors and avoid dark colors such as black, brown, etc. and if you do wear them, wear them with something lighter. Last pic as example: You're all dressed in dark colors with a tiny bit of white here and there, making you fade into the background. Wear something that jumps out so people notice you more. If you have to wear a dark pair of jeans, get a lighter top on it.

And a different haircut might do it aswell. Go into a barber shop, or find those cute girls who study to become hairdressers for a free haircut and some practice on your game. Of course, there is the risk of a **** up of your haircut there.

Good luck mate, and you're not that bad looking that you'll repel girls. You just need to work a bit on your style and poise.

 

[SmoothTalker]

Okay, your nose is indeed a little big, but not anything unreasonable, and I honestly don't even see anything wrong with your ears.

On the bright side you are pretty symmetrical.

If you don't let yourself be affected by your perceived imperfections, I really don't think your looks will get in the way.