I've been really depressed lately...

[crazyman11]

Well, over the past two weeks, i've just been on an emotional roller coaster. I could be happy one minute, then all of a sudden, i'll be sad and serious. I've just been so stressed over stuff that usually doesn't bother me and i just don't know what to do... I would normally talk to one of my friends about it, but i don't wanna sound like i'm complaining all the time, which is why i'm posting this here. I think the main reason why I'm stressed/pissed off is because I never get to do shayt/ any alone time/ anything with my girlfriend.... I mean, at track meets(we both do track) she's always flirting with other guys... wtf is that. We had prom not to long ago, and i had a great time, but i just can't do anything with her(she's always denying me). Today, i tried hanging out with her at school, but she was just talking with her friends the entire time, so i pretty much went f that, and left. There are a lot of other little things that have been bothering me, but i'm not gonna get into it. You guys got any words of wisdom for me? I really need some. Thanks

 

[GaryUranga]

dump her

 

[crazyman11]

Just like that? I shouldn't even talk to her about it or anything? Well, when i was trying to hang with her at school, she said that she was talking to her friends cuz she hasnt talked to them over the weekend, and apologized... You guys think i'm being too negative? I think i should just tell her that since she got her chance to talk with her friends today, i get to have some alone time with her

You see? This is why i said i'm on an emotional roller coaster. In my last post, I was all mopey and like fvck the world. Right now, i'm in a better mood

 

[GaryUranga]

the way you wrote it down makes me not liek your gf, and by the sounds of it shes the one in control, I reccomend you cut it with her

 

[crazyman11]

Yea, I left out some details in my first post, because i was in a bad mood, but since i'm feeling better now, i'll tell you guys what i hadn't posted. Whenever she's with her friends/whatever and i want her attention, i don't really make that good of an effort, and i've usually been in a bad mood when i wanted her attention, so i don't blame her for not giving me the time. When we went to prom with each other, we had a great time, and almost everything was going right, but i think i was acting too afc when i was trying to get her to kiss me. Yea, I think that's the problem. I have been letting myself become afc,not the person that she fell for, just because i got her. I gotta man up, and be that Dj that i once was, the DJ that i got her to fall for

 

[crazyman11]

Arite, so my plan now is when i see her in the morning, i'm gonna tell her that since i let her get her girl talk with her friends, it means that i get some alone time with her. When i get that alone time, should i tell her that i had a problem with her, or should i just forget about that?

 

[crazyman11]

actually, i think i have a better plan. How about if i just avoid her for a day, and she'll most likely ask me why i've been avoiding her. Once she asks me why i've been avoiding her, i'll ask her if she wants my attention and i'll tell her to come and get it. What do you think about that? Is my last plan better, or should i do this one?

 

[2.0]

I have to agree that you should break up with her, not because either of you is a bad person, but because you both want different things. It seems like you're only her boyfriend because of the sex you think it might bring in the future, but she's not interested in sex. If you just want sex, find girls who want one-night-stands. If you are going to stay with her, don't worry about when she talks to her friends. While it's good to be in control, stopping a girl from talking to her friends is close to being abusive. If by "avoiding" her you mean not initiating contact, this is a good idea. Also, when she flirts with other guys, go flirt with other girls. You have the higher value and she needs to know that you'll happily dump her in a second if she fails to please you.

 

[crazyman11]

You know what? You really helped open up my eyes 2.0. I have to change the way i do everything now, i think i got it figured out guys, thanks.