It's Time For A Mother****ing Change!

[Francisco d'Anconia]

...Also, the travel ideas are great...he claims he lived like a king in Buenos Aires for like 1800 a month, including tango lessons from some world-famous instructors....

That's what I've read in the reviews and is exactl what I am looking for. Traveling like "everyone else" can be expensive and I'm always looking for a deal.

...
Unfortunately, my job doesn't have a pre-defined workload so I can't pull the "work from home" tricks that he does. So I need to find a way to generate income without work...but apparently all I need is the idea. Everything else can be outsourced and optimized.

I'm in the same boat. Currently my schedule is based on the availability of a mass of people so I either forge on or cut back dramatically. I've been doing the "outsourcing" thing for a while, at least with things around the house.

Back in the 80's a guy named Charles Givens wrote a really good book called "Wealth Without Risk" and another called "Superself" which talked about determining exactly what your time is worth and if someone can get a job done for less money than it would cost for you to do it (based on your hourly rate) then pay them to do it while you are working. The job gets done for less than it would cost for you to do it and you still have free time. I guess that's why I never really became a do-it-yourself type of guy other than signing the checks I use to pay someone else to do the work.

 

[jimiwaters79]

Hey... I wanted to take a second to thank all of you guys for responding. And a big ups to KarmaSutra. I just finished the King, The Warrior, The Magician, and The Lover. A fascinating read. I'd love to hear how you integrated this self improvement and pairing technology into your life and your game. Much of it seems to be the antithesis of the Don Juan approach. This is definitely the kind of **** I'm into learning. Although I want to have some fun... I definitely am in it for the ideal mate.

A natural compliment to one another.

Man all this reading is so fascinating. Guys keep it coming. I mean if we were going to break it down into categories and list the quintessential books on each subject.

Ex... in no particular order

1. Confidence...
2. Seduction...
3. Dating...
4. Self Improvement...
5. Finances...
6. And Achievement...

Looking forward to all suggestions on the topic.

 

[jimiwaters79]

OK... I hope you guys are still reading this... cuz I got some in the field reporting...

I'm already beginning to feel like a new man. Man I've just engulfed myself in the literature from this site and a few others and hell... all I can say is YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT YOU DON'T KNOW!!!

So talk about a energy... energy perpetuating energy... like begets like...

I just had a random woman from my gym give me a $100 tip. No bull****!! A $100 Amex Travelers Check as a thanks for everything I've done for her.

Can you believe that?

Man I feel like a million dollars stacked head high in ones and fives.

On top of that I had another member (a gay male) surprise me with my favorite breakfast. Organic french toast, bacon, and egg ommellette from Whole Foods Organic Food Store.

I feel so much more confident. I look everyone man or woman directly in the eye during every encounter. I hold my head higher. I'm walking taller. Stepin lighter.

And lastly... I'm copying and pasting a word for word email from a chick I'm going out with tomorrow...

And so that you know... every word of this post is absolute truth.

"I was thinking about you when I was masturbating last night and I ****ing came hella hard. I wish my ovaries weren't gay so we can ****."

So what should I spend the $100 on? I'm thinking a guitar program I've been wanting ($50) and maybe hit some thrift stores and get some rock ass threads. Think button down white shirt. Old school solid color tie. Well fitted black slacks. And maybe a fedura. Casual. Artsy. Fun.

I've optioned not to get the guitar... I decided instead get change the strings on both my guitars and clean them up... so thats an additional $300 I've got in my pocket. But I want to do something nice for myself.

I'm thinking getting my teeth cleaned ($50). Joining a martial arts club ($80) maybe a lip ring ($50) and a tattoo ($200-$300).

Just change that energy up.

Any thoughts... and come on... where are the recommendations.

 

[mastersylar]

jimiwaters79,

Your posts have been awesome. They have definately been uplifting for me. "It's time for a F****** change" is just what I needed.

I have been out of college for 1 month now Accounting and Finance but I am unemployed while most accounting grads have jobs lined up when they graduate. I am also overweight just a little bit. Haven't gotten a phone number for a HB in a couple of months. Live with my parent, but I am 24.

Anyways, I am now trying to write down goals for the next 3 months:

1. Learn to play the gituar
2. Lose about 25 lbs. I have alot of muscle, so just moderate lifting.
3. Get a lucrative accounting job.
4. Get a dirt bike and learn how to ride
5. Get out of my parent's house
6. Get at least 3 dates a week
7. Take a dancing class (like salsa)
8. Get back into Aikido

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Check out "The Four-Hour Work Week" by Tim Ferriss. ....

I've started reading this book and I want to share an excerp:

THE MOST FUNDAMENTAL of American questions is hard for me to answer these days, and luckily so. If it weren't, you wouldn't be holding this book in your hands.
"So, what do you do?"
Assuming you can find me (hard to do), and depending on when you ask me (I'd prefer you didn't), I could be racing motorcycles in Europe, scuba diving off a private island in Panama, resting under a palm tree between kickboxing sessions in Thailand, or dancing tango in Buenos Aires. The beauty is, I'm not a multimillionaire, nor do I particularly care to be.
I never enjoyed answering this ****tail question because it reflects an epidemic I was long part of:job descriptions as self-descriptions. If someone asks me now and is anything but absolutely sincere, I explain my lifestyle of mysterious means simply.
"I'm a drug dealer." ...

Oh, I like this guy already!

 

[jimiwaters79]

Ok quick update before class...

mastersylar... keep in touch... feel free to pm anytime... we are on the same quest... lets share ideas... recommendations... techniques... war stories... whatever... I'm here for you and I hope you'll do the same.

Francisco... correct me if I'm wrong, but are you an Ayn Rand fan? Billionare ore mining tychoon from Atlas Shrugged...

Anyways... I must read The Four Hour Work Week

And please guys... keep the book recommendations coming... this **** is not only fascinating, but it's life changing. I mean I feel like a newborn taking his first steps all over again.

Please... reading recommendations... recommendations... recommendations...

I think I'm going to sign up for a class on sexuality and another on dating/ seduction...

what else... I just close dated a girl for Saturday afternoon in Berklee. Brazilian cousine and conversation. That leaves a grand total of...

3 dates with three different women this week... one phone number and a tentative date for this weekend with a fourth woman... Although I've ****ed up and booked 2 on Saturday... one afternoon and one at night...

Not too shabby for day #3!!!

so guys last time... keep the recommendations coming... For me this is so much bigger than locking lips or bumping uglies... this is about fullfilling our deepest potential... illumanting our natural divinity... I'll keep logging my results and giving observations along the way... and as the skills increase I'll start giving advice... but thats a long long way from now.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

...Francisco... correct me if I'm wrong, but are you an Ayn Rand fan? Billionare ore mining tychoon from Atlas Shrugged...

On day's ending in "Y," yes!

 

[jimiwaters79]

I have to post this cuz I thought it was funny...

I caught myself using kino on my boss at work today. She's married and 6 months pregnant. I had one of those hilarious internal moments.

Three awkward random conversations on the subway. All women.

It hit me coming home. I've been getting buy on good looks and enthusiasm. I have zero game. I need to start learning the mechanics of this ****.

 

[PrinceBeavis]

This is a cool thread...goes along REALLY close to how I'm feeling. Keep kickin' a$$, dude!

 

[KarmaSutra]

Hey... I wanted to take a second to thank all of you guys for responding. And a big ups to KarmaSutra. I just finished the King, The Warrior, The Magician, and The Lover. A fascinating read. I'd love to hear how you integrated this self improvement and pairing technology into your life and your game. Much of it seems to be the antithesis of the Don Juan approach. This is definitely the kind of **** I'm into learning. Although I want to have some fun... I definitely am in it for the ideal mate.

A natural compliment to one another.

Man all this reading is so fascinating. Guys keep it coming. I mean if we were going to break it down into categories and list the quintessential books on each subject.

Ex... in no particular order

1. Confidence...
2. Seduction...
3. Dating...
4. Self Improvement...
5. Finances...
6. And Achievement...

Looking forward to all suggestions on the topic.

This is why I still stay here. Again mentoring the younger man is one of the best things a man can do to aid in his own progression and maintain focus. I'm telling you young brother, The Dr. Paul work is straight up mind/life changing information. It gets to the core of the problem not masking it like the Mystery Method or other types of "seduction" mumbo jumbo.

Change can only come from within.

Good job brother. Let me know if there's anything else I can do. I mentor a couple of cats here locally and will take on another. Brother Panik is zooming through the training quickly becoming a Jedi . . .

 

[jimiwaters79]

Good job brother. Let me know if there's anything else I can do. I mentor a couple of cats here locally and will take on another. Brother Panik is zooming through the training quickly becoming a Jedi . . .

Hey... Sutra where are you located... I'm in San Francisco. I discovered a Project San Francisco and pick up 101 in the Bay Area. I want to meet a PUA and learn the game. I know I got a jedi knight in me.

I'm thinking about taking some courses from the Learning Annex. I'm pissed that I missed Lance Mason's May 17th date in SF. But I'm considering enrolling in What Women Want and How to Give it to Them... a How to Improve the Sound and Quality of Your VOice... and A How to Speak to Anyone about Anything... and finally (am I going overboard here?) possibly Leran to Read Tarot Cards... for some interesting unusual social skills...

And I'd love to take an acting class. ****... I'm investing in myself and my future. I just want to make sure I'm making the right investments and reading the right material...

 

[CS_whoamI?]

Claiming what is rightfully mine...

Damm!! This is the same thing I wrote in my journal recently

 

[jimiwaters79]

So Quick Field Update...

Too many late nights. I've been out more in the last 3 days than I have in the last 3 months. I feel great. I'm infinitely more confident. I seem to have just begun magnetizing women's attention. I speak my mind and have struck up random conversations with attractive women at least once or twice a day.

I've had 3 different people accuse me of being a playboy.

I bought some new threads and looked like the part. Faded blue jeans. Stripped white button down. Black tie. Jean Jacket. ****ing suave.

I was turning heads all night. **** I've been turning heads all week.

I went on a date with this super cute Mexican/ Italian metaphysics graduate student. 25. 4'11. Maybe 100lbs. Nice tits. Cute ass. Speaks four languages fluently. Catholic. Virgin.

I met her in the park a couple of weeks ago, but I kept waffling about calling her. So last night I call her at 7:30PM and I say, "I'll meet you oustide of your apartment in an hour. See you then. Bye."

I take her to the saloon. We drink red wine. She plays with my tie. Keeps pulling me closer to her. Everytime she does it I grab her by the back of her hair and pull her face next to mine. Stroke and smell her hair.

I asked, "Do you want to kiss me."

And I was stunned... she said yes on the cheek. I'm thinking wtf??? She's been all over me all night and now this ****. I've had my hands on her ass on her tits in her hair on her face. And she won't kiss me on the lips?

Women??? What am I doing wrong?

I will say this... everyone's eyes in the bar was on me last night. I left her and danced with the gorgeous brunette that was eyeing me all night. I felt like a ****ing rock star. I would have taken her home if I'd come alone.


Still... I feel like there's a balance that I'll need to strike. My guitar (which is far more important to me than being a DJ) has been suffering because of my wild night life and womanizing. But at the same time... this **** is just so much fun. And I actually feel more creative. However; I can see it having a negative impact on my progress as a guitarist.

How do you guys balance the pursuit of Master Don Juan with work, life, and other passions?

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

...How do you guys balance the pursuit of Master Don Juan with work, life, and other passions?

DJism isn't necessarily separate, it is a lifestyle in itself. Your passions are included in your DJ persona as well as your career. The shift is changing the way that you define yourself. Typically men define themselves by their career which is like riding on a rollercoaster.

 

[jimiwaters79]

Hi... I'm back ya'll. It's been a crazy weekend. I was on a date on Saturday in Berkeley with this hip intellectual chick. We started talking about the roles that men in women play and the social dynamics between the sexes. Of course this was after plenty of eye gazing and a heavy round of kino. So I decided to run an experiment. We would each approach random members of the opposite sex, strike up a conversation, and finally ask for their phone number. It wasn't a competition. It was more of an experiment which I thought would have displayed how challenging it is for a man to meet a woman.

Boy was I wrong. Maybe having a woman with me made it easier. But I three approaches (all on groups of two women) and got the phone number each and every time. She approached two men and got the phone number only once.

The funniest approach happened as follows:

I am walking towards two very attractive women. As we pass I turn to the girl in a short dress and shout, "Hey- Why are you looking at my ass?"

She looks confused and giggles.

From there I am off... Standard conversation. Very flirty lots of kino. Finally, I ask her, "You like me don't you. Would you like to go out?" Give me your phone number."

She had this huge smile on her face. "Are you serious?"

"I'd love to." She quickly grabs a pen and starts to scribble her digits.

As we walk away my original date was so happy. "This is sooooo much fun. You made her day."

.................................................

So whilst on a first date I managed to get three different women's phone numbers. Later that night I hit a club and struck up another random converstion. Ten minutes into it I had the girls asking me, "Who are you? Seriously. Your amazing."

I got both of their phone numbers. We've made plans to take a road trip together.

But she was a close talker. Close talkers freak me out.

.........................

I took the rest of the weekend off. I'm having some serious identity issues. This has happened far too fast. The success has been astounding. But I'm struggling with the notion that a musician learning his art shouldn't be out on a Friday night or a Saturday night or anyother night for that matter. Mostly because music is such a daunting skill that takes an enormous amount of concentrated effort over a long period of time that mastering it generally demands the sacrifice of all things not music. All of my heroes... dropped out of society... locked themselves in rooms... built the cooccon and didn't come out until they'd grown they're proverbial wings.

This is something that I'm currently dealing with. On top of that; all of this sudden success with the women is causing me to get a bit lazy on the reading and research. Which is probably natural. I have to remember that I'm just getting my feet wet. And that this is nothing compared to knowing the real game.

 

[PrinceBeavis]

Right on bro! Good to hear. I guess 'balance' is the key word, though.