It's Time For A Mother****ing Change!

[jimiwaters79]

You know what... I'm 27. I live in a hotel room. I have exactly $1.38 in the bank. My lady left me. I'm socially inadequate. I talk to fast. I never approach strangers. I get nervous around pretty women. Sweaty palms. Racing heart. Butterflies. The whole pathetic shabang.

I'd just as soon take a swift kick to the balls from Belmont Stakes Champ Street Sense than go ahead and talk to a lady. I'm sitting home alone on Friday and Saturday nights.

And then it hit me. I'm too young, too interesting, too hip, and too damn goodlooking for this ****.

Like Style says,

"It is time for a mother****ing change!"

I'm talking real change. From the inside out change. Transformation. A Kafkaesque metamorphisis. I'm talking caccoons and butterflies. A complete and total overhaul. This is not just about meeting women. This is about Being... Living the dream. Leading a meaningful existence. Claiming what is rightfully mine...

A beautiful ****ing life.

Passion. Intimacy. Romance. Adventure.

I'll be journaling the entire experience. Maybe start up a webpage and keep a photo journal as well. I'll begin with baby steps. Going out alone on a Wed night. Striking conversations with random strangers. Doing the things I've been putting off for far too long. I've always wanted to study a martial art... or learn a second language... salsa dancing... or have a threesome with two exotic ladies.

What I'm looking for... advice... where to start... reading recommendations...

I guess we could begin with self confidence. What is the quintessential book on the subject?

And probably NLP....maybe Awaken The Giant Within by Robbins.

And books on seduction... I've already ordered The Art of Seduction from the public library. Any other recommendations.

I'm going to start the Don Juan Bible this week. And I'm doing the Don Juan Bootcamp. But as I stated earlier... this is much bigger than scoring some hot babes.

This is about living a good life.

Also, I'd like to post some pics for the transformation... any tips on how to go about it???

 

[jimiwaters79]

Oh and in the spirit of full disclosure... I forgot to mention this process has already started...

I decide to do something I go all the way.

One of my dreams has always been to learn the guitar. I started playing nearly 8 months ago. I practice nearly 3-6 hours everyday. I am completely and entirely committed towards mastering the craft. Over that 8 month period I went from a complete and total beginner to playing SRV and Freddie King pieces note for note. I've enrolled as the Jazz School UC Berkeley. And I'm hoping to pursue a degree in Jazz Guitar performance.

The point being... when you make a commitment... take great action... and follow the dream... possibility becomes plausibility.

 

[jimiwaters79]

Hey thanks for the reply... it's greatly appreciated. I should have mentioned... that I'm a personal trainer/ spin instructor. So the health and physique... well i got that covered. Although there's always room for improvement. I think that may be part of the problem in itself. I've been blessed with good looks since I was a kid. As an attractive athlete as a teenager in highschool women would generally approach me. This was probably a huge disservice to me in the long run and as a consequence I never learned how to approach women. And of course... as an adult much of the rules don't apply. I've still never learned to approach women. And although my high score is probably between 25-30, I've never really felt confident. You know that deep inner conviction that you were the prize.

BTW... Great reply... I'm going to follow your advice wholeheartedly. Though I have to admit I'm in the stone age when it comes to bit torrent. I immediately attempted to download Utorrent... but it appears to be a Windows program. I'm running a MAC OSX. Any advice. I'm looking forward to absorbing the recommended material.

Again... thanks for the taking the time to respond. I sincerely appreciate it.

 

[lebRambo]

I'm running a MAC OSX. Any advice. I'm looking forward to absorbing the recommended material.

Get Azureus instead. Its a little more heavyweight, but it runs on Java which should be installed on your Mac (so its platform-independent and portable).

http://mac.softpedia.com/get/Internet-Utilities/Azureus.shtml to get Azureus for Mac.

If you have problems:

http://azureus.sourceforge.net/howto_osx.php

good luck with your transformation dude.

Oh, and your top score is 25-30? Yeah...you can't get women for sh*t dude

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Guys, this kinda thing is best discussed in PM.

 

[GamePlan]

Im in the same boat as you. I know I'm rather good looking, but my social phobia/shyness/whatever you want to do it kept me from approaching women. And to be honest I never really learnt to make an effort. At 22 I first tried for a little bit of time and made some progress, but then for some reason I stopped it. A month ago (right before my 24th birthday), I decided, I have to try again and put an end to this whole social phobia thing. It's just been one month or well if I include what I did 2 years ago, which I didnt lose it's probably more like 2-3 months. Im moving slowly, but ive made quite some progress: From not being able to say "hello" to a stranger (actually I wasn't really able to think of it), I say "Hello" or "Hi" to strangers without much difficulty, I've finally started saying "Hi" to good-looking chicks (though Im still working on that part..) and yesterday at a club I actually did my first approach (though I was drunk, which makes it easier of course). Ive also become more talkative and realize how my mind is being reprogrammed(exp?). Give me another couple months and Ill be where I want to be.

Im also doing this not in order to score with tons of women. But rather to deal with my overall situation and of course, because I want to be able to choose a LTR freely...instead of getting with the next best chick, that I get to know in college or through work who shows some interest.

 

[HaremMasterThomas]

Why are there so many good looking guys who can't approach the most attractive woman, you are fools to yourselves, just how much of a hunk are you guys in real terms, just get the balls and talk to these woman, how hard can it be.

 

[Jariel]

You have to get your priorities right. Forget the Salsa dancing and guitar for now. That's not going to get you out of your rut. Your priorities at this time should be building confidence, communication/social skills and getting yourself a profitable job to fund your new lifestyle. Start working on your interview skills, presentation and professionalism, and brainstorm some things you might be good at.

NLP may be a good start, but focus on the self-improvement aspect of it rather than the gimmicky mind-controlling tricks.

Have a serious think about who you are, what are your strengths and weaknesses and what you hope to achieve. Be as specific as possible and focus on these goals one step at a time. Push past your fears, practise, practise some more and learn from every failure and set back.

Above all, have patience! A total transformation will take years.

The motivation tip in my signature may also be some help to you. Good luck!

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

You have to get your priorities right. Forget the Salsa dancing and guitar for now. That's not going to get you out of your rut. Your priorities at this time should be building confidence, communication/social skills and getting yourself a profitable job to fund your new lifestyle. ...

I think Salsa dancing would be a good way to build confidence and social skills. It may not get you a profitable job in itself, but the confidence and the social skills will definitely help.

 

[squirrels]

Check out "The Four-Hour Work Week" by Tim Ferriss. Just finished reading it, and I'm gonna have to read it again...and really start DOING some of the stuff he recommends. It's more oriented to people who are "trapped" in a working life working 40+ hours a week, but it has a LOT of info and inspirational stuff about how to set up business systems to bring you income, how to travel and experience wild stuff without a whole lot of money, etc...it's actually got me wanting to quit my job and just wander through Europe for a couple months.

Reading, though, is not going to get it done. READ only to know what you should DO, and then DO it. Mastery of academic material does not make you a master of a process. There's an old adage that goes, "Those who cannot do, teach". You want an example? Look around here. How often do you see the "old masters" posting?

Also recommend "The Secret", which is very popular right now.

For seduction, www.fastseduction.com The Player's Guide on there is a great place to start. There's some good stuff in the DJ Bible as well.

The key is to open your mind to what can be done. Most of a man's limits are self-imposed.

 

[jimiwaters79]

Today has been flipping amazing!!! The energy this creates is unbelievable! I mean when you just decide on a dime... I will not accept this way of living anymore. I will not accept anything less than I deserve... and you commit yourself to great action. My God. It feels like you've got wings and a **** made of platinum and that the world is your bedtime plaything,

Man that is powerful!!!

I woke up with more energy than I've had in weeks. My training sessions went flawless. I had an excellent workout myself. I was using kino on this super hot 30 something. I stared into the eyes of literally every woman I passed. Young. Old. Fat. Thin. Hot. Ugly.

I got a ton of smiles and a few hellos.

And get this... one of the aerobics instructors is a super hot asian chick with a body like you would not believe... asks me out for coffee.

As we make our way there I'm joking the whole time. Teasing her in a playful manner. Staring into her eyes with a devilish smile. She pays for my coffee and asks if I would like something to eat. I decline.

We sit down. I tell her I can read minds. I grab her hands, say choose a number from 1-10, and stare directly in her eyes for 30, 40, 50 seconds. I guess 7. It was 8. She laughs and guess mine. She was wrong. I tease her some more.

We continue the conversation for maybe 45 minutes. I tell her about the martial arts club down the street. She says we should go together. Today! She attempts to set up a date for this very afternoon. I decline. I tell her the guitar is the most important thing in my life... my lady love... and that she needs my attention.

I choose another date. We chat some more. Talk about music. I suggest we go to a bar and have some wine do some dancing. She asks me what I'm doing tomorrow. I lie. I tell her I have plans. That I date often. And that if she's interested she'll have to schedule in advance.

I'm the ****ing prize.

You got to wait your turn honey. Ha!!!

We exchange #'s and make plans for the weekend.

After this I go to grab some sushi. I am staring in the waitresses eyes. Making very ****y jokes. She laughs. I'm not sure if she was into it or not. But ****... this **** is fun!!!

Normally, this would be naptime. But **** that I'm feeling good. I'm going to continue to treat myself. Today is free museum day in San Francisco. I'll hit The Museum of Modern Arts and try to strike up some random conversation.

And I think I'll buy myself an acoustic guitar. A treat for myself. Friday is my birthday so **** it. I deserve it.

..................................


Which brings me to an entirely different subject. Someone mentioned the guitar and I want to address that. It is my passion. It brings me joy, humility, and satisfaction. It is my lady love.

In 5 years I'll be a Berklee or GIT graduate and a professional jazz musician. Procrastination is no longer an option. I've discovered what I was put on this earth to do.

And that is make music and pursue mastery.

It is the Way of the Guitar.

But along the way... I want to have fun and be well rounded. Which is what this is all about. I don't want to be a pick up artist. I want to be the cat that is so damn confident... so damn vital... do god damn alive that women claw each other for my attention.

I want a whole life. Women playing a minor role. But a damn fun one!

 

[jimiwaters79]

Oh and I'm also interested in posting some pics. I want to know whether or not my style is accurately portraying the essence who I am. Which is artistic, sporty, and fun!

 

[lebRambo]

glad that you're so excited about all this man. keep it up!

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Check out "The Four-Hour Work Week" by Tim Ferriss. ...

Funny you should mention that book, I just ordered it from Amazon.

 

[Chipmonkey]

How can you not be inspired by this, guys? This gentleman deserves a standing ovation.

 

[DJVladdy]

lol
Let me guess, u are on amphetamine or adderall.
I've had the same exact thoughts, and the same pattern of thinking when i was drugged.

 

[KarmaSutra]

Geez, I guess my post was too much for one of the Mods because "Like that (blows in his hand) it's gone."

Gotta love Keyser Soze.

 

[baurman]

'cause it was inappropriate ya think?

 

[KarmaSutra]

Actually it was extremely helpful to the brother. I suggested he download a certain torrent software and illegally download some sh!t that would help with his progression.

 

[squirrels]

Funny you should mention that book, I just ordered it from Amazon.

That book is the first one, out of all the self-help stuff I've been reading lately, that actually made me feel like the "new rich" lifestyle IS within my grasp. I want to try to start a business now...I just need a product idea. That's never come easy to me before. I'm hoping as I start thinking differently, my mind will come up with something.

Also, the travel ideas are great...he claims he lived like a king in Buenos Aires for like 1800 a month, including tango lessons from some world-famous instructors.

Unfortunately, my job doesn't have a pre-defined workload so I can't pull the "work from home" tricks that he does. So I need to find a way to generate income without work...but apparently all I need is the idea. Everything else can be outsourced and optimized.

Great book.