The Ultimate Guide to Success with Women

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STR8UP

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Quick recap-

Met hot chick at bar. Turns out she was a friend of friends. Second time we all went out she ends up back at my place. We make out, whatever. She then proceeds to tell me stuff you don't talk about with someone you don't know very well (she was raped when she was younger, she just got out of rehab). Red flags....she gets placed in the "I'd hit it but I better be careful" category.

We hooked up, she flaked on me a couple of times, but I kept her around for the hell of it. One minute she's with me giggling like a school girl, giving me every indication that she was REALLY into me, calling me "babe" and whatnot. The next minute she's canceling plans and sh!t. If it weren't for the flakiness I would have been worried this chick was gonna turn into a grade A stalker.

I did manage to hit it a few times. Freaky little thing....dildo on her bathroom counter, asked me to take pictures of her while I was fukking her, the whole nine.

Push-pull, we hooked up a few times, she pissed me off with her not following through with plans, but I knew she wasn't relationship material, so I kept in touch.

Last contact she told me she was moving to NY at the end of the month and that she "really wants to see me" before she leaves. I told her "Yea, hit me up" and that was that. I wasn't gonna put any more effort into it.

That was a couple of weeks ago.

So it's getting toward the end of the month and I remembered that she was leaving in a couple of days. Hadn't heard from her, as expected, but tonight I get a text from her. I'm thinking "hmmmm...ok, so I might get to hit it one last time"

So I open the text and it says "Hey I left for NY this morning. I'm somewhere in N. Carolina at a rest stop. U better stay in touch with me. I'll miss you."

What a nutjob. i didn't even respond.

This is the EPITOME of the kind of chick that drives men crazy. Hot one minute, cold the next. First she seems like she's planning her life with you, then she calls you up with some lame ass excuse about why she can't meet up with you, even though she called you five times in the previous two hours to confirm that she would be there soon.

If you bother messing around with this type of woman, you have to call a spade a spade and deal with it without letting it get to you, cause IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU.

I'm 35 years old and i STILL learn something new about women every day. Ahhh...the joy of dealing with women....
 

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STR8UP said:
Met hot chick at bar. Turns out she was a friend of friends. Second time we all went out she ends up back at my place. We make out, whatever. She then proceeds to tell me stuff you don't talk about with someone you don't know very well (she was raped when she was younger, she just got out of rehab).
Just out of curiosity, is this the same girl who lost a job over a cocaine habit? And is this the same girl who you recognized (or recognized you) from myspace? It's hard keeping up who's who of all your ladies. :crazy:
 

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Deep Dish said:
Just out of curiosity, is this the same girl who lost a job over a cocaine habit? And is this the same girl who you recognized (or recognized you) from myspace? It's hard keeping up who's who of all your ladies. :crazy:
This is the one who likes the nose candy :)

Don't generally judge people based upon the CASUAL use of drugs, but when it comes to the point where you lose your job because your best friend (and coworker) is so concerned about you that she holds an intervention with your BOSS....well, that's bad news.

I knew better. That fine ass was just too tempting.

Which myspace chick are you referring to?
 

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The most valuable tool I have in dealing with a woman I have been seeing a while, no matter how sporadically, is a calendar.

Their menstrual cycle dramatically affects their flakiness, bytchyness, and above all, horniness.

I have written about this girl before as, it seems I NEXT her about once a month. We literally have a one-week-a-month relationship, the horny week. We pretty much hate each other the other 3 weeks.
 

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Man, it sound like you and I are in similar situations with these "fruity a$$/ flakes"! I just turned 36 and I look at a lot of your posts. Right now, I am kind of in a dry spell, when you got that last text from old girl you were thinking, "I am fixing to be breaking me a piece off!" Then she rolls with out of state $hit! Bottom line, I have learned if a woman has any kind of chemical dependency it is best to leave her alone, unless you want a hit it and quit every now and then. Those chemicals push their issues/ flakiness way over the top!!!
 

Peace and Quiet

If you currently have too many women chasing you, calling you, harassing you, knocking on your door at 2 o'clock in the morning... then I have the simple solution for you.

Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.

This will quickly drive all women away from you.

And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.

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STR8UP said:
So I open the text and it says "Hey I left for NY this morning."
Uh oh, being from NY, I just hope I don't have any dealings with this dumb twit, hehehe. Even though statistically speaking, the odds are way in my favor of NOT having a run in with her, you just never know. lol
 

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edger said:
Uh oh, being from NY, I just hope I don't have any dealings with this dumb twit, hehehe. Even though statistically speaking, the odds are way in my favor of NOT having a run in with her, you just never know. lol
She's definitely a "dumb twit" in the sense that she has no sense of obligtion to the people she makes plans with.

Funny thing is, she's not dumb in the traditional sense, she has a master's degree and is even writing a book. And she really IS a sweet girl.

I'm sure a lot of it has to so with drug abuse issues. The don't call it a "monkey on your back" for no reason....lol.
 

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STR8UP said:
Quick recap-

Met hot chick at bar. Turns out she was a friend of friends. Second time we all went out she ends up back at my place. We make out, whatever. She then proceeds to tell me stuff you don't talk about with someone you don't know very well (she was raped when she was younger, she just got out of rehab). Red flags....she gets placed in the "I'd hit it but I better be careful" category.

We hooked up, she flaked on me a couple of times, but I kept her around for the hell of it. One minute she's with me giggling like a school girl, giving me every indication that she was REALLY into me, calling me "babe" and whatnot. The next minute she's canceling plans and sh!t. If it weren't for the flakiness I would have been worried this chick was gonna turn into a grade A stalker.

I did manage to hit it a few times. Freaky little thing....dildo on her bathroom counter, asked me to take pictures of her while I was fukking her, the whole nine.

Push-pull, we hooked up a few times, she pissed me off with her not following through with plans, but I knew she wasn't relationship material, so I kept in touch.

Last contact she told me she was moving to NY at the end of the month and that she "really wants to see me" before she leaves. I told her "Yea, hit me up" and that was that. I wasn't gonna put any more effort into it.

That was a couple of weeks ago.

So it's getting toward the end of the month and I remembered that she was leaving in a couple of days. Hadn't heard from her, as expected, but tonight I get a text from her. I'm thinking "hmmmm...ok, so I might get to hit it one last time"

So I open the text and it says "Hey I left for NY this morning. I'm somewhere in N. Carolina at a rest stop. U better stay in touch with me. I'll miss you."

What a nutjob. i didn't even respond.

This is the EPITOME of the kind of chick that drives men crazy. Hot one minute, cold the next. First she seems like she's planning her life with you, then she calls you up with some lame ass excuse about why she can't meet up with you, even though she called you five times in the previous two hours to confirm that she would be there soon.

If you bother messing around with this type of woman, you have to call a spade a spade and deal with it without letting it get to you, cause IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU.

I'm 35 years old and i STILL learn something new about women every day. Ahhh...the joy of dealing with women....
Good example of a situation where the sex isn't worth it. Look at what you put yourself through for it. Not worth it at all.
 

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It's definitely possible to have no real interest in a woman, yet still take it personally when she schedules things with you that she's going to forget about later.

People will say that you're pissed because you were emotionally invested in her - not so. You were just emotionally invested in your time. Having a social life takes time & work, and there just isn't either to spare for flakes.
 

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Phyzzle said:
It's definitely possible to have no real interest in a woman, yet still take it personally when she schedules things with you that she's going to forget about later.

People will say that you're pissed because you were emotionally invested in her - not so. You were just emotionally invested in your time. Having a social life takes time & work, and there just isn't either to spare for flakes.
To be honest with you, i was very attracted to her at first sight. I posted about her...she's the first one I've REALLY been attracted to in a long time. But it was mainly physical. This was before I got to know her. Once I figured out she had a few screws loose I didn't let myself get emotionally involved.

I got pissed cause she disrespected my time, and I generally don't get along well with flaky people.

Was it worth it? I wouldn't really do anything different. I wasn't REALLY out a whole lot of time with her, I just don't care to make plans with ANYONE who flakes on me.
 

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I agree, don't waste my time ..... I feel your frustration ....

God gave man 2 heads and only enough blood to

use one of them at a time ....... hopefully we learn from these things .....

I suspect I will keep meeting psychos ...but at our age ..... i think it's a

given ..... unless you chase young tang ! ! ! !

:rockon:
 

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I swear,they do NOt get any saner as they get older -just older.
WHy is this ? Because ,when sh!t happens to them, they adopt the mindset of - "It was his fault- he made me do it." ( Just like you would hear a 6 year old kid). Women do not have any internally perceived need to improve themselves, grow or mature because they have an external locus.
I date women in their late 40's and sometimes 50's and most of them are attention seeking teenagers in middle-aged bodies.

This is what many of you have to look forward to out there in another 10-29 years..
And many times the high functioning professionals are the most troublesome women of all. They really believe that their loonie/flaky behavior is acceptable and that a man is "lucky" to date them.
There is, however, a perverse pleasure in hitting and quitting a high flying feminist nazi-bytch.
 
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