It's not always your fault.

[9Volt]

As much as you should improve for your own sake while learning and growing from past mistakes to not repeat them it's not always specifically your fault everytime.

At times it really is THEIR fault.

Don't be so hard on yourselves.

 

[RedZone]

Honestly, there is a million reasons why things didn't work out. They have a bf, they arent attracted to you, in a bad mood when met, didn't like where you placed your comma, etc. In end, you should never just improve to get some girl. That might be part of it, but you improve for yourself and yourself only.

 

[Milano]

I needed this right now. It can really mess with your head if you think you are at fault for everything, its destructive for your confidence. Even after my last plate told me she felt something was missing I thought it was because I did something wrong, and ofc it is possible. Then it hit me when I spoke to another girl in my class which has a natural chemistry with me that me and this last plate just didnt connect at all. Its just that I like her and want to bang her, but she is not special to me, its nothing natural and effortless between us. I miss that, hard to find.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

At times it really is THEIR fault.

It may be their "fault" but it is ALWAYS your responsibility regardless of who is at fault.

Your responsibility to sort better.

Your responsibility how you respond.

Your responsibility to do better next time.

Your responsibility to not use it as an excuse

If you're hiking down a mountain trail and a rattlesnake bites you, sitting in the dirt saying "It's not my fault" it's going to do squat. You've got to RESPOND appropriately so you don't die.

 

[9Volt]

I needed this right now. It can really mess with your head if you think you are at fault for everything, its destructive for your confidence. Even after my last plate told me she felt something was missing I thought it was because I did something wrong, and ofc it is possible. Then it hit me when I spoke to another girl in my class which has a natural chemistry with me that me and this last plate just didnt connect at all. Its just that I like her and want to bang her, but she is not special to me, its nothing natural and effortless between us. I miss that, hard to find.

This is what the cult religion of "game" teaches you. The chick is never wrong it's you didn't "game" her enough. It's "always what you did wrong". Game treats chicks like deities and assumes there is always something every man could do to get any and every chick.


It's nonsense.

And no its NOT always everyone on these forums or men's "fault" all the time regardless of what religious practitioners of game would like you to believe.

 

[AlphaNate]

I always blame her anyway

Like someone else said, as long as you learn from what happened, you're good. Who cares "whose fault" it is?

 

[9Volt]

It may be their "fault" but it is ALWAYS your responsibility regardless of who is at fault.

Your responsibility to sort better.

Your responsibility how you respond.

Your responsibility to do better next time.

Your responsibility to not use it as an excuse

If you're hiking down a mountain trail and a rattlesnake bites you, sitting in the dirt saying "It's not my fault" it's going to do squat. You've got to RESPOND appropriately so you don't die.

Which is why the dude needs to learn and grow from past mistakes not repeat them.

 

[Roober]

Honestly, there is a million reasons why things didn't work out. They have a bf, they arent attracted to you, in a bad mood when met, didn't like where you placed your comma, etc. In end, you should never just improve to get some girl. That might be part of it, but you improve for yourself and yourself only.

This!

The key I have found is don't give them the opportunity to reject you and you won't even care..

-Won't give out number? Next
-"I have a bf" I laugh, smirk, and say "that's too bad"
-Send one casual text, no reply or long time to reply... next
-Flakes on a date? Don't go out of your way to set a date. Confirm beforehand if you have to... Have alternate plans
-Won't kiss close, I think thanks for not wasting any more of my time... next
-"let's..." not see each any more or some BS... good luck to you!... next

It's easy when your not emotionally invested. It is also easy when you get more experience and realize how women are, fickle emotional creatures. Her words mean something the moment they come out of her mouth, not much longer than that!

 

[AlphaNate]

-Won't give out number? Next
-"I have a bf" I laugh, smirk, and say "that's too bad"
-Send one casual text, no reply or long time to reply... next
-Flakes on a date? Don't go out of your way to set a date. Confirm beforehand if you have to... Have alternate plans
-Won't kiss close, I think thanks for not wasting any more of my time... next
-"let's..." not see each any more or some BS... good luck to you!... next

You just nexted all your plates, bruh!

 

[sazc]

It MOST LIKELY is not your fault. Find the lesson in the experience. If you need to, learn the lesson. Grow. Increase your standards.
Honestly, try your hardest not to take it personally. not everyone is meant to click, it's as simple as that.

 

[9Volt]

It MOST LIKELY is not your fault. Find the lesson in the experience. If you need to, learn the lesson. Grow. Increase your standards.
Honestly, try your hardest not to take it personally. not everyone is meant to click, it's as simple as that.

nothing wrong with having high standards if you're able to live up to the same standards you require in others.

 

[Nickbire95]

I agree with you.