It's been a long time, but I need some good sound advice.....

[Dingo]

No lol. The guy maybe sees my daughter once a week, doesn't live with her, is not a father in any way. He just wants to bang the mom...who admittedly is very hot.

How often do you see her ?....

Nothing wrong for a guy wanting to be bang a hot mom.

My point is let them make the family unit. She pretty much has made that decision for you. She moved far away and hooked up with an old flame to where she feels best to raise the kid.

I think it might be best if you leave them be. JMHO....

 

[kenpiffyjr]

Y'all went to Vegas...let me guess...all expenses paid by you.

If not....even then...I'm sorry man but this is the results of poor leadership and communication skills as a MAN.

1. You have some type of extreme value to the Thai mom and your wife...yet, somehow you refused to use and see this leverage.

- Your wife took a cheater with a child out of the affair back!!! Do you know how difficult that is for a woman unless she's super invested in the value you provide to her????...and she's splurging on your birthday gifts after the fact? When you said your wife stayed in the same household but treated you like trash lol...clearly the problem is you.

- the Thai woman stood around for years waiting for you to make a decision.

You dropped the ball within this timeframe and your daughter will pay for it by not having her real father in her life.

Why?! Why couldn't you just be a MAN and make the decision YOU wanted and told these women who saw value In you to get in the car or catch the bus!?! Why couldn't you frame it to your wife that this is a woman from a totally different country and poses no threat to the security of you and your wife's connection? That you longed for a child of your own and some woman who grew up in some tropical sand hut who could be easily influenced by BOTH of you birthed your child for that type of control and influence. Sure you went behind her back...but how you have a daughter now and want her to have a great education near you in California! How she's now the mother of your child and you can't kick her to the side because a man protects the women in his life. She would have gushed!!

You could have framed it to the Thai mom ----WHO IF YOU LOOK AT THE DETAILS CLOSELY CARED LESS ABOUT YOUR WIFE AND YOU BEING MARRIED --- that you would not leave your wife but you would take care of her and your child...and your wife understands the connection y'all have?

You clearly had the VALUE to say and do all this....you just didn't have the frame and fell for a wife treating you like trash when she was waiting for you to be a man and tell her how you were going to lead going forward and a Thailand 3rd world broad who hooked you good and just wanted access to a better life and probably a European connection.

 

[Solomon]

Holy shyt what's good bruh Cordon, guy's a legend and a fellow miscer
How things change and not always for the better....

This story is exactly why i couldn't date single mothers or why i would be afraid to have a kid. The situation is messy, my only advice to cordon would be
1, Being honest do you wanna be with the hot thai chick or your wife (whom i remember was hot as well from the pics you posted)

the reality is if you wanna be a father you can't have your cake and eat too, i got a buddy who is in a similar situation but I don't wanna hijack the thread