it wouldn't bother me if she was just honest about it

[sosilky]

Long story short one of the issues i had with the last girl i dated is that she just couldnb't be honest with me about seeing other guys. The first time we dated aparently I got to serious to fast. The second time i was very easy going. Didn't care what she said or did when i wasnt around. I did my thing. About a month went by and I was telling a friend of mine i was at a friends house. I hung up and got the evil eye.

she didn't want me refering to her as her friend. So I'm like what do you want me to call you you my girlfriend? Then it went into this whole thing where were just gonna be with eachother. Yet she continued to myspace guys behind my back go out with guys etc. I don't think its so much me being jealous as i hate being lied to. things were fine the way they were why did she want to take it to another level and that not follow through? thats when things started getting complicated cause i wasn't quite sure what the hell we were any more.

 

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thats when things started getting complicated cause i wasn't quite sure what the hell we were any more.

You sound like a bird.

Chicks are generally more socially switched on than you will ever fathom.
There would have been a perfectly good reason she didnt want to tell you, she gets even the smallest whiff from you that she's going to regret it, then it's going to feel too much like hard work for her.

Btw this whole "Lets be blatently honest" thing you think her female mind can match equally with your male mind? Forget it, your dreaming.

 

[sosilky]

Chicks are generally more socially switched on than you will ever fathom.
There would have been a perfectly good reason she didnt want to tell you, she gets even the smallest whiff from you that she's going to regret it, then it's going to feel too much like hard work for her.

No clue what your last sentence means

 

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Nevermind.

 

[sosilky]

Nevermind.

Just trying to learn man, love how all the pros on this site just get so frustrated when the newbies don't walk on here with everything already in their head. What the hell do we come here for? we're trolls, we're from loveshack....what?.

 

[tsmith2334]

Just trying to learn man, love how all the pros on this site just get so frustrated when the newbies don't walk on here with everything already in their head. What the hell do we come here for? we're trolls, we're from loveshack....shut up.

i used to be on here alot but i've all but given up. VERY few posters here actually have experience, most people post on this board because they need advice on how to get with women for themselves.

and most of the posts here are very pesimistic, everyone is so used to being rejected they automatically assume you have no chance with the girl in question

 

[sosilky]

thanx

used to be on here alot but i've all but given up. VERY few posters here actually have experience, most people post on this board because they need advice on how to get with women for themselves.

and most of the posts here are very pesimistic, everyone is so used to being rejected they automatically assume you have no chance with the girl in question


thanx tsmith do you have an opinion on the original post? where do you go now where there are guys with more experience and arent sexually frustrated? PM me if you like

 

[mintxx]

Long story short one of the issues i had with the last girl i dated is that she just couldnb't be honest with me about seeing other guys. The first time we dated aparently I got to serious to fast. The second time i was very easy going. Didn't care what she said or did when i wasnt around. I did my thing. About a month went by and I was telling a friend of mine i was at a friends house. I hung up and got the evil eye.

she didn't want me refering to her as her friend. So I'm like what do you want me to call you you my girlfriend? don't ask her what she wants Then it went into this whole thing no fool just ignore her where were just gonna be with eachother. Yet she continued to myspace guys behind my back go out with guys etc. you have major self esteem issues? what are you doing with this girl? why would you tolerate this? if she's not your girlfriend then fine, keep fukking her and spin other plates. if she is, this is well over the line. I don't think its so much me being jealous as i hate being lied to. then stop boning liars things were fine the way they were why did she want to take it to another level and that not follow through? because you offer her no limits and no reaction and she will keep being a white trash wh0re until she gets those things from you thats when things started getting complicated cause i wasn't quite sure what the hell we were any more.

fukk's sake.

 

[sosilky]

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Mint don't you get it when she didn't want me caling her a friend the conversation was about setting those limits. and she didn't adhere to them. yet it was her idea to set them.

 

[NoMoreTapDancing]

sosilky you need to quite whining and man the fvck up. So this girl is going out with guys on MySpace behind your back. Why did you not spit your contract at the beginning of the relationship and make it very clear what you will and wont accept like a man does?

The first time she said you got serious too quickly. You should have left her then and there. But then you came back a second time with the easygoing attitude. Basically you've created some kind of 'Flext' relationship, it can be serious when she wants it to be and not serious when she doesn't want it to be. She has all the control over the relationship.

As a man, that was your job. But the second a woman is in control of the relationship, that means she can do whatever she wants. So if you want to stay with her, you gotta put up or shut up, because you caused this by bending to her will. It also means she has lost respect for you. Would someone who cares about your integrity lie to you in this way? I don't think so. It's over, don't call her don't nothing, just go see other women.

If she's lucky she can come over once a month and svck your d1ck or something then get the fvck out. Other than that she is worthless to you.

I'm sure you can do better and find yourself an even hotter young thing, just this time RIGHT AT THE BEGINNING, define your contract (how the relationship is going to be) and make it known what the consequences are for breaking that contract... then this kind of thing will be alot less likely to happen.

 

[mintxx]

her behaviour is either acceptable or unacceptable. show her where the line is and chuck her when she crosses it. doesn't need to be an essay