It takes 21 days to break a habit: 21 days no masturbation: The 3 week plan w/options

[MaverickBow]

What all you guys should start to notice is that at the moment all this porn and masturbating means sex is THE main priority in your lives - just reading how hard its been for some to give up proves that. Also you need to stop downloading and watching porn not just stop masturbating. And what's the point of watching it if your not going to.... Anyway, once it stops being a priority then approaching girls becomes a lot easier.

 

[twilight]

Day 6...everythings going great. And guys, just ignore the immature flaming from those who didn't read in the original post that pessimism is not welcomed in this thread. Most times when you do something worthwhile you'll receive criticism from people that aren't satisfied with their own life. Many who don't have this issue don't understand the dynamics of the problem with excessive porn & masturbation. imo the core of it is you become more addicted to the fantasy than reality. And I think we can agree that we're all here to get the REALITY of our lives handled with women. With that said I know there's the temptation to try to have your cake and eat it too by keeping the porn. But if you're truly comitted to this you'll seriously consider deleting ALL of the porn. Not some, not most, but ALL. There's gonna come a point where many of us have to choose one or the other. Fantasy or the reality of a better life with women. And if that's not a decision you feel you can make right now, that's fine. But you have to be real with yourself. If you're not sexually active on an everyday basis *and* you have porn YOU WILL FAIL. Period. I know this personally and I've seen all the threads & posts and the evidence is there. I encourage you guys to use this downtime (& extra hornyness ) to go out and meet women. End the cycle today! And one more thing, using guilt to get this handled will only BACKFIRE (you probably already know this). So if you slip don't judge yourself. Just get right back on track and take note of what you can do different this time around. Taking note does not require guilt or judgement on your part. And please don't read any judgement into this post, this is only encouragement for all my likeminded djs out there.

6/21...Let's do this fellas...

 

[Jippii]

Not a whole lot of experiences in this thread yet, but this motivates me to cut down on the frequency, this is from the first three out of 34 pages on the huge masturbation thread.

4/21...This is getting easier. My cold approaching has increased already. Number closed while taking a walk yesterday. So I'm looking to increase cold approaches even more this week, as the weather gets warmer the hb's are coming out in droves. I'd like to be more strict about the 3-second rule so I'm working on that this week as well.

Nov. 24 - Nov.30 --- 6 days
-My workout today was hard core. I don't know what was going on but I was explosive and stronger.

"Stop the masturbation, cut it off. Get your sexual gratification from real sex. If you are only jacking off, you are fooling your unconcious mind to make it think that masturbation is real sex. Stop it right now and get real sex. When you stop masurbation you are more active, you will approach more women and you will see them as only source of real sex gratification, not your hand. It is essetial. Force yourself not to masturbate untill you fill your sexual desire with the roots: real sex with women bodies. That way your mind will be educated in few moths after few sexual encounters."

"It feels good to have masturbation off of my schedule. I kind of can think of some other stuff. I was kind of tense thinking about not masturbating for 6 months, but then, I worked out and got work, and I forgot about it."

Nov. 24 - Dec.2 --- 8 days

- Wind blows and I get horny. F_uck I want gratification, but not from jerking off. I want sex. Its been 5 days since I had sex with my g/f. I've been wanting it everyday, but she is either tired, or not in the mood or some other BS. No, she isn't on her period.
- Things I've noticed:

• I had to give oral presentation in class. I usually get nervous and flustered. My breathing increases and heart rate goes up. It happend but started to breath deeply and started to conrol it. I had a speach thought up and I performed it like I thought it. You know how you usually f_uck up when speaking in public and all you wanted to say escapes and you cant remember. It seemed like I was more focused and had more self-control. Now is this no jerking off helping? I think so, whatever I'm doing and it gives me this self-confidence I like it.

• I usually don't do this. On occasion. But today it was like somebody lit a fire up under my a$$. I made eye contact with most girls. There were a few who didn't but they seemed too busy in their drama worlds and in their lives. Said hi and had strong eye contact with 5 great looking honeys.

• Kino'ed a girl in class who I never touched in casual/flirty manner before. Maybe once when I introduced myself.

• Have been on fire with doing my homework.

So far I'm noticing great improvement. If I quit now I have to built up this much again next time and it will seem like a waist of time.
Its a combo of wanting to improve and using no jerking off as a method of self-control and being more sexual with girls (as Pook preaches - agree 100%.

But today was the worst day yet. I've wanted to quit numerous amount of times.

Didn't really get any of these miracle confidence/energy some of you are talking about though....

In fact i wen't 15 days recently and didn't feel any of that. Only thing i felt was this intence animalistic drive to snatch the first woman that looked decent and tear off her clothes with my teeth before physically desecrating her ^^

Btw, if you are really serious about this you will HAVE to have sex about once every 3 weeks (atleast) because if you don't, and you don't wack either then you will blow your load in your sleep and you'll end up with a nice mess to clean up in the middle of the night ;-)

Back to topic. I successfully completed 7 days and i am on day 8 now. I was tempted to masturbate during day 6 and 7, so i stroked it a few times just for kicks. I was amazed by the rush of good feelings it gave me. It was almost like feeling the dopamine (chemical in body that provides us a feeling of pleasure) rushing through my spine.

Not masturbating for a few days definitely brings back those great feelings that we lose if we do it daily. I then stopped in order to avoid succombing to the pleasure and going all the way.

Still going...

Day 2: I can still feel the difference between myself 3 days ago, when I hadn't ejaculated for 6 days, and now. I'm not quite as motivated or energetic. However, I still feel better than I normally do, when I would masturbate daily. My goal is to reduce output to 1 wank for every 10-14 days.

Oh, besides that.. I'm feeling great. As I said earlier, knowing that masturbating is NOT on the schedule, helps.. since it's not an option, I have a lot of free time haha. And, obeying law no.2 I get moving and do ****, organize stuff I should have done months ago, paper work etc.. but I felt without... motivation, mood to do so.

I'm on day 6 and I feel like punching someone. I notice that I'm taking a lot less **** from people. I also had a sex dream last night but I didn't "release", so it's still been 6 days.

Wow guys, I always thought I am the only one with addiction here :crackup:

Day 9 here. There are moments when I can't focus on anything but sex but generally I feel more awake, stronger and more confident. I feel like kicking some ass. This surge of energy is awesome, feels great to be what we're meant to be.

Let's see if I can go for a month ;-)

I read somewhere (T-nation, I think) that while masturbation decreases test levels, having sex does not (for whatever reason). I got laid last night and this morning, and still feeling as energetic as ever. On the minus side, it didn't really give me relief. Tomorrow, I'll be as horny as I was today.

Go team!

Day 4...

 

[twilight]

Excellent post Jipii! I really like this quote here (who is this quote from by the way?):

"Stop the masturbation, cut it off. Get your sexual gratification from real sex. If you are only jacking off, you are fooling your unconcious mind to make it think that masturbation is real sex. Stop it right now and get real sex. When you stop masurbation you are more active, you will approach more women and you will see them as only source of real sex gratification, not your hand. It is essetial. Force yourself not to masturbate untill you fill your sexual desire with the roots: real sex with women bodies. That way your mind will be educated in few moths after few sexual encounters."

 

[Æquitas]

**** **** **** I cant believe it! I blew it each time I watch a porn, and I mean each damn time. I've tried to watch porn and not blow it at the same time. Yet when its time to stop, I keep watching more and more until my horniness exploded and I need a towel. **** **** ****.

 

[MaverickBow]

**** **** **** I cant believe it! I blew it each time I watch a porn, and I mean each damn time. I've tried to watch porn and not blow it at the same time. Yet when its time to stop, I keep watching more and more until my horniness exploded and I need a towel. **** **** ****.

As I said before. The only reason for watching porn is to masterbate. So if you are trying to stop spanking that monkey then STOP WATCHING PORN!!

Its as simple as that.

 

[Oxide]

As of 5 minutes ago I almost broke the 16 day streak. Great looking girls in porn are fukking evil when it comes to temptation.

One thing is for sure -i am having more sexual dreams, and pretty wild ones at that. Horniness is going up rapidly, this will probably end in something.....

 

[PumpNightmare]

I tried last week...lasted four days. Posting here now to try to help me stick with it. It's been one day now. Twenty more to go. Good buy pr0n. I deleted 30 gigs in Janaury in hopes to cut down. It turns out I only downloaded more, new pr0n or got off on fully clothed pics. <.< I need to break the habit. I know I waste to much time in a day visiting sites like empornium and 4chan type sites.

One day and couting as of 2006/4/19

 

[chickenlegs03]

1/21: success
2/21: success
3/21: success
4/21: success
5/21: (today, pending)

 

[twilight]

7/21

 

[muttley]

2/21 - 18 april 06
:wave:

4/21 - 20 april 06

 

[chickenlegs03]

1/21: success
2/21: success
3/21: success
4/21: success
5/21: success
6/21: (today, pending)

 

[longwood]

I'm in seriously, but tommorrow will have to be day one for me because, well... u know

 

[PumpNightmare]

Alright, 2/21. And I deleted every scrap of pr0n on my computer to help me out. I did four days last week...I can do it again...and longer...maybe. I don't know if it's wise to do with finals next week, but maybe it'll save me from me wasting time from jacking off (literaly!).

 

[twilight]

8/21

Day Eight. Interesting side effect my dreams have gotten more vivid.

 

[Byezbozhniy]

This thread has cracked me up. I commend all of you guys. Since starting masturbation I've not gone more than 5 days without it, how you guys have managed to abstain so long I'll never know. You must be getting tail regular, that's the only possible explanation for this. Count me in though. This will no doubt be tough, but is something I've been thinking of trying for a while.

1/0 - Feeling pressure already.

 

[twilight]

>This thread has cracked me up. I commend all of you guys. Since starting masturbation I've not gone more than 5 days without it, how you guys have managed to abstain so long I'll never know.

Well, you're about to find out my friend...

>You must be getting tail regular, that's the only possible explanation for this. Count me in though. This will no doubt be tough, but is something I've been thinking of trying for a while.

Most guys in this thread are not. It requires discipline, checking in everyday sharing your progress, drawing strength from each other collectively, and TOTAL deletion of ALL porn in your possession. If one doesn't do this, from what we've seen and experienced YOU WILL FAIL. We are also taking this opportunity to approach more women, refine our skills, and through this gratify our sexual desires exclusively through real sex. And believe me, the extra testosterone will give you that push you need to talk to more women.

1/0 - Feeling pressure already.[/QUOTE]

And that would be 1/21 for you actually lol.

Welcome.

 

[PumpNightmare]

Okay, 3/21. I'm feeling horny as all hell. Even though I've only had four hours of sleep during hte past two days (finals coming up next week), I feel like I have energy. But damn it, it's hard to keep my mind off of sex, even w/o pr0n on my computer or me staying out away from home. I can do this...

 

[big_pimp]

i just went 10 days and i had alot more energy when i didnt wack off but now i am on day 2 and this time im goin for 21 days!

 

[Eccentric]

Hmm... I'll try this. :rock: