It still amazes me

[Stagger Lee]

It still amazes me how females can lose all interest in you at the drop of a hat for no good reason. It's like making plans with a guy then later canceling them and never talking to the guy again is no more to them than a person taking a sh!t is.

How any men could have experienced this common female behavior and ever concluded that women should be treated with "equality" or equal with men is a big joke. It's obvious that woman are operating on an instinctive/emotional, no honor system of the level of an animal and deserve about the same respect/free reign as the family dog.

The latest example of this is I met this woman and made plans with her I think Sunday maybe Saturday for the next Tuesday night. I did not contact her again. She contacted me Monday night or maybe Tuesday afternoon asking if we were still on. I'm thinking wow, I met one of the few women who could keep plans for longer than a day or two and without me even keeping her primed up along the way. How naive of me to think any women is capable of keeping her word.

So we meet Tuesday night and she seems into me. We make out, but I can't get her to go home with me so I'm suspicious of her interest level. But she seems into me and so we make plans to meet Friday night. She contacts me Friday afternoon and says we're still on. A few hours later she cancels saying she has to "help her friend who is having a personal crisis". Total bull, you know she jumped on some other c0ck that became available at the last minute.

 

[Fly By Night]

Idk, man. Maybe she is looking for a guy to invest 10 months of platonic dating (exaggeration) before she lets you touch her. By trying to get her to come back with you, she now thinks you are a sleaze/playa. How much persistence did you put on getting her to come home with you?

 

[Stagger Lee]

Idk, man. Maybe she is looking for a guy to invest 10 months of platonic dating (exaggeration) before she lets you touch her. By trying to get her to come back with you, she now thinks you are a sleaze/playa. How much persistence did you put on getting her to come home with you?

That's not what's happening at all. We were making out in the bar. I only asked if she wanted to go back to her place once and when she said she didn't want to on the first night I left it at that, and we started making out.

The main point isn't what happened or not on the first meet up. We made plans to meet up 3 days later which would've been last night. She said we were on yesterday afternoon and cancelled a few hours later. She simply hopped on another c0ck that came avaliable at the last minute.

 

[Kbomb]

It still amazes me how females can lose all interest in you at the drop of a hat for no good reason. It's like making plans with a guy then later canceling them and never talking to the guy again is no more to them than a person taking a sh!t is.

How any men could have experienced this common female behavior and ever concluded that women should be treated with "equality" or equal with men is a big joke. It's obvious that woman are operating on an instinctive/emotional, no honor system of the level of an animal and deserve about the same respect/free reign as the family dog.

The latest example of this is I met this woman and made plans with her I think Sunday maybe Saturday for the next Tuesday night. I did not contact her again. She contacted me Monday night or maybe Tuesday afternoon asking if we were still on. I'm thinking wow, I met one of the few women who could keep plans for longer than a day or two and without me even keeping her primed up along the way. How naive of me to think any women is capable of keeping her word.

So we meet Tuesday night and she seems into me. We make out, but I can't get her to go home with me so I'm suspicious of her interest level. But she seems into me and so we make plans to meet Friday night. She contacts me Friday afternoon and says we're still on. A few hours later she cancels saying she has to "help her friend who is having a personal crisis". Total bull, you know she jumped on some other c0ck that became available at the last minute.

Jesus man, you really need to chill the **** out. Your hatin hard man. Take er easy and lay back. It ain't that serious. Don't be a ***** just because women have sexual prerogative. There are biological reasons why women are more choosy than men and none of them have to do with your terribly small and easy to rile ego.

 

[Stagger Lee]

Jesus man, you really need to chill the **** out. Your hatin hard man. Take er easy and lay back. It ain't that serious. Don't be a ***** just because women have sexual prerogative. There are biological reasons why women are more choosy than men and none of them have to do with your terribly small and easy to rile ego.

You are a royal jacka$$. No one said anything against women being more "choosy". When a female makes plans with you then she's made her choice. The fact that they can't make a choice and keep it, shows that they are not able to make a choice beyond a fleeting impulse. Cap'n-Save-a-ho what else do females do that you are going to defend and find acceptable?

You are missing the point of how fast a woman can drop all interest in you with no more thought than a person taking a dump, yet lie to you all along. You could be in a LTR with a female just got engaged, had great sex and the next day she tells you she's breaking up and you later find shes fvcking your best friend. Stone cold.

You're generalizing things. What makes you think guys don't flake with a girl who they don't give a **** about ?

It doesn't happen near as often but its two different things. Women don't generally make plans with a guy they are not interested/attracted to in the first place. The difference is the man was never really interested in the women to begin with so there was no sudden loss of interest.

 

[ScottMustaine]

You're generalizing things. What makes you think guys don't flake with a girl who they don't give a **** about ?

 

[Plutoman]

You're generalizing things. What makes you think guys don't flake with a girl who they don't give a **** about ?

I have, personally, so I can say it's not just women. Not my proudest moments, but it happens.

Realize that there's any number of things that can go on to make her flake on you, regardless of what the initial impression is.

Stagger Lee, why would you assume it's two entirely different things? There's a whole host of reasons on either side, situation to situation, it will be different. **** happens, essentially, and sometimes it is out of your control.

To be honest, it sounds like you got a bit too attached to the girl, too fast, and have just channeled the frustration into anger at her over the situation. No offense intended, and I'm not an expert, nor do I know you, but that's what I'm seeing on a first glance.

 

[floydb25]

I agree, but ONLY when youve been together for a good while. In the beginning, there should be NO expectations. Even if they think the world of you. Thats just infatuation, and will fade - especially if you dont match the unrealistic image theyve made of you in their head. This also varies on the attractive - stuck up nature of the person.

Youre taking this too seriously. Nobody owes anyone anything, and you should never assume that people are going to be polite, kind, respectful, civil, and decent about these things. And just being treated with no regard shows you what kind of people they really are. Thats why you pay attention to how they treat those theyre NOT interested in (be it friendship, dating, or otherwise). Thats how theyre going to treat YOU once they lose interest - disregarded, insulted, avoided, looked down upon, bullied, laughed at, etc.

Theres a lot of crappy people out there. ****, you should go IN expecting trash at the bar.

 

[Stagger Lee]

The main point is you can't have any expectations of females ever no matter how long you've been dating/fvcking them or even married. Women are socialized to not be held to any expectations, so that becomes the new norm.

You guys can twist it any way you want, but its poor behavior. If women regularly break plans then they shouldn't be making plans, but they don't want to be spontaneous. This is putting the burden all on the man. It's easy to sit back and say oh don't worry about it, when you're not the one that set a Friday night aside to be blindsided at the last minute.

It's not normal behavior but has become normal and common when you have so much oversupply of d!ck for every girl. The quickness women will completely drop one guy for another that comes along is astounding.

 

[Huffman]

Damn, I've been doing the same to girls recently... so I can tell you why it happens.

You feel a bit down, then someone shows you interest... you're not really interested, but don't have anything better for now, so you lead them on just to see if you "still have it", and boost your ego.

Now if some random other thing happens which also boosts your ego (like having a good day at the gym), then suddenly you don't need that girl/guy anymore, and you notice how you weren't actually interested from the beginning. Once you have to invest some effort (like going on a date), you call it quits.

Yeah, that's it. They were never interested from the beginning. People are hobags.

 

[Plutoman]

I'm not a big fan of weekend dates till the third or fourth date and on (exceptions occur for something quick, like coffee). Less of a time commitment, less time lost in the case of a flake. I may be spontaneous and ask a girl out with me on a friday night, but in that case, it's being spontaneous, and not actually making plans for it.

You can have certain expectations of a woman, and if you screen properly, they'll hold to them if you've dated them for longer than 2-3 dates. If you don't screen properly, you'll get slammed later.

The question becomes making yourself more of a prize than the other guy. Yeah, if the women thinks you aren't worth anything - she's going to go for someone else. If she values you higher than whatever guys are hitting on her, she's going to concern herself with you, not them. Value, in this case, can mean all kinds of things, but that's what it comes down to.

The differences lies in that good looking girls are (typically) not desperate. That's gonna play a big factor in to how and when they choose when to go out.

Edit: Definitely what Huffman said. 100% agree.

 

[Trump]

It just shows to her character, nothing against you. You cant control how women act, they are going to do what they are going to do.

Bro you can't let women like this get to you, it's exactly what they want. Make you angry, bitter, frustrated, They don't care how they are perceived, they just want to get to your emotions to say "look how valuable my body is, I can spin your emotions upside down and not even touch you.

A slut is a slut, better you know now than 1 year down the road. As Nicole Kidman said in Eyes Wide Shut, a woman would sacrifice everything her one night of awesome sex with a stranger.

 

[zekko]

Women, especially attractive women, have a lot more options than guys do so they get distracted easily. You might be just another guy to them. If men had as many options, a lot of them would be the same way. Except men are more likely to have a conscience about it, and stick to their commitments once they have made them.

That's why I've always said men must be the leaders in morality and standards of behavior, because the women certainly aren't going to do it. A lot of guys here equate morality with femininity, which couldn't possibly be any more wrong.

 

[Mike32ct]

Damned if you do. Damned if you don't.

If you ask her to go home with you (or back to her place) on the first date, you risk turning off a chick that MIGHT bang on the third date because she thinks you only care about scoring.

But she seemed quite into you, so if you didn't try to seal the deal, then she might get turned off (and disappear) because you didn't seize her "limited time offer" to F her.

It's always a gamble in this game.

But I understand your point. I mean if I'm attracted to female today, I'll still be attracted to her a month from now. Women can change their minds and back out all of a sudden with no warning.

 

[nismo-4]

Damned if you do. Damned if you don't.

If you ask her to go home with you (or back to her place) on the first date, you risk turning off a chick that MIGHT bang on the third date because she thinks you only care about scoring.

But she seemed quite into you, so if you didn't try to seal the deal, then she might get turned off (and disappear) because you didn't seize her "limited time offer" to F her.

It's always a gamble in this game.

But I understand your point. I mean if I'm attracted to female today, I'll still be attracted to her a month from now. Women can change their minds and back out all of a sudden with no warning.

All women have options.

Some better than others.

Women know just how far they want you to get with them. If you try to advance, you'll hit a brick wall.

 

[Fatal Jay]

stagger lee this chick playing games now

cause you didnt keep your **** in your pocket

once you hinted you wanted vagina,thats when you put her on a high pedestal without even knowing

 

[Stagger Lee]

This actually is a great example of how women are "not all nice and sweet".

They have motives just as much as men have motives.

The difference being that men generally stick to their word. Honor means something to men. The exception being those men who are generally selfish and psychopathic in nature. Something which equates a lot to most women, being the slaves to their feelings that they are.

The funny thing about women. I find that in the beginning, the less time I spend talking to them through text or whatever, the more likely they are to flake. The more you talk to them in the beginning, the more likely you put yourself in the friend-zone.

There is a sweet spot in the middle. You have to try and find that spot.

Yes exactly, women act instinctively/emotionally/impulsively without any honor like an animal, yet they know its not good behavior. Like you said a guy has to always walk a tight rope of too much contact vs not enough. What sort of was extreme about this situation is I never texted her the 2 days before she met the first time or 2 days before this last schedule meet up. Yet, she texted me THAT morning she was still on only to cancel a few hours later.

To clear some things up in the replies, I'm not angry or that upset about this girl flaking, just tired of typical female behavior in general and this is a good example. Also, on the first meet up, I made out with her and made plans for Friday AFTER she said she didn't want to go back to her place on the first night. Bottomline is there was really nothing I did or didn't do per se. She just did a sudden c0ck hop as females are prone to do.

 

[msi]

What if her friend was actually having a personal crisis?

I've been blown off, I'll be blown off again, but if a girl flakes/politely cancels/declines for whatever reason I'll give them the benefit of the doubt as long as their excuse doesn't sound like total BS. But they only get two chances.

 

[Kbomb]

Yes exactly, women act instinctively/emotionally/impulsively with nto a ny honor like an animal, yet they know its not good beahvior. Like you said a guy has to always walk a tight rope of too much contact vs not enough. What sort of was extreme about this situation is I never texted her the 2 days before she met the first time and or 2 days before this last schedule meet up. Yet, she texted me THAT morning she was still on only to cancel a few hours later.

To clear some things up in the replies, I'm not angry or that upset about this girl flaking, just tired of typical female behavior in general and this is a good example. Also, on the first meet up, I made out with her and made plans for Friday AFTER she said she didn't want to go back to her place on the first night. Bottomline is there was really nothing I did or didn;t do per se. She just did a sudden c0ck hop as females are prone to do.

not any honor like an animal?

Dude, men are the same way. Don't be hating on women because you can't handle it. Its bull****, men are exactly the same way. How many single moms exist because men have no scruples and don't care that they aren't contributing to their own children's lives?

Its a two way street and its not just women.

 

[Kbomb]

Unwed mothers exist due to the woman's inability to choose a quality mate. If she didn't spread her legs so easily, or if she looked at men for something other than how hot they are then it would not be an issue.

But of course, you blame the man she chose to fvk, instead of holding the woman accountable for her poor choice in men. And then, like the rest of society, you expect the rest of us to pay the price for her poor decisions.

Right and that can't be an indictment on all men because why?

There are dirtbags in both genders. To discriminate against the one because your ego is hurt is blind ignorance.