HaleyBaron
Master Don Juan
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I am going to play devil's advocate for a second to when we say "Next" to anyone that has a woman that is ****testing them too much or disrespecting them. It's the right answer for when you barely know the person, but when it's a girl you've been around for a while, it is unavoidable to have a connection to her. It does not have to be love, but it's still an attachment. I am going to use a situation that recently happened for myself.
There is a girl I was fwb with for a good six to eight years, one of my longterm plates. I would have married her if we had not been long distance for most of it. We mostly only met and **** whenever we had to the time to go somewhere together. Naturally, that was back in my bp days. As time went, she realized that I wasn't into her as she thought. Or rather, she wanted me to see her as a gf. We had many a time where I said simply we were both too busy to do things like that. We both had careers. Though I could see what she really wanted: me to sweep her off her feet and marry her and start a family. I could have done that, but I have bigger ambitions. Then she started seeing I was hanging with other women. The wheel was turning in her head and she began questioning me being out with other girls. Odd cause I always said to her we were doing this for fun.
She changed since those days, becoming more pissy and the usual ****testing elevation you see girls do. I've repeated for us to break it off many times, mostly cause she didn't want to come see me as much anymore [for sexual reasons]. However, she still wanted my attention and cried when I said we should separate since she wasn't feeling anything anymore. The knowledge I've gained really helped me basically disarm her when she went into feminist mode. You know how it goes, a woman gets angry or sad a guy isn't perfect, goes online, then comes back to you repeating everything the scorned women say. I disarmed all of it by not acknowledging it and she became a docile girl again once I put her mistakes back in her face. Another day of sex, but then she returns to feminist mode the next week.
I stopped replying to her. I ignored the messages and phone calls she attempted. Eventually she sent her final text that she is gone so our separation is official. Throughout all of that, it hurt man. Despite being a man, that sh*t is still hard to take. It's like standing inside the house as someone beats on the door but you're not able to answer. It's a cold dreary feeling that I have not felt in a long time. Is it guilt? Is it disdain? Maybe leftover feminism still embedded in me from lessons of chivalry instilled by our society? Likely all of the above. I've known men who were soldiers that speak easily about killing women that tried to kill them overseas. But would they be just as quick to kill a loved one trying to do the same? That's how it felt: like I was killing her. What I was really doing was killing our attachment, and that's like taking Old Yeller out the back and shooting it.
Shi*t's not easy and I don't think it ever gets easier. Or maybe it does.
There is a girl I was fwb with for a good six to eight years, one of my longterm plates. I would have married her if we had not been long distance for most of it. We mostly only met and **** whenever we had to the time to go somewhere together. Naturally, that was back in my bp days. As time went, she realized that I wasn't into her as she thought. Or rather, she wanted me to see her as a gf. We had many a time where I said simply we were both too busy to do things like that. We both had careers. Though I could see what she really wanted: me to sweep her off her feet and marry her and start a family. I could have done that, but I have bigger ambitions. Then she started seeing I was hanging with other women. The wheel was turning in her head and she began questioning me being out with other girls. Odd cause I always said to her we were doing this for fun.
She changed since those days, becoming more pissy and the usual ****testing elevation you see girls do. I've repeated for us to break it off many times, mostly cause she didn't want to come see me as much anymore [for sexual reasons]. However, she still wanted my attention and cried when I said we should separate since she wasn't feeling anything anymore. The knowledge I've gained really helped me basically disarm her when she went into feminist mode. You know how it goes, a woman gets angry or sad a guy isn't perfect, goes online, then comes back to you repeating everything the scorned women say. I disarmed all of it by not acknowledging it and she became a docile girl again once I put her mistakes back in her face. Another day of sex, but then she returns to feminist mode the next week.
I stopped replying to her. I ignored the messages and phone calls she attempted. Eventually she sent her final text that she is gone so our separation is official. Throughout all of that, it hurt man. Despite being a man, that sh*t is still hard to take. It's like standing inside the house as someone beats on the door but you're not able to answer. It's a cold dreary feeling that I have not felt in a long time. Is it guilt? Is it disdain? Maybe leftover feminism still embedded in me from lessons of chivalry instilled by our society? Likely all of the above. I've known men who were soldiers that speak easily about killing women that tried to kill them overseas. But would they be just as quick to kill a loved one trying to do the same? That's how it felt: like I was killing her. What I was really doing was killing our attachment, and that's like taking Old Yeller out the back and shooting it.
Shi*t's not easy and I don't think it ever gets easier. Or maybe it does.
