Background Info:
There is a University near where I live that has a ton of Asian exchange students studying English. I come across new Japanese, Korean, and Taiwanese girls every day just by walking around my neighborhood. They all seem really excited to talk to me and eagerly give me their contact info. They usually do not have American phone numbers and I contact them through a smartphone app called LINE which apparently everyone in Asia uses. This limits me to texting with them, whereas I prefer talking on the phone to set up dates. They ALWAYS travel in packs. I have not come across a group of less than three yet.
My issue:
Whenever I try to text (hate doing it this way, but no choice) one of these girls to set up a date, they ask if they can invite their friends along. If I answer no and make clear it is a date between her and me, I either get an excuse or no response. If I say yes, then it turns into a group hangout instead of a date. I have only had one exception to this when the girl (Korean) had made plans with me but her group had made other plans. Out of obligation to our plans, she met with me alone, had a great time, and I kiss closed her. She had no problem meeting me alone after that and the second date had a happy ending. But other than luck getting rid of bothersome friends, I am at a loss on isolating these girls. I'm thinking it is a cultural thing because I find it pretty easy to isolate American women. It feels like mission impossible with these chicks. I think it is maybe a cultural thing. Am I moving too fast? I like a good challenge but am open to any ideas or experiences anyone else has had with isolating Asian (from Asian, mostly Japanese) women.
Sample Texting:
Me: Hi ____! It was nice meeting you I'm going to a festival this Saturday. Would you like to join me?
Her: Good evening JonJuan! Me too but, I was sorry... lol (Not sure what the sorry was about. Maybe she was saying it in advance for the pending rejection)
Her: Wow! What's festival? Can i invite UG1 and UG2? I want to go together (Her predicted response makes me cringe)
Me: I would like to go alone with you (Trying to make sure she knows this is a date, not a hangout)
Her: hum... I'm sorry, I don't think I will like festival
There is a University near where I live that has a ton of Asian exchange students studying English. I come across new Japanese, Korean, and Taiwanese girls every day just by walking around my neighborhood. They all seem really excited to talk to me and eagerly give me their contact info. They usually do not have American phone numbers and I contact them through a smartphone app called LINE which apparently everyone in Asia uses. This limits me to texting with them, whereas I prefer talking on the phone to set up dates. They ALWAYS travel in packs. I have not come across a group of less than three yet.
My issue:
Whenever I try to text (hate doing it this way, but no choice) one of these girls to set up a date, they ask if they can invite their friends along. If I answer no and make clear it is a date between her and me, I either get an excuse or no response. If I say yes, then it turns into a group hangout instead of a date. I have only had one exception to this when the girl (Korean) had made plans with me but her group had made other plans. Out of obligation to our plans, she met with me alone, had a great time, and I kiss closed her. She had no problem meeting me alone after that and the second date had a happy ending. But other than luck getting rid of bothersome friends, I am at a loss on isolating these girls. I'm thinking it is a cultural thing because I find it pretty easy to isolate American women. It feels like mission impossible with these chicks. I think it is maybe a cultural thing. Am I moving too fast? I like a good challenge but am open to any ideas or experiences anyone else has had with isolating Asian (from Asian, mostly Japanese) women.
Sample Texting:
Me: Hi ____! It was nice meeting you I'm going to a festival this Saturday. Would you like to join me?
Her: Good evening JonJuan! Me too but, I was sorry... lol (Not sure what the sorry was about. Maybe she was saying it in advance for the pending rejection)
Her: Wow! What's festival? Can i invite UG1 and UG2? I want to go together (Her predicted response makes me cringe)
Me: I would like to go alone with you (Trying to make sure she knows this is a date, not a hangout)
Her: hum... I'm sorry, I don't think I will like festival