Is your ex really that great?

[Immaculate]

Re: You're freaking 26!

Originally posted by WestCoaster
C'mon man, you're 26 and pining over a 35-year old?! Dude, the world is your toy box. You can date women from 18 to 30 (and older if you'd like).

Snap out of it, this woman isn't a keeper, isn't golden or whatever. Get over her and go check out the 21-year old hotties ... please, I'm begging you.

Your life is ahead of you, I suggest you don't waste your youth. Absolutely no reason in this world to get married before 30, have fun dating, hanging out with, sleeping with, traveling with, etc. young women. That's what you should be doing. I made a lot of dumb mistakes in my 20's (including dating similar older women who conned me), dont' do it -- it's a trap.

Sheesh, find the nearest college, go walking around between classes and see the beauties. Many of them could be yours.

Snap the freak out of it -- please!! Will you please read the "oneitis" post by Rollo that I posted here. Damn, snap out of it ... she's 35, good for me, not for you.

And please blow up that pedestal you have her in your back yard.

I hear ya man... Actually I'm 27 now and I believe she's 34 .. but anyway I do need to forget this chic... Thing is we weren't even "officially" broken up.. I just wanted space to think over some things and look what happened. I guess I just want something I can never have.

Damn b!tches f*cked me again.

 

[SeldomSeen]

RE:

Was she that great in the first place?

true but she may be saying the same thing about you: Was he really great in the first place? Hahahhaa



Seriously no one can speak for everyone here. Maybe the timing was wrong, maybe there's too much sh** going on in ones life to successfully give any positive energy to a relationship, maybe someone has been emotionally damaged. I understand that no one should be put on a pedestal but there's no reason to make ex's out to be the Anti-Christ. I have some wonderful ex's, some of who I still consider distant friends and then I have those who I couldnt give a damn about because of the way they acted towards me. And Im sure there are many who couldnt give a damn about me and theres many who still care about me as a person.

 

[WestCoaster]

The reason I started this post was because this board was full of the "how do I get my ex" back stuff, and "she was wonderful, I blew it, stuff."

Immaculate is making my stomach quesy. His ex may be great, may not. My guess is she's a human being who farts, takes dumps, and sneezes and coughs like the rest of us. Immaculate has her crapping candy and her farts smelling like roses, and constantly hammering himself for letting a woman much older than him supposedly get away.

At 27 I say he's been given the freaking gift of freedom. So what if some guy with a kid has her, that was her choice, and it's Immaculate's choice to tear down the pedestal and start dating.

He -- and many others -- still haven't grasped the theory of "YOU ARE THE PRIZE" not the woman.

I wish posters here would spend time reading the DJ Bible, I really wish they would. It's not all perfect, but a lot of it is incredibly good.

You're correct, not all ex's are satan reincarnated, but 99.9 percent of them aren't worth getting back together with eitiher.

* Saw a funny book at the bookstore yesterday called, "It's a breakup because it's broken." Some funny stories there on psychos who try to get their man back. It was written for women, but parts of it are applicable to men, too. I wouldn't buy it, but it might be worth a check out at the library for those guys wanting to get back together with their old flame.

 

[WestCoaster]

Thought I'd bump this up ...

... to the top of the board.

We have more guys on here wondering about the ex.

Happy reading. I'm here to help, not criticize.

 

[SeldomSeen]

RE:

my theory is I never sweat over a loss. Only 1 out of every 5 ex's are actually cool enough to keep as some sort of friend meaning the relationship wasnt there but the friendship was. How many times have you met someone else that made you forget about that person you are so heartbroken over?
I have a great relationship with most of my Ex's, but I wasnt mature enough or they werent mature enough, or we werent ready for a full commitment or something other than the norm just made the relationship fall apart other than one of us being a psycho but the reality is that we both have gotten over it and moved on and when I see them out Im like hey whats up and they're like hi how are you...and thats it. Its all good. Now there's a few ex if I see I'd probably just ignore because they were stupid but for the most part my ex's were good people but the relationship just didnt work for reasons obviously stated.

 

[Squid]

I think it was Slick who once posted:

"Don't think about past girlfriends and what could have been, you aren't together anymore for a reason, you've just forgotten what it was...."

 

[Ricky]

I just found out that i'd probably be back with her if I hadn't vented my anger towards her in the weeks following the breakup.

FVCK.

 

[penkitten]

Originally posted by Ricky
I just found out that i'd probably be back with her if I hadn't vented my anger towards her in the weeks following the breakup.

FVCK.

what??

 

[Squid]

Originally posted by Ricky
I just found out that i'd probably be back with her if I hadn't vented my anger towards her in the weeks following the breakup.

FVCK.

Dude, did she tell you this? That's a load of bs, she's obviously playing games with your head. You have to stop beating yourself up over this, if she legitimately cared about you she would understand your anger and would be able to move past it, provided of course you weren't abusive.

I think she is just missing the attention that you gave her and is making an attempt to have you jump back on the horse and start chasing again. You should have let her know that SHE'S THE ONE WHO BLEW IT, NOT YOU, remember that.