If you hear some girl saying her ex used to beat her it goes 3 ways - either she is a psycho or he is or both are.
He might have just pushed her around a little after shed been grinding his gears for hours until he lost it and then she had good lawyers. Women are capable of putting even the most level headed person off balance if he lets them do it. Maybe the guy was sweet, but she got bored couse she married young and regretted it, and wanted to squeeze as much as she can out of the marriage before she bails out. Maybe he found out she slept with half the town unprotected while he was going down on her lol. So you can kinda get why the dude got angry if it was like this. That state of her education\intelligence is not a sign of exactly how evil she is. In fact, smart and evil women are the worst, the dumb are easier to manage. See these kinda women have this scheme:
1. Meet a guy.
2. Tell him my ex is a jerk so he treats me nice.
3. Drive him nuts.
4. Repeat step 1.
Maybe he is just the kinda jerk who beats his woman routinely but something tells me if the girl was alright she wouldnt talk about it to a stranger. I think many people are\were victims of abuse, but the ones who talk about how abused they were to relative strangers are actually abusers themselves, the victim role is VERY POWERFULL and I know people who have survived major abuse and got their **** together and dont whine and if this seems confusing, wait it gets better.
There are many scenarios, but fact is if you met her recently, and she says stuff like "My ex used to beat me." the is a THE HUGEST BRIGHT RED FLAG POSSIBLE, couse wheather true or not, she uses this to play on your Capt Save A Ho complex which all of us have as an instinct. I mean switch the roles and think, youve gone out of an abusive relationship, your girl was bad always putting you down always foolin around, and so the next girl you meet you start telling her how bad your ex was. Does this sound like someone whos over his past and has his **** together? Nope. Did she take responsibility of her part in the failed relationship (couse its a two way street)? Nope. When I think about my past for example, I can tell exactly what I did wrong. SHe obviously cant. So thats not good, not good at all.
And dont get tricked by the fact that she dont seem slutty - females are great actresses as you know and they have the habit of pretending to be something they aint in front of someone new. I see it all around - like this girl from highschool - she was the biggest possible golddigging ho back at school, always had a rich boy for a main man and a bunch of orbiting fools, but 5 years later she plays it serious hah its funny. People dont change, at least not radically. Think, why would even the most abusive jerk beat her if she was so nice and not slutty and intelligent and all?
Moreover, girls who pair with abusers, or are abusers themselves - because you dont know on which side she was now, dont listen to what she says, you just know the relationship was bad, of course she wouldnt admit shes an abuser - so these people had a troublesome childhood which they are still not over yet. Look at the parents, if they are out of reach or are **** as people, well theres your answer.
"Мy ex used to beat me" translated means "My ex was horrible so now you must feel obliged to treat me like a princess, but even then I wont be happy, because my mom left when I was 5 and then my cousin did things to me while my father was drunk and penniless, which is not your fault, but now that I think of it it is. Everything is your fault. And I will grind your gears for hours until you lose your **** and slap me so I can file another report." Yeah...
When you enter this kinda relationship, you not only carry the load of all the stuff thats normally problematic, you carry her abusive childhood and her abusive relationships on your shoulders too, which you cant do, youre only human. Expect nothing but drama created outta thin air and problems.
Just remember that she wasnt OK till some point, and then she met some jerk who abused her and fvucked up her mind. No, its never that simple, a normal girl wouldnt be with him, and I bet my ass shes lying through her teeth and he wasnt so bad.
Also the fact she seems unrealistically interested in you means she is trying to be nice this time, and is trying too hard, but the *****iness is always there beneath the surface.
Ive fallen for the professional victim shtick once,and stayed in this shtick for far longer than I shouldve, so I learnt my lesson, now if I hear a girl tell me something like this, Id never consider even dating her, Ill just throw some money on the table and leave the bar ASAP. Better safe than sorry.
REMEMBER: ITS ALWAYS MUCH MORE MAJOR ISSUES THAN "Oh, my ex abused me" Nonononononono....
. That is what people started to ask some couples.