Is Trying To Make Her Jealous A Good Idea?

[A-Man2151]

So obviously, there's this girl. I think she is a very nice girl, and someone I possibly want to get to know better. She is in a lot of my classes, but there is this other guy who is also in a lot of her classes who she seems to have taken a liking to. She continually tells me this guy has a girlfriend, and I believe her but I just see her always around him, and I don't know what to think. Me and this girl spend a lot of time together too, so it isn't unbalanced at all. So in one of my classes where this girl and her 'guy friend' both are in, I sit to her left, and he sits to her right, and there is this very attractive girl to my left. I have begun talking more and more to this girl on my left, and I'm not sure the effect it is having on the girl I like, when she sees me talking to her. We still see each other a lot, but if I am indeed making her jealous, is this a good thing, or am I giving her the impression that I don't care as much about getting to know her anymore? I don't want to send the wrong signals. Any suggestions?

 

[comic_relief]

sorry but I don't have time to read the thread. I have an interview with another person in a second

I use jealousy in my LTR not as a weapon but as a thing to let her know that I got more options then just her so she better stay in tip top shape for me. If she knows you have options, then she will keep to herself better.

 

[Juan_Man]

Never try to make a girl jealous. DJing should be natural, not synthetic.

 

[ketostix]

Yes in general making her jealous is a good idea in situations like these, especially as long as you don't make it obvious you're intentionally doing it. She's using the other guy to make you jealous. Why should you and the other guy vye for her attention, pumping up her ego?

You did the right thing by talking to the other girl. It should make your target girl snap back inline and chase you some. If it doesn't, then she wasn't serious anyway and plus you'll be getting to know the other girl in the process. She most likely knows you're interested in her already. You don't really want her to know she totally has your interest anyway.

Using competition/jealousy and let the girl chase after your validation is the strongest tactics you have in situations like these. what else do you have but the AFC route, or the vague, mythical "be a DJ/alpha male and she'll just think you're so wonderful"?