Is this too much for Valentine's day?

[TomN]

I've been dating my GF for about 3 months now. I bought her a bracelet for $35 (caught a nice deal, it's selling online now for $120), a card (plan to say something how the relationship has been great some far, can't wait to see where it goes from here), and a single red rose.

I'm going to pack a bottle of champagne and some appetizer type foods and take her out to a secluded spot we went to once (had our first kiss there). Then I'll take her back to my place afterwards.

It's a bit more unique than doing the whole dinner and 12 roses thing. Any comments/suggestions?

 

[Docs]

Sounds cool. Reply back in this thread on how she took it, and then 2 months later if you are or aren't together.

- Don't let online noobs say how stupid/AFC/sex whipped/etc. you are. Do what you want.

 

[DJDamage]

Valentine's day should be treated like every other day you two go on a date. You are putting too much into it especially in a relationship that has gone only 3 months.

You don't need the braclet and you don't need the card . She will still sleep with you without them and like you just as much.

DjDamage

 

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Originally posted by DJDamage
Valentine's day should be treated like every other day you two go on a date. You are putting too much into it especially in a relationship that has gone only 3 months.

You don't need the braclet and you don't need the card . She will still sleep with you without them and like you just as much.

DjDamage

Yeah, but atleast they have been dating a few months. It's not like it's a first date. I think the bracelet is too much and a card and the rose is more than sufficient.

It doesn't seem like he's only doing this for her, but because he wants to have a nice time and a special day. I don't see anything wrong in being romantic, even if it's on valentines day. It's not AFC to be romantic. It's only AFC to be romantic JUST FOR HER SAKE. Believe it or not, guys like romance aswell. One of my best moments with girls has been in the bathtub with soft music and candle-lights. They thought even higher of me after this and bonded more with me. They didn't think i was *****whipped because I did that stuff. As long as it's not supplicating, it's great!

I think you will have a great time and even though she would still like you had you NOT done this, she will still like you after aswell!

Good luck

 

[absolutealex]

go big or go home.. I only stun Cristal Rose circa 1988.

 

[TomN]

Yeah, I kind of thought the bracelet may be a bit too much, but I know it's something that fits her style and I got a good deal on it so I decided to buy it. Originally I was planning just to do the rose and the card.

 

[Xericx]

Originally posted by TomN
I've been dating my GF for about 3 months now. I bought her a bracelet for $35 (caught a nice deal, it's selling online now for $120), a card (plan to say something how the relationship has been great some far, can't wait to see where it goes from here), and a single red rose.

I'm going to pack a bottle of champagne and some appetizer type foods and take her out to a secluded spot we went to once (had our first kiss there). Then I'll take her back to my place afterwards.

It's a bit more unique than doing the whole dinner and 12 roses thing. Any comments/suggestions?

Sounds good to me.

 

[MightyMate]

Id sell it for 120$

 

[aftershock]

Originally posted by MightyMate
Id sell it for 120$

Spot on...

 

[ethnomethodologist]

The card is for her to read before you see her.

The rose you give to her when you first lay eyes on her, tucked behind back.

The bracelet is for the night time, give it to her after your meal.

Don't get all mushy though, and extoll your undying love for her. Keep it all romantic for valentines, don't go overboard with the opinions on love. Keep it sexy and suave all night, not sappy as a suckup.

Remember she is your GF, not your master. Keep it smooth, don't expect more than you can sesne from her, and seduce her into having her remember the moments that made her wet when she was around you. It's all about love on Tuesday, not about gaining rapport or planning the future.

Stay in the moment, don't be desperate, don't act all nonchalant if you do care. Act nonchalant when subjects that come up are killing the mood.

 

[TomN]

That's actually a good idea ethno, I'm by her dorm throughout the day so I'll slip in and throw the card under her door as I pass by. I completely agree with not confessing my undying love for her. I tried to find a card that avoided saying I love her, I don't particularly want the first time I tell her I love her to be in the form of a card. I ended up buying a card that basically said I'm glad we met, I like you, and I like spending time with you. All of which she already knows anyway.

I definitely will not get too mushy on her, I'll keep it suave. Best part of the entire thing is that she doesn't have class on Wednesdays. It should be an extremely fun night.

 

[ShizamDaMan]

Go for it. Girls want stories to tell about what their men got them for V-day to other girls, so they feel important/loved/etc.

 

[Logen]

if you feel like it then yeah, go all out with the gifts and ****. as long as you know how to make her feel special and make yourself not look pathetic and needy.

 

[Tomatoes]

Originally posted by ethnomethodologist
The card is for her to read before you see her.

The rose you give to her when you first lay eyes on her, tucked behind back.

The bracelet is for the night time, give it to her after your meal.

Don't get all mushy though, and extoll your undying love for her. Keep it all romantic for valentines, don't go overboard with the opinions on love. Keep it sexy and suave all night, not sappy as a suckup.

Remember she is your GF, not your master. Keep it smooth, don't expect more than you can sesne from her, and seduce her into having her remember the moments that made her wet when she was around you. It's all about love on Tuesday, not about gaining rapport or planning the future.

Stay in the moment, don't be desperate, don't act all nonchalant if you do care. Act nonchalant when subjects that come up are killing the mood.

/Signed

 

[ScrewIt]

there's nothing wrong with being romantic. However if it were me, i'd just give her a rose or a bouqet of flowers.

giving too much in the beginning can raise standards/expections on her end, so watch out.

 

[TomN]

Yeah, I agree, but I really don't think I'm giving that much with the bracelet. Giving a bouquet of flowers would probably end up costing me just as much as expensive as they tend to run during Valentines Day. Not to mention a bracelet lasts a hell of a lot longer, plus I know it's something she'll like and wear.

 

[TomN]

Everything went great last night. I slipped the card under her door between classes. I was going to give her the rose when I picked her up, but she called me telling me she had a few things she needed to do and that she'd drive over instead of my picking her up.

When she got here she had picked up stuff from the grocery store and said she was going to cook for me (complete surprise, the girl never cooks, she said that was the first time she's ever really prepped a meal like that). She gave me a really nice card and a framed picture of us.

I took her out for the picnic thing after we had finished our meal. Set up everything, poured us both champagne, then ran back to my car and got her gift. I ended up giving her the rose at the same time as the bracelet. She said she loved it, sweetest thing someone has ever done for her. Told me how amazing it was we met so randomly, and how she's never felt so comfortable around someone.

Ended up staying out there for a little bit over an hour, then we went back to my place. She kept saying how great of a time she had, even thanking me again when we woke up this morning. Overall great evening, everything went perfectly.

 

[tihash]

Well done!

 

[flexion_]

Well sounds like you both enjoyed it. I wouldn't make a habit of buying gifts but what the heck.