is this possible???

[golf299]

is it possible for a girl to not want to go out with you--by that i mean, she hasn't really considered it because she has no idea of your interest in her. but as soon as you show interest by asking her out, her mindset changes and she can now see you as someone she would date??

i know it's kind of an abstract question, but any insight would be helpful. thanks!

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

A great business man can knock on your door, show you the most useless piece of crap in the world that you would never have thought much of and make you go crazy over it and invest in it.


P.S. I'm not implying that you're a useless piece of crap.

 

[squirrels]

Originally posted by golf299
i know it's kind of an abstract question, but any insight would be helpful. thanks!

It's an abstract question, but you're asking it because of a concrete series of events. What are you REALLY asking us here?

 

[Paintballguy]

Its all about marketing my friend.

 

[Desdinova]

You're telling us how you're reading into a situation we don't know about. We can't give you any helpful advice if we don't know the situation.

 

[golf299]

More info, as requested...

the girl i'm referring to recently got out of a relationship. as long as i've known her (5months) she was in the relationship until about a month ago. we go to school together. she admittedly isn't ready for a relationship right now.

i'm pretty sure that she never thought of me as bf material because she had a boyfriend almost the whole time i've known her. but now she's a free bird.

i've been uping the kino with her pretty steadily and she seems comfortable with it.

so the question is: is it possible for her to have not thought about me like that before, but when i ask her out (after xmas break) her mindset could completely change?

 

[golf299]

anyone have some input??

 

[Desdinova]

she admittedly isn't ready for a relationship right now.

This may be the case, but she probably still wants a good lay. She's looking to rebound now.

is it possible for her to have not thought about me like that before, but when i ask her out (after xmas break) her mindset could completely change?

Right now, she needs a way to get laid. She's not GF material right now. If you want a fvcking relationship with her, wait about a year before you do anything.

 

[DJ Mission]

OMG, all this advice makes me sick...

Tell her that in preparation for her next relationship, she will need a warm up.....just to insure she doesnt get rusty and make mistakes....so invite her on a predate.

 

[DeathDealer]

Persistence helps.

 

[golf299]

i was thinking of just asking her out on a date when we both get back from break... it should give her some more time to get over the last relationship.

i'm just going to be persistance with respect to the kino progression, c&f, ect....then ask her on a date and see how she responds...

in regards to other posts: she is not just looking for a lay right now. she is not that kind of girl, and that's the truth.

but with respect to my original question: is it possible for a girl to not want to go out with you--by that i mean, she hasn't really considered it because she has no idea of your interest in her. but as soon as you show interest by asking her out, her mindset changes and she can now see you as someone she would date??

 

[huge_guy_pimpin]

Originally posted by golf299
i was thinking of just asking her out on a date when we both get back from break... it should give her some more time to get over the last relationship.

i'm just going to be persistance with respect to the kino progression, c&f, ect....then ask her on a date and see how she responds...

in regards to other posts: she is not just looking for a lay right now. she is not that kind of girl, and that's the truth.

but with respect to my original question: is it possible for a girl to not want to go out with you--by that i mean, she hasn't really considered it because she has no idea of your interest in her. but as soon as you show interest by asking her out, her mindset changes and she can now see you as someone she would date??

shell probably have taken the **** 13 times before next year u ask her.

 

[Wiesman44]

Women are triggered by emotions. There's only two ways in which you will generate interest

1) She thinks your hot

2) You've sparked her emotions, and she thinks your worth a shot.


Chances are, if she's seen you around and/or you have small chit chat with her, she'll think of you as nothing else. But as soon as she realizes you are hitting on her, she will make up her decision then. On the other hand, many women make their mind up on whether they think you'd be a worthy mate within the first few minutes of meeting you.


Good luck