Hello folks,
I've posted countless threads about my 3 month LDR, and hopefully you guys have the patience for one more. Before I begin I hope everyone can read this without bias against LDRs and give me their honest insight.
I hooked up with this girl before she left for college, I know I liked her insanely and all of her friends have told me she likes (or liked) me extremely. All went perfectly up until she started her third or so week of school. By that I mean she was really focusing attention on me. Constantly sending me messages on Myspace, comments on Myspace, and we did our habitual daily phono conversations.
As she started making friends, naturally she had less time to do these things, but we managed to keep the phone conversation occurence the same (which is probably the most important, Myspace comment numbers are not that important).
I've had to confront her a couple of times, which I'm sure gives her the idea that I won't put up with bull**** and to not waste my time if she wants to end the relationship. The first one was about a rumor I heard at work from the company slut that she slept with the guy she lost her virginity to tons of times instead of the one time she told me. She told me that she didn't and I believed her.
The other time was when one of her friends miscommunicated what she told her. I told her friend that I thought the relationship was coming to an end and wanted to know what she knew about what my girlfriend was thinking. She told me that my GF had told her something to the extent that, "she wants to end the relationship, but will feel bad if she had to do it and wanted me to do it". I asked her about it, and she said that is nothing close to what she said. I believed her and we kept going. I really believe her now due to the fact that her friend later apologized and told me that she meant to say, "my GF really likes me, but distance is hard and wouldn't feel as bad about losing me if I were to break up with her". I further believe her when I was drunk at a friend's party and the host left her myspace logged in. I checked her messages and one was from my GF saying that, "my friend RUINED my relationship with my boyfriend tonight, I dont' know if she thinks we can be friends after this, like it never happened".
My girl seems to have a good balance of guy/girl friends. I started getting a little jealous when she started hanging out with this one guy at college quite often (he has a girlfriend who he states he's in love with, so I don't know why I got jealous). Now she's starting to go over to this other guys house with her best friend at college quite often. Randomly in conversation she told me that this guy obviously likes her best friend.
Where I get worried is that before she left to college she was a big partier, getting drunk most weekends. She told me that she wanted to stop doing that in college because she thought it was overrated. Now she's drinking and smoking weed every weekend for about the past two weeks. I recently started partying more myself. I find it helps keep my mind off her and keeps my plates spinning.
Where I get really suspicious is last night. I was laying in bed talking to her when she was in bed as well. She recently found out she had some virus and had not been feeling well. Her best friend (who goes to that apartment more than her) came over asking to borrow her hair straightner. Suddenly she starts getting all peppy and hops out of bed. She tells me she's gotta go with her to that guys apartment to "watch out for her straightner". I said, "I thought you weren't feeling well?". To which she replies, "I'm not but like I said.". I basically tell her I'm going to bed then and I"ll talk to her tomorrow.
She sends me a text at about 6:30 AM my time before I wake up and tells me to call her when I wake up. I do and find out she's still awake at 4 AM (time difference), we have a short conversation and I'm on my way to class.
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All in all. I think she still likes me deeply, why else would we talk so much? Her friends tell me I'm the only one she ever seems to talk to on the phone, and she has admitted to me herself that she only talks to me and her bestfriend from her hometown frequently. If she was cheating why would she so openly tell me about what her friends and her do every day? She doesn't try to hide who she hangs out with and she tells me quite liberally what she does.
Your thoughts?
I've posted countless threads about my 3 month LDR, and hopefully you guys have the patience for one more. Before I begin I hope everyone can read this without bias against LDRs and give me their honest insight.
I hooked up with this girl before she left for college, I know I liked her insanely and all of her friends have told me she likes (or liked) me extremely. All went perfectly up until she started her third or so week of school. By that I mean she was really focusing attention on me. Constantly sending me messages on Myspace, comments on Myspace, and we did our habitual daily phono conversations.
As she started making friends, naturally she had less time to do these things, but we managed to keep the phone conversation occurence the same (which is probably the most important, Myspace comment numbers are not that important).
I've had to confront her a couple of times, which I'm sure gives her the idea that I won't put up with bull**** and to not waste my time if she wants to end the relationship. The first one was about a rumor I heard at work from the company slut that she slept with the guy she lost her virginity to tons of times instead of the one time she told me. She told me that she didn't and I believed her.
The other time was when one of her friends miscommunicated what she told her. I told her friend that I thought the relationship was coming to an end and wanted to know what she knew about what my girlfriend was thinking. She told me that my GF had told her something to the extent that, "she wants to end the relationship, but will feel bad if she had to do it and wanted me to do it". I asked her about it, and she said that is nothing close to what she said. I believed her and we kept going. I really believe her now due to the fact that her friend later apologized and told me that she meant to say, "my GF really likes me, but distance is hard and wouldn't feel as bad about losing me if I were to break up with her". I further believe her when I was drunk at a friend's party and the host left her myspace logged in. I checked her messages and one was from my GF saying that, "my friend RUINED my relationship with my boyfriend tonight, I dont' know if she thinks we can be friends after this, like it never happened".
My girl seems to have a good balance of guy/girl friends. I started getting a little jealous when she started hanging out with this one guy at college quite often (he has a girlfriend who he states he's in love with, so I don't know why I got jealous). Now she's starting to go over to this other guys house with her best friend at college quite often. Randomly in conversation she told me that this guy obviously likes her best friend.
Where I get worried is that before she left to college she was a big partier, getting drunk most weekends. She told me that she wanted to stop doing that in college because she thought it was overrated. Now she's drinking and smoking weed every weekend for about the past two weeks. I recently started partying more myself. I find it helps keep my mind off her and keeps my plates spinning.
Where I get really suspicious is last night. I was laying in bed talking to her when she was in bed as well. She recently found out she had some virus and had not been feeling well. Her best friend (who goes to that apartment more than her) came over asking to borrow her hair straightner. Suddenly she starts getting all peppy and hops out of bed. She tells me she's gotta go with her to that guys apartment to "watch out for her straightner". I said, "I thought you weren't feeling well?". To which she replies, "I'm not but like I said.". I basically tell her I'm going to bed then and I"ll talk to her tomorrow.
She sends me a text at about 6:30 AM my time before I wake up and tells me to call her when I wake up. I do and find out she's still awake at 4 AM (time difference), we have a short conversation and I'm on my way to class.
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All in all. I think she still likes me deeply, why else would we talk so much? Her friends tell me I'm the only one she ever seems to talk to on the phone, and she has admitted to me herself that she only talks to me and her bestfriend from her hometown frequently. If she was cheating why would she so openly tell me about what her friends and her do every day? She doesn't try to hide who she hangs out with and she tells me quite liberally what she does.
Your thoughts?
