Is this my GF's way of saying "It's over"?

[GoMars]

I don't know if this is the right forums to post in, but anyway ...



Right so my GF and I had an over-text argument 2 nights ago. It was started because she found out I had used her YouTube account to like and comment on a video of MINE.
Just as I realised that her comment was on it I went to delete it, but it was to late. She sent me "Using me to get people to like you is not cool".
I instantly responded with "Give me a break, Goodnight" --- Foolish, I know.
The following morning I sent her an apology. I realised how much of an arsehole I had been. She didn't respond.
I waited around 9 hours later, and called her. She didn't answer at first, but 10 mins later she called back.
We had a short conversation at the which she said "I'm not in the mood to talk right now" and we said goodnight.
After talking to her close friend about what happened, I sent another text to my GF. She responded with this:
"I am really, really upset and I don't want to talk about it now because I'm stressed about University and not thinking straight. I don't think we'll see each other before you go, but maybe next time you're in London when things have calmed down".
Was this a way of breaking up with me??

 

[bloodhound]

Wow. No offence but that's without question one of the dumbest reasons to get mad at your bf.

First of all, you need to accept that you've done absolutely nothing wrong to begin with. If anything, it was just an accident and her reaction to it was completely off-base. Apologising to her was a mistake as you were essentially conceding power to her by getting her to forgive you.

That's weak and you can't let her get away with **** like that. Don't put up with her drama. If I were you, I'd just respond with 'Alright then." and leave it at that. This accomplishes two things:

1.) It shows she's not pushing your buttons.
2.) It shows indifference on your part. She'll get back in touch with you sooner or later

 

[GoMars]

Wow. No offence but that's without question one of the dumbest reasons to get mad at your bf.

First of all, you need to accept that you've done absolutely nothing wrong to begin with. If anything, it was just an accident and her reaction to it was completely off-base. Apologising to her was a mistake as you were essentially conceding power to her by getting her to forgive you.

That's weak and you can't let her get away with **** like that. Don't put up with her drama. If I were you, I'd just respond with 'Alright then." and leave it at that. This accomplishes two things:

1.) It shows she's not pushing your buttons.
2.) It shows indifference on your part. She'll get back in touch with you sooner or later

It's hard to accept that I haven't done anything wrong, it really is, because you and I may think that someone we know using our YT accounts to post something is 'nothing', but the other people like my GF think otherwise.

And I think my reaction to her accusing me of using her made it worse - I don't know if you read that part.


So what should I do then?


I've thought about just giving her space and wait till she contacts me first?

 

[EvilSpirit22]

She's f*cking another dude and wanted a reason to dump you. You acted like a p*ssy by saying SORRY. Things to remember next time :-

1. Even if you cheated her, never apologise.

2. Never talk to a girl's close friend about your problems.

3. You shouldn't have texted and called her. Its her problem that she's not talking to you so why should you call?

4. Next time some girl says I am not in a mood to talk right now, Don't ever contact her again until she contacts you first.


A man commits mistakes but never apologises for it.Even if you cheat on a girl, deny it completely and never apologise. Just say Yeah I did it so? You won't talk to me? I'll make it easier for you by not talking to you. Goodbye.

 

[GoMars]

She's f*cking another dude and wanted a reason to dump you. You acted like a p*ssy by saying SORRY. Things to remember next time :-

1. Even if you cheated her, never apologise.

2. Never talk to a girl's close friend about your problems.

3. You shouldn't have texted and called her. Its her problem that she's not talking to you so why should you call?

4. Next time some girl says I am not in a mood to talk right now, Don't ever contact her again until she contacts you first.


A man commits mistakes but never apologises for it.Even if you cheat on a girl, deny it completely and never apologise. Just say Yeah I did it so? You won't talk to me? I'll make it easier for you by not talking to you. Goodbye.

She's NOT banging some other dude ... I'm 1000% confident of that, in fact I'm ready to chop of my right bollocks I'm so ****ing certain of it.

You sound horrible lol

 

[bloodhound]

You definitely need to give her some space to put things into perspective (in the process realise how incredibly DUMB a reason this is for getting pissed off). The thing I've learnt about girls is that when they're mad at you, you'll only aggravate them if you press further.

At the same time though, you gotta stand your ground and show that you won't let her walk over you like that, because it was an honest mistake. What's done is done, and she'll come to terms with it later when she's calmed down.

It's not like you killed her cat or cheated on her. You unknowingly liked your own video using her account! It's hilarious and it's not uncommon either, girls I know get facebook raped for a laugh all the time and they don't complain about it (I've done it loads of times to take the piss). Bottom line is, she needs to know that she is making mountains out of molehills.

I understand this may be a big deal for her, but its not a valid reason (by any stretch) to end a relationship. You can't enable this kind of behaviour, otherwise you're in for a rough ride later on.

Just say:

'It was an accident and nothing more. See u soon'

 

[Moroder]

A man commits mistakes but never apologises for

You're talking about boys. A man is able to admit his mistake and even apologize ... once and for all. He stands up for what he did right or wrong, but does not cringe and wince and apologize 100 times. Big difference.
OP, keep in mind that the comment was not the reason for your GF to freak out, just the tipping point. Women have trouble addressing their issues, so they freak out on occasion of minor bullsh!t, not because of it. Good luck and keep it up.

 

[El Payaso]

You made several mistakes.

- You backpedaled on your initial response.
- You apologized which reinforced in her mind that she was right.
- You became needy and desperate by constantly calling and texting her.

So what's your best course of action now?

Do nothing. That's right. Do nothing. Continue living your life. Have fun. Focus on work or school. Don't give her a moment's thought. Let her come around on her own time. When she contacts you, keep it brief and don't mention anything about the incident. Absolutely do not apologize again if she contacts you.

Also, in reference to the other posters above. There is nothing wrong in apologizing. As a man, when you know you're wrong and you apologize, do it under three conditions. From a position of power, without being dependent on the outcome that she forgives you and without being needy.

 

[EvilSpirit22]

She's NOT banging some other dude ... I'm 1000% confident of that, in fact I'm ready to chop of my right bollocks I'm so ****ing certain of it.

You sound horrible lol

That's what I said when all the members told me the same.

Do one thing apologise and beg her to take you back. This advice works for pussies every time.

Its our job to help you, you don't want our suggestion, kindly ignore it. Its not us who are coming to ask you for your help.

And I bet your ass she will bring another guy in the picture. Just wait and watch. And yeah go beg her to take you back, buy a gift. (Recommended for guys who can't stand up for themselves.)

 

[Zarky]

Don't know, OP, but for future reference, this is how a man apologizes...

If you legitimately think that your action was wrong, you say, "You know what, you're absolutely right, I apologize." And then you shut the f*ck up about it. You don't go on and on. You apologize directly, sincerely, like a man, and then you put it behind you.

If the b*tch can't take that as a sincere apology and move on with life, then you no-contact her until she's over whatever butthurtness she's feeling.

If she continues on and on and you can't no-contact her, you say, "Like I said, you were right and I apologize. Now, let's move on." That's it.

 

[Harry Wilmington]

In answer to your question: yes, she's trying to dump you. Anytime a woman gets irrationally angry over something this stupid, it's because she was losing interest but couldn't find any real reason to get rid of you, so they find the nitpickiest thing they can so they can blow it out of proportion, get "mad" at you, and use it to get rid of you.

 

[GoMars]

Its our job to help you, you don't want our suggestion, kindly ignore it. Its not us who are coming to ask you for your help.

Hey hey hey!

Don't get butthurt I'm ignoring yours

 

[GoMars]

You definitely need to give her some space to put things into perspective (in the process realise how incredibly DUMB a reason this is for getting pissed off). The thing I've learnt about girls is that when they're mad at you, you'll only aggravate them if you press further.

At the same time though, you gotta stand your ground and show that you won't let her walk over you like that, because it was an honest mistake. What's done is done, and she'll come to terms with it later when she's calmed down.

It's not like you killed her cat or cheated on her. You unknowingly liked your own video using her account! It's hilarious and it's not uncommon either, girls I know get facebook raped for a laugh all the time and they don't complain about it (I've done it loads of times to take the piss). Bottom line is, she needs to know that she is making mountains out of molehills.

I understand this may be a big deal for her, but its not a valid reason (by any stretch) to end a relationship. You can't enable this kind of behaviour, otherwise you're in for a rough ride later on.

Just say:

'It was an accident and nothing more. See u soon'

OK, thanks for your brilliant, sound advice from the beginning!

The thing is I knowingly used her YT account. She was signed when I was using YT to listen to music. I saw she was signed in and I thought "**** it why not?".

I've facebook raped her before ... and she laughed a hell load. She even said "You facebook raping me is not as bad as using my YT account" lol ...

I know she's crazy, but I like her all the same. :flowers:

 

[EvilSpirit22]

Hey hey hey!

Don't get butthurt I'm ignoring yours

Not man enough to accept the truth/reality. Eat the sugarcoated bull**** which would make you feel good about yourself. Peace!

 

[GoMars]

Not man enough to accept the truth/reality. Eat the sugarcoated bull**** which would make you feel good about yourself. Peace!

Stubborn and arrogant too?

I'm sure A LOT of people take your advice :crackup:

 

[EvilSpirit22]

No fcks given to you man. You were ignored by god, who am I to give a fck to you.

 

[Bokanovsky]

Stubborn and arrogant too?

I'm sure A LOT of people take your advice :crackup:

Actually, his advice is on point. If your girl is not riding some other guy's d!ck already, she will be soon. That's why she's so snappy with you. She's looking for any excuse to break up with you and make it look like it's your fault.

 

[Riprock713]

You made several mistakes.

- You backpedaled on your initial response.
- You apologized which reinforced in her mind that she was right.
- You became needy and desperate by constantly calling and texting her.

So what's your best course of action now?

Do nothing. That's right. Do nothing. Continue living your life. Have fun. Focus on work or school. Don't give her a moment's thought. Let her come around on her own time. When she contacts you, keep it brief and don't mention anything about the incident. Absolutely do not apologize again if she contacts you.

Also, in reference to the other posters above. There is nothing wrong in apologizing. As a man, when you know you're wrong and you apologize, do it under three conditions. From a position of power, without being dependent on the outcome that she forgives you and without being needy.

Very wise words, I'm learning new things from this site every day!

 

[Bible_Belt]

She's looking for any excuse to break up with you and make it look like it's your fault.

I was going to say the same thing. It sounds like one of them is going away to school and they are about to be a long-distance relationship?

When a woman picks a fight, the real issue causing the fight is very rarely the subject of the fight.

 

[salinechow]

Moved to other thread for OP.