Induced Drag
Don Juan
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This is a lot longer than I intended.
I've been dating one of my plates, Sara for about 9 months. She's a tall hot blond, 8 hb. We haven't seen each other for about a month and a half but have spoken. The problems all started when we didn't talk for 3 weeks because of my depression which she suffers from too. We spoke and I told her about my depression. She understood and we moved on. Then, she left for CA for a week. We spoke while she was in CA and she said, "don't freak out but I think when I get back we should spend a lot more time together. Almost live together." I said we should spend more time together, even though this did freak me out a little. She then tells me the school pushed back the class she went there to take by 2 weeks. So now she's there for 3 weeks. I find that really strange. I've never heard of a class being rescheduled so soon to it starting. Two weeks ago she came back home but hasn't made much attempt to contact me.
Let me back up and give some history about her. I know she's had skin cancer and was involved in a bad car accident that resulted in her loosing the cartilage in her left knee. She's on meds for her knee pain, depression, ADD and OCD. Also, she was supposedly raped when she was 17. The cops said it was a he said she said deal and nothing became of it. A few years later she was physically abused by an ex. She also had an unplanned child with this abusive ex. She gave up the child for adoption. She doesn't get along with her dad at all. He's allegedly kicked her out of the house twice. Once after her rape the second was after she became pregnant. So, in addition to all of this she has daddy issues. I can't tell you how many times we've been at my house and she's cried about something. I've met her parents many times. They love me. I think it's either she's one of the most unlucky people I've ever met or she's full of it. BTW we haven't had sex yet although we've fooled around a lot. I chalked this up because she was allegedly raped. I've been in this situation before but it's never taken 9 months to have sex before.
So back on track. We clicked and really like each other even though I was and am dating other women. Sara was crazy about me, calling and texted me all of the time, always doing the initiating and always wanting to get together. She even asked me to take down my dating profile. Things were really good for 7 months. Things changed when I was MIA for a few weeks because of my depression. It was during this time she became distant. We decided to meet and speak in person about it and things appeared to be smoothed over. Although a few days after our talk she told me she expected to break up with me. I wasn't doing anything differently, we hadn't had so much as a disagreement. I wasn't being weak, supplicating or overly accommodating. I was maintaining my frame and doing really well applying what I've learned from our forum. We hung out after this but then she went to CA. So because I liked her I used some of my frequent flier miles to buy her a round trip ticket to CA. It didn't cost me anything. It really wasn't a big deal to me. It was the first time I ever went out of my way for her.
While she was out in CA my birthday came and went. 4 days later I only received a happy birthday text. That pissed me off after I bought her an expensive birthday cake and celebrated her birthday. I jokingly asked her about forgetting my birthday. She said she had been calling and texting me. I never received any texts or vm from her. She has no money, she doesn't have a job and lives in her parent's basement. She has a lot of potential though.
A few days ago after not hearing from her for a while I wrote her and said we should talk. I wrote her basically saying I thought things were going fine and that I liked that were are there for each other when we needed it. Then I said when I didn't hear from her on my birthday that she wasn't behaving the way I'd thought she was going to. I felt like I was being ignored or even played. All she got out of this was I thought she had used me. I wrote her back and explained that my intent was to say we had became close and when I didn't hear anything from her I had to question what she was thinking. I reminded her she used the same word, "played", in one of her texts she sent me. When I told her I didn't like being accused of that and to stop it she said she wasn't accusing me, that was only the way she felt at the time. WTF? Now I say that and she flips out. She says it sounds like I'm keeping score which I'm not. According to her, her dad and her ex keep score. Then she reminds me that she was doing all of the initiating at first. That Valentine's Day came and went with no word from me. We'd just started hanging out. It was way too early for any of that. Plus I'm not going to send her flowers and all of that crap anyway. Then she even went on to say that she got her BD cake a week late after her birthday. She conveniently had forgotten that I was out of town working over her birthday and that I surprised her with the cake, dinner, etc. She even cried about how thoughtful I was and no one had ever done that for her before. So even though I'm not really keeping score and she says she's not keeping score she throws all of this in my face like a hypocrite.
This last weekend my bro and I went home to visit our parents. We were just told our mom was going to have to have heart surgery. That's always serious but she's expected to be fine. So today, after not writing Sara back for a day and a half, because of family, she writes me at 3:30 am, "so am taking your silence to mean you have nothing more to say to me. Alrighty then. Take care."
Should I even reply to her? We do have/had a connection so if I do write her should I just tell her we should talk in person or on the phone? Do I agree and amplify with her and say if she's so quick to throw in the towel then I absolutely agree? Or do I just go NC on her? I'm not crazy about this woman right now because of everything I've written about. Although it felt like we did have something and she had potential.
What do you think of this woman? She's 38 btw, never married. I'd really appreciate your thoughts and insight into this girl and what you think I should do.
I've been dating one of my plates, Sara for about 9 months. She's a tall hot blond, 8 hb. We haven't seen each other for about a month and a half but have spoken. The problems all started when we didn't talk for 3 weeks because of my depression which she suffers from too. We spoke and I told her about my depression. She understood and we moved on. Then, she left for CA for a week. We spoke while she was in CA and she said, "don't freak out but I think when I get back we should spend a lot more time together. Almost live together." I said we should spend more time together, even though this did freak me out a little. She then tells me the school pushed back the class she went there to take by 2 weeks. So now she's there for 3 weeks. I find that really strange. I've never heard of a class being rescheduled so soon to it starting. Two weeks ago she came back home but hasn't made much attempt to contact me.
Let me back up and give some history about her. I know she's had skin cancer and was involved in a bad car accident that resulted in her loosing the cartilage in her left knee. She's on meds for her knee pain, depression, ADD and OCD. Also, she was supposedly raped when she was 17. The cops said it was a he said she said deal and nothing became of it. A few years later she was physically abused by an ex. She also had an unplanned child with this abusive ex. She gave up the child for adoption. She doesn't get along with her dad at all. He's allegedly kicked her out of the house twice. Once after her rape the second was after she became pregnant. So, in addition to all of this she has daddy issues. I can't tell you how many times we've been at my house and she's cried about something. I've met her parents many times. They love me. I think it's either she's one of the most unlucky people I've ever met or she's full of it. BTW we haven't had sex yet although we've fooled around a lot. I chalked this up because she was allegedly raped. I've been in this situation before but it's never taken 9 months to have sex before.
So back on track. We clicked and really like each other even though I was and am dating other women. Sara was crazy about me, calling and texted me all of the time, always doing the initiating and always wanting to get together. She even asked me to take down my dating profile. Things were really good for 7 months. Things changed when I was MIA for a few weeks because of my depression. It was during this time she became distant. We decided to meet and speak in person about it and things appeared to be smoothed over. Although a few days after our talk she told me she expected to break up with me. I wasn't doing anything differently, we hadn't had so much as a disagreement. I wasn't being weak, supplicating or overly accommodating. I was maintaining my frame and doing really well applying what I've learned from our forum. We hung out after this but then she went to CA. So because I liked her I used some of my frequent flier miles to buy her a round trip ticket to CA. It didn't cost me anything. It really wasn't a big deal to me. It was the first time I ever went out of my way for her.
While she was out in CA my birthday came and went. 4 days later I only received a happy birthday text. That pissed me off after I bought her an expensive birthday cake and celebrated her birthday. I jokingly asked her about forgetting my birthday. She said she had been calling and texting me. I never received any texts or vm from her. She has no money, she doesn't have a job and lives in her parent's basement. She has a lot of potential though.
A few days ago after not hearing from her for a while I wrote her and said we should talk. I wrote her basically saying I thought things were going fine and that I liked that were are there for each other when we needed it. Then I said when I didn't hear from her on my birthday that she wasn't behaving the way I'd thought she was going to. I felt like I was being ignored or even played. All she got out of this was I thought she had used me. I wrote her back and explained that my intent was to say we had became close and when I didn't hear anything from her I had to question what she was thinking. I reminded her she used the same word, "played", in one of her texts she sent me. When I told her I didn't like being accused of that and to stop it she said she wasn't accusing me, that was only the way she felt at the time. WTF? Now I say that and she flips out. She says it sounds like I'm keeping score which I'm not. According to her, her dad and her ex keep score. Then she reminds me that she was doing all of the initiating at first. That Valentine's Day came and went with no word from me. We'd just started hanging out. It was way too early for any of that. Plus I'm not going to send her flowers and all of that crap anyway. Then she even went on to say that she got her BD cake a week late after her birthday. She conveniently had forgotten that I was out of town working over her birthday and that I surprised her with the cake, dinner, etc. She even cried about how thoughtful I was and no one had ever done that for her before. So even though I'm not really keeping score and she says she's not keeping score she throws all of this in my face like a hypocrite.
This last weekend my bro and I went home to visit our parents. We were just told our mom was going to have to have heart surgery. That's always serious but she's expected to be fine. So today, after not writing Sara back for a day and a half, because of family, she writes me at 3:30 am, "so am taking your silence to mean you have nothing more to say to me. Alrighty then. Take care."
Should I even reply to her? We do have/had a connection so if I do write her should I just tell her we should talk in person or on the phone? Do I agree and amplify with her and say if she's so quick to throw in the towel then I absolutely agree? Or do I just go NC on her? I'm not crazy about this woman right now because of everything I've written about. Although it felt like we did have something and she had potential.
What do you think of this woman? She's 38 btw, never married. I'd really appreciate your thoughts and insight into this girl and what you think I should do.
