Is this gay?

[BraddH]

Is it gay to once in a while, especially in emergency where calling and seeing is not allowed, to talk deeply, emotionally via text messages, or chat. Since whatsup, kik, viber and those things are starting to dominate the communicate way.

I think the alpha thing that text coldly and blatantly is exaggerated by jerks. It is the that this will do with someone you don't know that well. But it shouldn't be like that with a woman you see a future with, a woman you can love and trust. Certainly that trust can go away any minute and t can certainly go away by you acting like a cold jerk, balance is the way. But as long as attraction and mutual love is there, I dot think there is any problem with sometime, once in a while a deep m, emotional texting or chatting via online and like I said especially in emergency situations. In those situations, long, some emotion, some smileys shouldn't be gay. I feel like I am being brainwashed by cold jerks, they never succeed keeping a quality woman.

 

[pinkfl]

First of all:
1. Eliminate the word "gay" as an insult from your vocabulary. Sexual orientation and preference isn't dictated by whether or not you talk about deep topics with women. It refers to sexual preference and sexual orientation. Period. Using it as a derogatory term isn't appropriate.

2. Go about dating in such a way where you get to know a person, decide if they are worth trusting, and go from there. Don't spill your guts to a stranger, but if you crave that deeper connection from the opposite sex, then go ahead and pursue that when it feels right. Stop with the whole "alpha" and "beta" nonsense. Just save those conversations for something you have either in person or over the phone. Don't text long drawn out stories about your childhood puppy because frankly, texting/emailing/facebook messaging should be used casually only.

3. If there's a woman you see a future with, she should be your best friend first (therefore, someone you have an emotional connection with) and she should be sexually attractive to you, and loyal. That's pretty much the formula. If you don't have all three, it's not going to work.

 

[BraddH]

Beautiful. More answer like this please

 

[TheCWord]

First of all:
1. Eliminate the word "gay" as an insult from your vocabulary. Sexual orientation and preference isn't dictated by whether or not you talk about deep topics with women. It refers to sexual preference and sexual orientation. Period. Using it as a derogatory term isn't appropriate.

This needs to be said in pretty much every other thread on here. The use of such a dated insult, along with "faggot," reveals almost instantly that you are a low quality guy. If nothing else, it shows a lack of creativity, to go along with lack of intelligence for even using those terms as insults, and it definitely portrays you as someone with very little life experience - do you think a man who has met hundreds of people from around the world, is respected by all, and has a ton of connections would ever use homosexuality as an insult? No, because they have gay co-workers or friends and they know they are no different from the rest of us.

Maybe you're the coolest guy in your small town or an internet message board, but think about it this way: would "The Most Interesting Man In The World" ever have those words in his vocabulary?

 

[Betterz]

I think it's weak to express emotions via online media. Hope that answers your question.

 

[Atom Smasher]

Is it gay to once in a while, especially in emergency where calling and seeing is not allowed, to talk deeply, emotionally via text messages, or chat. Since whatsup, kik, viber and those things are starting to dominate the communicate way.

I think the alpha thing that text coldly and blatantly is exaggerated by jerks. It is the that this will do with someone you don't know that well. But it shouldn't be like that with a woman you see a future with, a woman you can love and trust. Certainly that trust can go away any minute and t can certainly go away by you acting like a cold jerk, balance is the way. But as long as attraction and mutual love is there, I dot think there is any problem with sometime, once in a while a deep m, emotional texting or chatting via online and like I said especially in emergency situations. In those situations, long, some emotion, some smileys shouldn't be gay. I feel like I am being brainwashed by cold jerks, they never succeed keeping a quality woman.

The challenge is that many if not most men today "see a future with" and "love and trust" women who are about to chew them up and spit them out. The man walks away shell-shocked because he never saw it coming.

That's why it's important to be educated on a site like this, then proceed with wisdom and calibration. Once you understand the dynamics of relationships, you can adjust the rules according to the particular woman.

I can tell you this: It is hard-wired into women to grow to despise a man whom she is overly-familiar with, one who is overly nice and available. There may be exceptions, but they are truly few.

You can't be brainwashed unless you are in captivity. Do you mean "influenced"? Or are you in fact held captive by someone or something?

Jerks will not in fact keep a quality woman. That's why we extract the confidence and frame out of the jerk and use those qualities, while discarding the rest of the jerk personality.

Never ever forget that a woman wants, needs and craves for you to be higher-value than her. She will not say it, but it is the very essence of her being.

Drawn out text exchanges will almost certainly change the relationship dynamic for the worse. When you do this, you become common in her sight, just like one of her girlfriends who has nothing better to do than sit around tapping that little keyboard all day. Texting also leaves you wide-open to her misinterpreting what you say. Women do not speak the same language as us, and therefore will assign different meanings and motives to our words.

That's how it works when we send messages to the land of unicorns and rainbows.

Let he who has an ear, hear.

 

[Atom Smasher]

First of all:
1. Eliminate the word "gay" as an insult from your vocabulary. Sexual orientation and preference isn't dictated by whether or not you talk about deep topics with women. It refers to sexual preference and sexual orientation. Period. Using it as a derogatory term isn't appropriate.

2. Go about dating in such a way where you get to know a person, decide if they are worth trusting, and go from there. Don't spill your guts to a stranger, but if you crave that deeper connection from the opposite sex, then go ahead and pursue that when it feels right. Stop with the whole "alpha" and "beta" nonsense. Just save those conversations for something you have either in person or over the phone. Don't text long drawn out stories about your childhood puppy because frankly, texting/emailing/facebook messaging should be used casually only.

3. If there's a woman you see a future with, she should be your best friend first (therefore, someone you have an emotional connection with) and she should be sexually attractive to you, and loyal. That's pretty much the formula. If you don't have all three, it's not going to work.

ABOVE ALL ELSE, do not take relationship advice from a woman.

 

[Checkmate12]

Consistently sending long heartfelt/emotional texts is never a good strategy under any circumstance or any stage of a relationship. Even if you're dating a woman with extremely high interest level, even she will become burnt out on your constant display of emotion via text message, your words will start to lose meaning to her, and your face to face interactions will be negatively impacted.

Although that doesn't mean you have to be a cold hearted d-bag via text. In fact, if you're with a woman you have grown close to and see a future with then the cold texting could be detrimental to the relationship. The 'only use texting for setting up dates' rule is golden... in the early stages of a relationship. Its great in latter stages as well, but doesn't need to be observed as strictly as it was before you had the girl.

Now speaking from experience; I am currently in a close, loving relationship with a woman who treats me like a king. Were both very busy people with sometimes minimal time available for talking on the phone or going out. Texting is not an integral part of our communication but I do use it to my advantage. Once in a while, every couple weeks or so, at a time when her behavior has been particulary stellar, ill send her a long sweet text as a reward. Nothing like "ohh baby I just love you so much and couldn't live without you", because even though you're showing affection you still NEVER show neediness or low value.

Even in a sweet text you maintain the idea that you're the prize and the sweet things you are telling her are not fact but simply your opinion of her. Example; instead of "you are an intelligent woman".. try "I think you are an intelligent woman." A format I'm fond of goes something like ... "so there's this girl. She is the kinda girl that has such a compassionate heart, she'd give her last dollar to a complete stranger... (other specific, nice observations about her).. and this girl i speak of happens to be my girlfriend."

Just remember that you have to evolve with the relationship. For a woman to invest herself in a relationship she has to feel cared for. Still, this is never an excuse to exhibit neediness or low value. Use discerment. Good luck.

 

[Big Nuts]

Feel free to use gay or faggot any time u want as being a man means no one tells you what to say or do.

Never let a woman run your show!!! Never let faggots or gays run your show especially their apologists.

/no homo

P.S. I have no problem with gays....only when they tell me who I can and cannot make fun of or what I can and cannot say.

 

[BraddH]

Consistently sending long heartfelt/emotional texts is never a good strategy under any circumstance or any stage of a relationship. Even if you're dating a woman with extremely high interest level, even she will become burnt out on your constant display of emotion via text message, your words will start to lose meaning to her, and your face to face interactions will be negatively impacted.

Although that doesn't mean you have to be a cold hearted d-bag via text. In fact, if you're with a woman you have grown close to and see a future with then the cold texting could be detrimental to the relationship. The 'only use texting for setting up dates' rule is golden... in the early stages of a relationship. Its great in latter stages as well, but doesn't need to be observed as strictly as it was before you had the girl.

Now speaking from experience; I am currently in a close, loving relationship with a woman who treats me like a king. Were both very busy people with sometimes minimal time available for talking on the phone or going out. Texting is not an integral part of our communication but I do use it to my advantage. Once in a while, every couple weeks or so, at a time when her behavior has been particulary stellar, ill send her a long sweet text as a reward. Nothing like "ohh baby I just love you so much and couldn't live without you", because even though you're showing affection you still NEVER show neediness or low value.

Even in a sweet text you maintain the idea that you're the prize and the sweet things you are telling her are not fact but simply your opinion of her. Example; instead of "you are an intelligent woman".. try "I think you are an intelligent woman." A format I'm fond of goes something like ... "so there's this girl. She is the kinda girl that has such a compassionate heart, she'd give her last dollar to a complete stranger... (other specific, nice observations about her).. and this girl i speak of happens to be my girlfriend."

Just remember that you have to evolve with the relationship. For a woman to invest herself in a relationship she has to feel cared for. Still, this is never an excuse to exhibit neediness or low value. Use discerment. Good luck.

Just beautiful words, absolutely nonsense. Can you never show her that you want her and need her in your life? Can you tell her that you don't need her if she comes and asks whetever you need her in your life or not? It is mutual, and a wise, quality woman would not accept a relationship where she needs you and you don't need her. Certainly you are stupid. You like the idea where the chick is all over you but you aren't. That is impossible. You want a chick go needs you but you don't need her. That is the stupid way of idealizing a "quality girl" now your idea says that a quality girl is one who needs you, treats you like a king but you don't need her. Let me tell you, that kind of girl is simply stupid, weak and does not know how to Stan on her own ground so she simply needs someone to stand for her, she is simply using you. Is that a quality girl? A strong woman go can take care of herself will never need you in her life if you don't need her in your life. If you can leave her any moment, she will be ready of it. There is a huge difference between quality woman and weak, needy woman who is simply usin you for her living. That's the whole approach of this forum: the woman needs you for living. No, she is simply using you for living.

 

[Checkmate12]

Just beautiful words, absolutely nonsense. Can you never show her that you want her and need her in your life? Can you tell her that you don't need her if she comes and asks whetever you need her in your life or not? It is mutual, and a wise, quality woman would not accept a relationship where she needs you and you don't need her. Certainly you are stupid. You like the idea where the chick is all over you but you aren't. That is impossible. You want a chick go needs you but you don't need her. That is the stupid way of idealizing a "quality girl" now your idea says that a quality girl is one who needs you, treats you like a king but you don't need her. Let me tell you, that kind of girl is simply stupid, weak and does not know how to Stan on her own ground so she simply needs someone to stand for her, she is simply using you. Is that a quality girl? A strong woman go can take care of herself will never need you in her life if you don't need her in your life. If you can leave her any moment, she will be ready of it. There is a huge difference between quality woman and weak, needy woman who is simply usin you for her living. That's the whole approach of this forum: the woman needs you for living. No, she is simply using you for living.

And all the chumps said amen! Your entire post ^^ is one huge, logical fallacy wrapped in fairytales and dog crap. A real man "needs" no woman. Ever. The dons on this site are going to laugh you off the boards my friend :crackup: You clearly have it all figured out, no need for you to be here!! Go tell your quality woman just how much you need her! Awww, warms my heart, really does! Im sure she'll just be smitten and melt in your arms!

Good luck, keep us posted!

 

[BraddH]

And all the chumps said amen! Your entire post ^^ is one huge, logical fallacy wrapped in fairytales and dog crap. A real man "needs" no woman. Ever. The dons on this site are going to laugh you off the boards my friend :crackup: You clearly have it all figured out, no need for you to be here!! Go tell your quality woman just how much you need her! Awww, warms my heart, really does! Im sure she'll just be smitten and melt in your arms!

Good luck, keep us posted!

And all the chumps said amen! Your entire post ^^ is one huge, logical fallacy wrapped in fairytales and dog crap. A real man "needs" no woman. Ever. The dons on this site are going to laugh you off the boards my friend :crackup: You clearly have it all figured out, no need for you to be here!! Go tell your quality woman just how much you need her! Awww, warms my heart, really does! Im sure she'll just be smitten and melt in your arms!

Good luck, keep us posted!

Certainly. Remember, from now on never think of any chick. Whenever you fap, think of walls and rocks and gays. And never approach any hick. Also get out of this site, fast. What are you doing here? The whole forum teaches you how to get woman and you are telling me that a real man doesn't need women. You must be a real monkey chump! Let me tell you something far more better, truer: a real man needs women but he has options so he doesn't cling to one. You should go live in the forest with the gay monks since they are holy people who will get in to paradise, where the most beautiful chicks are. That is your place. Just utter nonsense, hypocrisy.

 

[JoeMarron]

Lol wtf..you come here to ask for advice, Checkmate12 gives you gold and you go into some nonsensical rant because you didn't like his answer. Dude...women want a man who has higher value than her. Period. That means not sending poetry to her filled with how much you love her and need her in your life. That means not showing as much affection as she does. That means her caring more about the relationship than you do. This is the natural order of male/female relationships. Burn this 50/50 bullsh!t from your brain. Read

http://heartiste.wordpress.com/the-sixteen-commandments-of-poon/

 

[( . )( . )]

First of all:
1. Eliminate the word "gay" as an insult from your vocabulary. Sexual orientation and preference isn't dictated by whether or not you talk about deep topics with women. It refers to sexual preference and sexual orientation. Period. Using it as a derogatory term isn't appropriate.

This needs to be said in pretty much every other thread on here. The use of such a dated insult, along with "faggot," reveals almost instantly that you are a low quality guy. If nothing else, it shows a lack of creativity, to go along with lack of intelligence for even using those terms as insults, and it definitely portrays you as someone with very little life experience - do you think a man who has met hundreds of people from around the world, is respected by all, and has a ton of connections would ever use homosexuality as an insult?

Chastised by a chick and a libtard mangina for using the meany words.


GAY !!

No, because they have gay co-workers or friends and they know they are no different from the rest of us.

How about not lumping the rest of us in with faggot hairdressers, home decorators and resigned omegas eh? Also we seem to be full up on PC police, might want to try loveshack.

Teehee toodles

 

[NewJack]

Expressing your emotions is an art form best learned by doing, and you are your own best teacher.

You may have one girlfriend whom you lather up with lots of deep and syrupy stuff, another one you play it very cold and chopped with. Sometimes you will want to tell them about deep weaknesses, another time you will want to threaten them with leaving if they dont give you the *****, maybe even with those same words.

It should be according to your instincts and the rhythms of your growth, and not some other person's calculation of what will-or-will-not get you the girl. Using your freedom to express yourself how you want, you will quickly refine it to a powerful usage that best suites your needs in the moment. Especially if you allow yourself to **** up and make mistakes. Thats a frame which allows for very accelerated growth.

 

[BraddH]

Expressing your emotions is an art form best learned by doing, and you are your own best teacher.

You may have one girlfriend whom you lather up with lots of deep and syrupy stuff, another one you play it very cold and chopped with. Sometimes you will want to tell them about deep weaknesses, another time you will want to threaten them with leaving if they dont give you the *****, maybe even with those same words.

It should be according to your instincts and the rhythms of your growth, and not some other person's calculation of what will-or-will-not get you the girl. Using your freedom to express yourself how you want, you will quickly refine it to a powerful usage that best suites your needs in the moment. Especially if you allow yourself to **** up and make mistakes. Thats a frame which allows for very accelerated growth.

Perfect.