Ok, this is a continuation from an earlier post...
Areas of BOLD are what I'm getting at.
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=217621
Quick BG:
Taken this girl out a couple of times, paid once each., played the indifferent & aloof card all along with minimal contact inbetween. I'm 28, shes 22.
Week last Sunday she was asking about when we were going out again, I was indifferent.
Hit her up on Tuesday about going out Wed, she said yes, I confirmed a time on Wed pretty late on. Anyway I rock up half expecting her to flake as I had not recieved a reply. Get a message saying she's stuck in another town but wants to meet for drinks about an hour later.
Fast forward, we go for casual drinks with other friends, end up back at a house gathering, she's very drunk by now. End up Kissing & groping on the lounge floor. There's others there so that was a far as she went. (Should of taken her upstairs) .
This is where I made the BIGGEST F' UP, I know I did, so there's no need to flame me for it, I've already beaten the **** out of myself for it & know what the concequences probably are.....
Then we get a cab back with others about 4am and she asks me to stay over.... AND MY REPLY (WHHYYYYYYY!????) 'Come back mine because I need my car to get work at 7 so I will drop you off' , she was insistent that I should come her's. Cut it short I kissed her in the cab & she left the cab. WHY oh Why! One of her best friends in the cab said she's really into me & I need to look after her when she returns from her holiday which she is currently on.
I wake up the next morning rueing this opportunity & I should of hit the forum for advice. I didn't.
She starts messaging me (on FB, she has no phone) the same day sounding very keen & because I''m now horny as F' .I respond but with less frequency as her. Drop her a couple of inuendo's in there. In my head I felt I needed to sext her before she went away which as helped to wreck my frame I feel.
Friday come's and we have a slight amount of small talk then I go out with one of my drinking buddies. One pint turns into 10 & this is when I think I've completely destroyed the whole potential.
I hit her up for a lift, she's in bed, but says 'I can come to get you but I need to go straight home to sleep because I'm up at 7' I say sound (thinking I can still try & escalate her)
She picks me up & we go for a drink. I then ask her to take me home but she takes me but with her friend also in the car & because I'm pissed and horny as I start acting a bit of a d**k. She takes me to my parents where I stay sometime (I have a flat with friends out of town) & I told her I aint staying there.
So we go back to her friends house for more drink. I feel like she is being a d**k to me at this point so she calls a cab for me. Long story short she shows me out but I get straight in the cab without a goodbye even though she's shouting me.
I know I was acting BUTTHURT here, mistake number 2, but In my head I thought if she was getting out of bed to pick me up, I was going to get some action.
Next day I realise I've lost my phone but I'm out all day. Check my FB on sunday AM and she's messaged me on sunday morning 3.30am 'Feeling alright today? hahaa! '(I presume she had been out). I replied with not bad, how are you... any chance my phone is in your car'. Check FB around 6.30 pm & she's replied 'yeah! found it last night, its in the pub! x' , I reply with 'Thank **** for that! Thanks'.
I was out on sunday so borrowed my mates phone to see if she was out for a drink around 9ish, no reply.
Saw on FB that she was flying out at 6am Monday and I've not spoke to her since.
Soooo..... How much have a f***ked this???
To me her IL was sky high on wed almost even more after I didn't stay over then I feel like I've lost the Frame on Friday & potential caused her IL to drop off the map due to me not sealing the deal on Wed then getting desperate to f**k her before she's free reign on holiday. I would like to think she is more LTR material than pump & dump which is why I'm writing this.
I know what I should have done to avoid this mess but I will have to live with that but what would your next move be???
I want to Avoid the Friendzone at all cost & would rather next her now than have her drop that on me.
Yes, I'm a d**k. Never turn sex down... I'm only just learning about game... FML
Areas of BOLD are what I'm getting at.
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=217621
Quick BG:
Taken this girl out a couple of times, paid once each., played the indifferent & aloof card all along with minimal contact inbetween. I'm 28, shes 22.
Week last Sunday she was asking about when we were going out again, I was indifferent.
Hit her up on Tuesday about going out Wed, she said yes, I confirmed a time on Wed pretty late on. Anyway I rock up half expecting her to flake as I had not recieved a reply. Get a message saying she's stuck in another town but wants to meet for drinks about an hour later.
Fast forward, we go for casual drinks with other friends, end up back at a house gathering, she's very drunk by now. End up Kissing & groping on the lounge floor. There's others there so that was a far as she went. (Should of taken her upstairs) .
This is where I made the BIGGEST F' UP, I know I did, so there's no need to flame me for it, I've already beaten the **** out of myself for it & know what the concequences probably are.....
Then we get a cab back with others about 4am and she asks me to stay over.... AND MY REPLY (WHHYYYYYYY!????) 'Come back mine because I need my car to get work at 7 so I will drop you off' , she was insistent that I should come her's. Cut it short I kissed her in the cab & she left the cab. WHY oh Why! One of her best friends in the cab said she's really into me & I need to look after her when she returns from her holiday which she is currently on.
I wake up the next morning rueing this opportunity & I should of hit the forum for advice. I didn't.
She starts messaging me (on FB, she has no phone) the same day sounding very keen & because I''m now horny as F' .I respond but with less frequency as her. Drop her a couple of inuendo's in there. In my head I felt I needed to sext her before she went away which as helped to wreck my frame I feel.
Friday come's and we have a slight amount of small talk then I go out with one of my drinking buddies. One pint turns into 10 & this is when I think I've completely destroyed the whole potential.
I hit her up for a lift, she's in bed, but says 'I can come to get you but I need to go straight home to sleep because I'm up at 7' I say sound (thinking I can still try & escalate her)
She picks me up & we go for a drink. I then ask her to take me home but she takes me but with her friend also in the car & because I'm pissed and horny as I start acting a bit of a d**k. She takes me to my parents where I stay sometime (I have a flat with friends out of town) & I told her I aint staying there.
So we go back to her friends house for more drink. I feel like she is being a d**k to me at this point so she calls a cab for me. Long story short she shows me out but I get straight in the cab without a goodbye even though she's shouting me.
I know I was acting BUTTHURT here, mistake number 2, but In my head I thought if she was getting out of bed to pick me up, I was going to get some action.
Next day I realise I've lost my phone but I'm out all day. Check my FB on sunday AM and she's messaged me on sunday morning 3.30am 'Feeling alright today? hahaa! '(I presume she had been out). I replied with not bad, how are you... any chance my phone is in your car'. Check FB around 6.30 pm & she's replied 'yeah! found it last night, its in the pub! x' , I reply with 'Thank **** for that! Thanks'.
I was out on sunday so borrowed my mates phone to see if she was out for a drink around 9ish, no reply.
Saw on FB that she was flying out at 6am Monday and I've not spoke to her since.
Soooo..... How much have a f***ked this???
To me her IL was sky high on wed almost even more after I didn't stay over then I feel like I've lost the Frame on Friday & potential caused her IL to drop off the map due to me not sealing the deal on Wed then getting desperate to f**k her before she's free reign on holiday. I would like to think she is more LTR material than pump & dump which is why I'm writing this.
I know what I should have done to avoid this mess but I will have to live with that but what would your next move be???
I want to Avoid the Friendzone at all cost & would rather next her now than have her drop that on me.
Yes, I'm a d**k. Never turn sex down... I'm only just learning about game... FML
