Is this church chick seeing some guy?

[MDgood]

This may be a dumb question, but let me throw this out there to you guys.

Me and a few of my guy friends play in the church band. Where the musicians are seated we are in perfect line of sight directly across the alter and pulpit to where this extremely hot chick is usually seated. We like to spend much of our time in church saying things like, damn, that girl is so freakin' HOT! But the problem is, none of us can be certain she's taken or not.

Why we think she could be taken: She has this huge honking ring on her left ring finger, and we heard that she may have been seeing some guy.

Why we think she's not taken: It's not a traditional engagement solitarie ring, not even close, nor is it a wedding band. Being a traditional Catholic it may be assumed that if she were engaged, she would be wearing a traditional engagement ring. She's not married because she still has her maiden last name, and she would change it if she were married. Also, she's 24 and she shows up with both of her parents almost every week, and sits with them,a dn she helps serve communoin with her dad during the service. Traditional Catholic girls who show up with their parents every weekend and who are seriously dating or are engaged to some guy without fail will bring the guy as often as possible with them... we've never seen her with some other guy there, not even once. She's been sitting in the same place for the past 8 years (as a note: that would have made her 16 when I first saw her, and we didn't notice how hot she was until she was about 23), and yet never any guy with her.

Oddly enough, I seem to know everybody in the church except a person who knows this chick well enough to tell me if she's taken. I don't want to blow my cover quite yet by coming straight out and asking her.

So is she taken, or is the ring just a "leave me alone I'm hot" ring?

 

[BobbDobbs]

Rings really don't mean squat.

 

[MDgood]

Originally posted by BobbDobbs
Rings really don't mean squat.

Treu true... what I've noticed is that under the age of 25 or so a very attractive girl who is hit on a lot will wear a ring on her left ring finger to make it seem like she's taken, just as a way to keep guys at bay. Then past that age, if they're not taken, they remove it from the ring finger and place it on the right hand to let guys know, "Hey, my biological clock is ticking, let's get married."

 

[sAxyguy83]

I take it you're not interested in nailing her any time soon - sounds like even if she did let you, her dad would buy a shotgun and a shovel... That said, I don't blame you if you aren't looking for easy sex - I too was raised Catholic (though my beliefs are significantly different than standard Church dogma).

Moving on, if she's got that ring on her finger, it means she's either generally not interested, or is in some way attached. You might have a chance with the friend-conversion approach, but that's a huge investment of time and effort.

 

[Julian]

MAN SHES A CATHOLIC GIRL SHE WANTS IT. I bet her fantasy is banging like one of the alter boys or probably one of you churchy beatniks.

 

[TesuqueRed]

MDG--you're reading the signs and they're coming back inconclusive. I hate when that happens. So you're going deeper into them hoping they'll get clear.

They won't--never has for me. And--like a mystery--it just sucks me in more and I tend to psyche myself out once I get to thinking way too much.

Pull back from the sign reading, it'll only screw you up with multiple interpretations, trying to second guess and knowing that some of your guesses are errors but not knowing where these are.

Go talk to her. You need direct contact now and this will give you a lot of information. You may find she looks hot but is drop dead boring, or stupid, or scared. She may be even better in person. Who knows?

Anyway, don't focus on whether she has a BF or not--just talk with her. You have things in common here--go to the same church, and you'll probably find more in common.

You'll find out more by her reaction to talking to you, too.

 

[MDgood]

Originally posted by TesuqueRed
MDG--you're reading the signs and they're coming back inconclusive. I hate when that happens. So you're going deeper into them hoping they'll get clear.

They won't--never has for me. And--like a mystery--it just sucks me in more and I tend to psyche myself out once I get to thinking way too much.

Pull back from the sign reading, it'll only screw you up with multiple interpretations, trying to second guess and knowing that some of your guesses are errors but not knowing where these are.

Go talk to her. You need direct contact now and this will give you a lot of information. You may find she looks hot but is drop dead boring, or stupid, or scared. She may be even better in person. Who knows?

Anyway, don't focus on whether she has a BF or not--just talk with her. You have things in common here--go to the same church, and you'll probably find more in common.

You'll find out more by her reaction to talking to you, too.

Spoken like a pro! Thanks!

And yeah, we could start a whole thread on Catholic girls. Maybe I will....

 

[DankNuggs]

You've known this girl for 8 years...why don't you intiate some convo...the striaght cold pickup doesn't really work if you've been staring at her for years on end...Think what would Jesus do?

He had the cojones to convince the world of a religion because he believed in Himself and His beliefs...He was persecuted and executed...


Now go make some conversation, she is obviously not going to hate on you, she's been brought up to love all people, now is the time to see whats what.

To tell you the truth, it really doesn't matter at all if she is seeing someone...She wouldn't be offended to tell you if she was, and she may be single. She might be in a bad relationship she wants to get out of. You may be the branch she swings to...But guessing as to whether she has a guy is not constructive at all.

 

[MDgood]

Originally posted by DankNuggs
You've known this girl for 8 years...why don't you intiate some convo...the striaght cold pickup doesn't really work if you've been staring at her for years on end

Actually, I haven't known her for 8 years... she was a kid 8 years ago, and now she's a damned hot woman who I just noticed last year. So I'm not that big of a loser

...Think what would Jesus do?

He had the cojones to convince the world of a religion because he believed in Himself and His beliefs...He was persecuted and executed...

...and his first miracle was a beer run. And he took one for the team. You gotta respect a guy like that. Adding in his celebrity status, I'm assuming under the circumstances Jesus would probably have already gotten this chick's number.

Now go make some conversation, she is obviously not going to hate on you, she's been brought up to love all people, now is the time to see whats what.

To tell you the truth, it really doesn't matter at all if she is seeing someone...She wouldn't be offended to tell you if she was, and she may be single. She might be in a bad relationship she wants to get out of. You may be the branch she swings to...But guessing as to whether she has a guy is not constructive at all.

EXACTLY! What the hell am I waiting for? All I have to do is find out if she's taken. If she's dating somebody, she'll probably be flattered.

 

[thissucks003]

She'll let you know if she is taken. TR is spot on! Stop trying to read into things that may not be there. Many times gals will wear rings on their left finger that has some sentinmental value that was given to them by a family member that has passed away.

I would definitely make a move very soon. The longer you wait, the more awkward it will become when you do approach.

Quick question, does she hang around the outside of the church after services and mingle with other parishoners? Or is she active in the parish in any commitees?

 

[MDgood]

Originally posted by thissucks003
Quick question, does she hang around the outside of the church after services and mingle with other parishoners? Or is she active in the parish in any commitees?

She mingles mostly with her family, and I've seen her talk to one other girl there afterwards. But it's not like I'm obsessed with ehr, so I haven't totally noticed who she's hanging around. She seems pretty conservative, but I don't think she's on any committees.

 

[thissucks003]

Originally posted by MDgood
She mingles mostly with her family, and I've seen her talk to one other girl there afterwards. But it's not like I'm obsessed with ehr, so I haven't totally noticed who she's hanging around. She seems pretty conservative, but I don't think she's on any committees.

If that is the case, then I would position myself by them after the church service where everyone mingles. Stand right by them and when one of their family members notices you, you would go right into your opener. I would befriend one of her family members instead of your gal at first. If you go straight for the gal, your intentions will look suspect since this is with her family and at church. This is a different environment than others, so you have to work in the environment you are in. If she is by herself, then go up and approach her directly. As you are talking to the closest member of her family, you can be bold and ask who everyone is. Try to meet her last if you can. Why? So you can position yourself next to her after you meet. Then go into your material.

Good Luck,

TS

 

[BGMan]

Get her number, bucko.

I'm a traditional Catholic, but I'm not anywhere near Baltimore, so I wouldn't be able to get it FOR you. <evil grin>

BGMan