Well sometimes I might say "Hey" to a girl I don't know very well and I'm wondering wether or not it's awkward. For example I saw this girl named Amanda who's in band during track and said "Hey" to her, she said hey, but I think she might of thought of it as being awkward. Another example is this girl named Orit, who I don't usually talk to, who I said "Hey" to. So what do you guys think of it? Is it awkward? Should I stop doing this?
Is this awkward? Should I stop doing this?
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Not really what I would call as "awkward" but it would be more natural if you used some kind of opener. A reason to actually strike a convo..
Cool, so instead of randomly saying hey to them I should only say "Hey" to them in situation where I can open? I see. I'm definitely going to try that next time, thanks for the advice.smooth guy said:Not really what I would call as "awkward" but it would be more natural if you used some kind of opener. A reason to actually strike a convo..
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An example might be for the band girl... "Hey Amanda... how's it going? So what instrument do you play? Haha wow that's talented... I myself am a musician... I played the flute in sixth grade!"
Great example. Since we're both currently in band, I could ask her what she thinks of the pieces where doing, or even if she's ready for the upcoming concert.foomee said:An example might be for the band girl... "Hey Amanda... how's it going? So what instrument do you play? Haha wow that's talented... I myself am a musician... I played the flute in sixth grade!"
What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.
You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.
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No, no no no and no!ElStud said:Cool, so instead of randomly saying hey to them I should only say "Hey" to them in situation where I can open? I see. I'm definitely going to try that next time, thanks for the advice.
You don't have to open every girl you see! For god's sakes, it's ok to be SOCIAL!
Saying "Hi", "Hey", or "How you doing?" isn't awkward. It's being social and is to be encouraged.
So it's not awkward and I should continue doing it? You guys are sort of confusing me.Vypros said:No, no no no and no!
You don't have to open every girl you see! For god's sakes, it's ok to be SOCIAL!
Saying "Hi", "Hey", or "How you doing?" isn't awkward. It's being social and is to be encouraged.
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Just to add to what Vypros said...
Not only is it okay to say "hi" or "hey" and just be social, it's also good (I'd say better) to NOT use canned openers; they're just fake. Unless you make your own opener up (and even then) it'll already be stale by the time you get out there and use it. Just say "hey" and go from there, when you do want to open a girl.
Not only is it okay to say "hi" or "hey" and just be social, it's also good (I'd say better) to NOT use canned openers; they're just fake. Unless you make your own opener up (and even then) it'll already be stale by the time you get out there and use it. Just say "hey" and go from there, when you do want to open a girl.
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Women usually open after you say hello.
I just go wassup and they're like "hey.......HEY...blah,blah,blah"..
I think they expect people to chit chat with them..
I just go wassup and they're like "hey.......HEY...blah,blah,blah"..
I think they expect people to chit chat with them..
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say ' hey whats up how are u doin" or "hey its a nice day out today" dont just say hey
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it's nto awkward at all, i do it all the time since i started working.
it might be awkward if you're in high school because girls there are kind of in their own little world. but outside of school (even if dealing with high schoolers) it's perfectly normal.
it's all in the way you say your hey
i prefer, hello, hi, or how are you doing.
if i'm in a playful mood i say "nice weather huh?" regardless of how nice the weather is
it might be awkward if you're in high school because girls there are kind of in their own little world. but outside of school (even if dealing with high schoolers) it's perfectly normal.
it's all in the way you say your hey
i prefer, hello, hi, or how are you doing.
if i'm in a playful mood i say "nice weather huh?" regardless of how nice the weather is
Yea I don't know how old you are but you think saying hello to people is weird? I live in a small town and everybody waves to everybody else in their cars or on the street, even if they don't know who they are (chances are they do, but I don't). Especially when I started working retail which requires me to approach customers all the time, I find myself saying hi to a lot of random people on the streets or at the mall. I've tried making it a habit of talking to random people because it really helps with your social ability, which helps make approaching women not as difficult, and makes oneself more outgoing in general. So in a closed environment such as a school I'm not seeing how this would be awkward...