Is this a game she is playing?

[rgeere]

A few months ago there was a girl who I felt was very much interested in me. A couple of days went by after the initial interest and she gave me the "sorry if I hurt you I found a boyfriend" line. I'm thinking I probly did something to make myself look like a wuss or hung around her to much.

Anyways, I asked her who and she gave me a legitimate person I knew, but I suspect that she may have been lying and that was that. We parted for the summer.

Well, we are now in a new schoolyear here where I attend College, and she invited me to go to a picknic and museum last saturday. I had been reading some material here at www.sosuave.com and I thought maybe I would apply some of what I read to the situation. She had already initially rejected me so I thought that it wouldn't hurt anyways to experiment.
She use to call me a gentleman, but to make a long story short I acted like a total jerk to her then. I refused to do things she asked, and even made her get some stuff for herself (Jokingly of course). I then proceedeed to pick on her mercilessly and teased her incessantly. She actually really seemed to like that and infact she told me later she liked the way I joke around. Although she told me she considers me as a friend who she can do things with [,as in emotional tampon perhaps?].

This is a girl that hugs me alot anyways usually whenever she sees me so I don't usually think anything about that, but today she gave me a slight kiss on the neck, which I have to admit surprised me a bit. I have seen her hug other guys, but never kiss them. I really don't go out of my way to be with her and don't really care either, but we seem to be running into each other alot recently.

The thing I am wondering is whether she might actually have feelings for me, and doesn't want to admit it or is just playing a game for her own enjoyment? I told her to quit hanging around me when her boyfriend was around who lives in another state, and she said she would. Although I don't know if I could take her word for it, she seems to be a tad bit on the fruity side.

 

[honeyshark]

Play her like she doesn't have a boyfriend if you want her, and never mention bring him up in conversation. Sounds like you are doing something correctly right now, however.

Peace.

Oh yeah, kiss her back some time, returning the favor if you will.

 

[rgeere]

I was actually sort of testing her to see how she would react by saying that I didn't want her around me when her boyfriend was in town, but you are probly right that I should just ignore any sort of relationship they might have. I'll do that for now on...

By the way I didn't mention that today after she kissed me she asked if I was going to the omni-theatre next saturday night so maybe I will get the opportunity then hopefully.

 

[GoodOlBoy]

I assume you want this girl, so here's what I'd do if I were you. I think she wants you just by what you've said, but if you really wanna know if she wants you then do as follows. This is just a general blueprint, so make the main ideas fit your situation.

Here goes. Next time you're with her, you need to get her alone. Go through the whole joking around/making fun of her routine. Geti her a playful, laughing mood like you did before. If you're with a bunch of people create some space by telling her you need to show her something, etc. However you do it, just get her alone. Your goal is to get her somewhere where you can make out. Continue your playful teasing, but now you need to make it more physical. An easy way to progress the physicality without seemingly coming on too strong (but you know you're really a predator and she's your hapless prey) is to point out something on her body as if something is wrong. Example: "Hey, come here and let me get that out of your hair." The idea is that now you have an excuse to move into her space. Now, what I'd do is tickle her! If you have previously established the fun ambience she should be very receptive to this. None of this should seem akward and forced. It should be seemless as if you were doing the most natural thing in the world (which you will be).

I would tickle her because tickling is a very intimate thing firstly. If a person allows you to tickle them, it means they are comfortable with you. Secondly, it's fun. It'll make her laugh and she'll be in a euphoric state which is exactly where you want her to be. Now if you have made it this far and everything is going according to plan, kiss her neck. Again this should be very natural. It follows the progression I'm laying out for you. If you're tickling her on a couch or bed you wanna get her to lay out on her back. While tickling her on her back, go in for the neck kiss. Hopefully you know what to do after that.

I think this pass will work for you very nicely if you generally follow the idea.

 

[rgeere]

That might be a little hard to do at an omni-theatre without drawing a lot of attention, but I'll look for the opportunity... Thanks..