Rhino22 said:
My ex left me for some gothic dude that right away started making paintings for her. I guess he also pays for her gas (fills up her tank) every time she goes out to see him. He only lives like 15 mins away) Is this dude a chump or what? And she tried to tell me that she was the dominant one in our relationship.
She thought he provided more value than you did, at that point where she broke it off with you.
There must be some other qualities she sees in him, besides the paintings and the free gas.
It is possible that money is not even an issue for him, and she likes his generosity, or the fact that he chooses to fill up her tank, without worrying about it. You know, that can be an attractive thing. Doesn't always have to mean he's a chump. He might well have that "I don't have to buy her gas to come see me, but I choose to, and it doesn't break me or face me to do so" type of attitude to go along with the rest of his personality.
If she's even suggesting she was dominant in your relationship, it is time to pay attention to what she's saying. If it even has to be brought up or is up for debate, she had a lot more control in the relationship than she would like to have over a man.
You would be very lucky to find out exactly what you were lacking that caused her to loose interest and what he has that attracted her to him. I doubt she would tell you exactly what it was, so don't worry about it. Right it sounds like sour grapes, and understandingly so, but attempt to look back and see what was it that she initially saw and you, and what did you do to cause her to loose interest. And don't repeat it in your next relationship.
