Is this a bad sign

[DJinTraining06]

I usually spend most of the weekend with my girl and maybe 1 weekday, soemtimes 2 if were not busy. Well this weekend we were both only free last night. Tonight she has plans to go to a club with 2 friends, and i have plans to chill with a few friends. So last night while we were out, she says, wat are u doing sunday? Is it a family day? I was like no not a family day, not sure what im doin, except for at night, im def watching the Mets opening day at 8:00 PM. I told her she was welcome to come watch it or maybe we could hang out in the afternoon.

Well she got all upset. She got all quiet and had this pouting look on her face for like 20 minutes before the movie we were gonna see. I asked her wat was the matter and she kept saying nothin and denying it. Finally i was like, somethin is obvioulsly wrong if u stop talkin for 20 mins and look pissed. So she says i reminded her of past boyfriends that used to put her second all the time. And i'm like r u serious? I see u 4 times a week usually, how on earth do i put u second, i love the mets, im not allowed to watch opening day with my friends, i told u ur invited to come. So then shes like i know, it just reminded me of past experiences, and she thought maybe the Mets will be somethin i always put before her. I told her she was being ridiculous cuz i had planend to see this with my friends weeks ago and it was not like i just made a choice between her and the mets this very second. So then she just killed the mood, and i started to get pissed cuz i like baseball and watchin games with friends during the summer quite often, and here it is opening day and she is already making me feel bad about it. So i got to cold to her and she started getting super apologetic and tellin me she was wrong and that she was just dissapointed cuz she couldnt see me saturday night and now sunday im busy. and she was happy cuz her test the next day was psotponed so she coulda hung out with me when she originally thoguht she couldnt.

So i could see that its more a matter of her being dissapointed cuz she wants to see me, rather than her wanting to control me and tell me i cant watch sports or do wat i want, and her exz bfs put her second all the time, but it still annoys me that we even had that little dispute. Its ridiuclous, is this a harbinger of things to come? Or did i set her straight?

 

[TruthHurts]

Disputes will happen all the time.... Instead of arguing the point next time, grab her bend her over your knees and spank her telling her "how dare you say i'm puttng you second, your my number one and here is a spanking to help you remember" hahahaha that will display dominance, provide for you to say she number one, and make you look different then her x's (i bet her x's also aruged the point too lol)

Represent your dominance over her...

 

[DJinTraining06]

Disputes will happen all the time.... Instead of arguing the point next time, grab her bend her over your knees and spank her telling her "how dare you say i'm puttng you second, your my number one and here is a spanking to help you remember" hahahaha that will display dominance, provide for you to say she number one, and make you look different then her x's (i bet her x's also aruged the point too lol)

Represent your dominance over her...

Haha a spanking help. I think she realized how retarted she was being, she apologized alot for it.

 

[Vypros]

Please tell me you did watch the Mets and you didn't give into her little pouting B.S.???

That, my friend, was a test. And so long as you kept your plans and didn't let her ruin them for you, then you passed.

Let me give you a little forewarning, however. It's not going to end there. She sounds a bit controlling to me, like she wants to spend every waking moment with you and that's just not healthy.

If it were me (and I'm not telling you what to do here) and she did it again, I'd probably break up with her. You don't need someone laying a guilt trip on you for living your own life.

 

[DJinTraining06]

Please tell me you did watch the Mets and you didn't give into her little pouting B.S.???

That, my friend, was a test. And so long as you kept your plans and didn't let her ruin them for you, then you passed.

Let me give you a little forewarning, however. It's not going to end there. She sounds a bit controlling to me, like she wants to spend every waking moment with you and that's just not healthy.

If it were me (and I'm not telling you what to do here) and she did it again, I'd probably break up with her. You don't need someone laying a guilt trip on you for living your own life.

Well i dont really have a way with words and when she asked me what i was doing sunday, i said "oh im watchin the mets tom night, openign day!" I guess it came across as, forget you, the mets are more important. When in actuality, i had plans to watch it with my family and a couple friends at my house. I planned it early in the week. But i guess the way i said it, gave off the wrong idea.

Although I still wasnt wrong even if i didnt have plans to see it and it was a spur of the moment decision right?

I love baseball, opening day is very important to me, i dont even really watch other sports, this is my one main sport. Is it so wrong to tell your girl that you dont wanna go out one night cuz its a big game? I told her she was invited. She didnt wanna come to me cuz she had been driving out to my house alot, we live 30-35 mins apart. And i agree with her on that, she came to me the last 3 times. but still i cant believe she was pouting. SHe said it wasnt me and i just reminded her of her exes cuz they always had something that they put ahead of her. God forbid anybody have an interest or a hobby right? The nerve of those guys.

I dont wanna break up with her i think very compatible, more than any other giurl i dated, and we do love each other. But wow that really ticked me off. I did keep my plans, but i felt so guilty watchin the game i didnt even enjoy it. And i see this girl 4 times a week! I guess i just got really annoyed and worried cuz here it is, openeing day and im already feeling guilty bout watching a game? After i already saw her 3 times that week. I talked to her on the phone that night and she said whos winning, i told her the mets and she said are u peeing yourself? Now i know shes joking but still, shaddup right?

 

[Vypros]

You want my advice?

I'd take next week off from her. You see her 4 times a week? I wouldn't see her at ALL next week.

Keep in mind this is going to TICK HER OFF royally, but you need to tell her that you need some space. If you don't do it now, right away, she's going to roll right over you.

I know, because I've been there myself.

 

[speed dawg]

Tell her she's being stupid for making you feel guilty about watching the game with your buds. Tell her if she's got a problem with something you enjoy doing, and you will continue to do, to get over it.

It's just a dumb sh1t test. Don't let her push you around by crying and pouting. Nip that in the bud NOW.

 

[DJinTraining06]

You want my advice?

I'd take next week off from her. You see her 4 times a week? I wouldn't see her at ALL next week.

Keep in mind this is going to TICK HER OFF royally, but you need to tell her that you need some space. If you don't do it now, right away, she's going to roll right over you.

I know, because I've been there myself.

too late already saw her yesterday. i dunno i dont feel like playing games like that. i hope i dont have to. seems like its a girls job to take their man for granted eventually.

 

[Circa]

You were in the right dude. She started flipping out for no reason. It's just a GAME and you even invited her to come. She started acting like a little brat, she deserved it. She apologized, I would say it's done and over with. Stop tripping about it, and stop feeling bad.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

...So i could see that its more a matter of her being dissapointed cuz she wants to see me, rather than her wanting to control me and tell me i cant watch sports or do wat i want, and her exz bfs put her second all the time, but it still annoys me that we even had that little dispute. Its ridiuclous, is this a harbinger of things to come? Or did i set her straight?

Uh-oh.. She's trying to make you into a "nice guy." Don't kid yourself into thinking it isn't a control issue with her. If it was just about seeing you she would either have agreed to watch the game with you or to see you that afternoon. Think about it, she damn near told you that she is comparing you to her ex. Are you the "rebound guy?" :nono:

 

[Vypros]

too late already saw her yesterday. i dunno i dont feel like playing games like that. i hope i dont have to. seems like its a girls job to take their man for granted eventually.

It's not a "game". You NEED to get some time apart in a relationship once in a while.

 

[DJinTraining06]

Uh-oh.. She's trying to make you into a "nice guy." Don't kid yourself into thinking it isn't a control issue with her. If it was just about seeing you she would either have agreed to watch the game with you or to see you that afternoon. Think about it, she damn near told you that she is comparing you to her ex. Are you the "rebound guy?" :nono:

I did end up seein her that afternoon from 12-6, and then i went home to see the game, and she was totally cool with it. I def aint the rebound guy. I met her this past December, and she hadnt been dating someone since January. So she was single 11 months before meeting me. She just claims all her exes used to spend tons of time with her in the beginning and that eventually they would start to put her second to other things. She said her last boyfriend who she dated two years stopped seeing her almost altogether. She said he didnt care where she was or what she was doing and hardly ever saw him towards the end of the relationship. Turns out he was cheatin on her.

So i guess she was just hurt in the past. I hope she aint tryin to control me. It's not the vibe im getting.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

...So i guess she was just hurt in the past. I hope she aint tryin to control me. It's not the vibe im getting.

You're right, but understand that she is testing where she stands with you for her own reassurance. You're doing well by balancing your life with/without her so don't let her insecurities push you into AFC ways to appease her. You'll need to reassure her that you are not her ex but keep your own identity none the less.

 

[Vypros]

You're right, but understand that she is testing where she stands with you for her own reassurance. You're doing well by balancing your life with/without her so don't let her insecurities push you into AFC ways to appease her. You'll need to reassure her that you are not her ex but keep your own identity none the less.

Exactly.

Stand your ground. Tell her to stop comparing you to other boyfriends, because YOU ARE NOT THEM!

You should actually be MAD that she's doing that by the way. And you need to call her on it.

 

[penkitten]

if you dont speak up now...
then she is going to call you tonight and ask you what you are doing tommorrow at 8.
you are going to say "watching the mets on espn. you could come watch it with me."
she is going to say "well i wanted to go to the mall, and you arent spending enough time with me and you just watched the mets sunday. you remind me of x and x who put me last!! i wont be put last!! come to the mall with me."


the guys are right, she is being controlling.

i hope that you would tell her that this is absolutely silly, and that you are not going to choose between her and a season of baseball. baseball is a part of your life and if she wants to be with you, you expect her to show up to watch the games with you dressed in proper mets attire with a smile on her face.

sheesh, what happened to chicks rooting for their man's favorite team? what happened to trying to learn about the sport to impress the guy?
chicks these days.... i swear!

 

[DJinTraining06]

if you dont speak up now...
then she is going to call you tonight and ask you what you are doing tommorrow at 8.
you are going to say "watching the mets on espn. you could come watch it with me."
she is going to say "well i wanted to go to the mall, and you arent spending enough time with me and you just watched the mets sunday. you remind me of x and x who put me last!! i wont be put last!! come to the mall with me."


the guys are right, she is being controlling.

i hope that you would tell her that this is absolutely silly, and that you are not going to choose between her and a season of baseball. baseball is a part of your life and if she wants to be with you, you expect her to show up to watch the games with you dressed in proper mets attire with a smile on her face.

sheesh, what happened to chicks rooting for their man's favorite team? what happened to trying to learn about the sport to impress the guy?
chicks these days.... i swear!

Your a cool chick, they all should be like you lol. My last gf was the other extreme though, she asked me what my fav team was and said that was her fav team too. It was obvious she just liked them cuz i liked them, and i found that really annoying and dumb. I dont mind that my gf admits she doesnt like sports, i at least respect her honesty. But i dont want her makin me feel bad cuz im not spending one sunday night with her cuz i wanna see a game instead, thats crazy. But it might have just been a misunderstanding cuz of the way i told her that night. Ill chill unless it happens again. I think she came to her senses.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

...I think she came to her senses.

Yeahhhhhh.... Riiiiigggghhhhtttt.......

As if it's ever that easy.....