I and my girlfriend have dated for a long time. We both just graduated high school, and have been together since junior year. She and I were both virgins when we met, and have had sex. she is possessive over me, and I have done pretty much everything perfectly DJ as far as training her to treat me nicely, pay for more than her fair share, blah blah blah, all firsts for me (thanks to SS).
Alright, background information complete.
Today, one of my buddies invited me to a concert that I didn't really have THAT much interest in attending. Meaning, I wouldn't have gone unless I had nothing else to do. My Gf was over at my house at the time, and the entire time I was on the phone, she was giving me pissy looks. When I got off the phone she told me what she "heard" and it turned out that she misheard and was all *****y for no reason. We ended up having a fight about how she shouldn't eavesdrop and it ended less than great.
I made it a lot more clear that I see her only as a source of fun in my life and that once the fun stops happening (aka a lot of arguments like the above one) then I think it would be time to break up and "just move on to the next one." (a quote from me)
She appeared to be taken aback. She asked if I thought I'd "ever find someone who did all that she did" for me, like be nice and pay for things, etc.
I said "well if the next one doesn't, then there's still 3,499,999,999 girls to test out. I'm sure one of em will."
She halfheartedly agreed, and then left shortly thereafter, but only so I could go out with my buddies.
Thinking back on it, however, I feel kinda bad about how she appeared to interpret that realization.
So having all that information, do you guys think I'm being too callous seeing as how I'm in a relationship of close to two years with a "high school sweetheart"?
Is there ever a transition into being more personable within a relationship and only using the donjuan stuff sparingly? I know that most the time you shouldn't change anything because once you stop doing what attracted a girl to you, she leaves, but still. Any response/discussion is cool.
Alright, background information complete.
Today, one of my buddies invited me to a concert that I didn't really have THAT much interest in attending. Meaning, I wouldn't have gone unless I had nothing else to do. My Gf was over at my house at the time, and the entire time I was on the phone, she was giving me pissy looks. When I got off the phone she told me what she "heard" and it turned out that she misheard and was all *****y for no reason. We ended up having a fight about how she shouldn't eavesdrop and it ended less than great.
I made it a lot more clear that I see her only as a source of fun in my life and that once the fun stops happening (aka a lot of arguments like the above one) then I think it would be time to break up and "just move on to the next one." (a quote from me)
She appeared to be taken aback. She asked if I thought I'd "ever find someone who did all that she did" for me, like be nice and pay for things, etc.
I said "well if the next one doesn't, then there's still 3,499,999,999 girls to test out. I'm sure one of em will."
She halfheartedly agreed, and then left shortly thereafter, but only so I could go out with my buddies.
Thinking back on it, however, I feel kinda bad about how she appeared to interpret that realization.
So having all that information, do you guys think I'm being too callous seeing as how I'm in a relationship of close to two years with a "high school sweetheart"?
Is there ever a transition into being more personable within a relationship and only using the donjuan stuff sparingly? I know that most the time you shouldn't change anything because once you stop doing what attracted a girl to you, she leaves, but still. Any response/discussion is cool.