Is there any way to recover from a mediocre/ bad first date?

[Captain Rizz]

Deep dive conversation, but short date. Is the move to simply hail mary a second date?

 

[Bingo-Player]

Depends what was bad about it ?

It all massively depends on the context and the females interest in you

As a rule of thumb you really need to do something on the first date which sticks in her head in a good way and preferably makes her \I/ tingle

If it was very boring you could be instantly sent to the freindzone

 

[Captain Rizz]

It wasn't boring, but I think I sperged out too much about topics I am really opinionated on. I was very strong about philosophy/politics

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

It wasn't boring, but I think I sperged out too much about topics I am really opinionated on. I was very strong about philosophy/politics

So you probably talked more than you listened?

 

[AureliusMaximus]

Deep dive conversation, but short date. Is the move to simply hail mary a second date?

No; move on.
(Nothing deep convo needed about this).

There is plenty of phish in the pond.
There is no reason to beat yourself to death for a phish that bite off the phishing line.

 

[SW15]

No. Women have too many options now. A good portion of them have an expectation of "all the feelz" on the first date, especially the ones who arrange dates from tech-based methods.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

How did it end?

 

[Solomon]

Unless the woman is highly attracted to you physically no, if you have options or spinning plates you wouldn't worry about this (no shade) regardless charge it to the game

 

[EyeBRollin]

Yes. Do better on the next date. If she accepts.

 

[Dash Riprock]

It wasn't boring, but I think I sperged out too much about topics I am really opinionated on. I was very strong about philosophy/politics

It's actually good to state your opinion and be somewhat polarizing, even on a first date. Too many guys are overly agreeable and supplicate to the woman because they're afraid to disagree with her. Plus, if you do feel a certain way, no use twisting yourself into a pretzel trying to appease her. Most women appreciate a man with a backbone who's not afraid to express his opinion. Just don't belittle her or be an a*s about it.

If she's hot, she'll have many men puppy-dogging her so dare to be different.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

If it was a boring date why would you want a second one? Do you need someone to help put you to sleep before bed?

 

[Scaramouche]

Hi Riprock,
That's one Helluva Junkyard Dog You've got there Man...Pretty well agree with you,trick is to agree with them wholeheartedly,but to still go your own way....That way you have a peaceful life and lots of Pvussy LOL.

 

[BaronOfHair]

"Is there any way to recover from a mediocre/ bad first date?"

There is indeed. Start by not conceptualizing the date (Or anything else in life)as "Good" or "Bad". Instead, name the aspects of it that you found objectionable

 

[Captain Rizz]

If it was a boring date why would you want a second one? Do you need someone to help put you to sleep before bed?

It wasn't boring, lol. She just left sorta early fo ran incomrpehensible reason

 

[Giovanni SouthSide]

Don’t miss the forest for the trees.

Next time, let the chick do 80% of the talking. You breeze through the other 20.
Get the girl to talk about her favorite topic-- herself.
She booked it because you probably turned her off with too much blabber.

Usually when a woman gets to talk about herself it makes her feel bonded to you. But you need to listen actively, kino, interrupt with a wild re-frame, light tease, ask open ended questions.

You will most very likely not have sex with a woman who you could not kiss on the first date.
Until you seal the deal, nothing is a spark.

If a chick does not text you after the date,
move on.

If you feel ballsy then straight up call her, get in her feelz and invite her for “netflix and chill”. or else another dude will.
Fvck it, use the last bullet in the chamber.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

It wasn't boring, lol. She just left sorta early fo ran incomrpehensible reason

So she was bored.

 

[The Duke]

It wasn't boring, lol. She just left sorta early fo ran incomrpehensible reason

I guarantee that all the signs of why she left early were there. Your lack of awareness is why you can't understand why and missed out on when the date started to get derailed. Pay more attention to body language and you will gain greater insight into what she is thinking.

Expressing yourself so strongly in regards to politics is not a topic that attracts the vast majority of women. While you were busy being passionate about your feelings regarding politics and philosophies she was tuning out.

Pick other topics next time that women find more interesting. Pay more attention to her. Let her do the majority of the talking. Your job is to lead the conversation and adjust based on non-verbal signs she displays. You want to lead her down a path she can feel connected to you.

 

[Jor-El]

Its a common problem. My GF thinks our sex life has got boring and I'm easily distracted. Oh well, better get back to it I suppose