Is there any truth to the myth a girl will ignore or act distant if she likes a guy

[zinc4]

Was just wondering...it seems counter productive to me. Any experiences of a girl in a social circle or formal setting ignoring you when she really liked you and exposed later? I always get my women through cold approaches and night life, so i don't really know.

 

[Crazystarf]

Wasn't there a rule stating that if a girl likes you, she'll do whatever it takes to let you know? or something like that

 

[bish0p]

Wasn't there a rule stating that if a girl likes you, she'll do whatever it takes to let you know? or something like that

If there is a rule like that, then it's bullshlt.

My current girlfriend showed no interest in me whatsoever, except one sign that could be construed as repulsiveness....almost as if she was disgusted by me.

That's not to say that this is always the case, because I have gotten high interest from girls as well...and sometimes it was attention whoring (or maybe me not playing my cards right), and sometimes we actually hooked up.

Personally, I like the idea of not worrying about interest levels and just going after girls that you like. It shouldn't matter to you what games they play. However, if she straight calls you a creep in a serious way, or she seems deadly serious in a rejecting you, then I'd say that's a real sign that she's not interested.

 

[betheman]

when I was at university (1st time round) 4 year course, graduation week and parties, 2 girls from our group, one getting married the week after, decided to hit on me big time, let me know how much they always liked and wanted me...I was married! we wouldnt likely be seeing each other again so I guess these were hail mary plays on there part, in those previous 4 years they showed zero interest!

 

[cfdagola]

There's never not some sign even something subtle like regular glances. I found out this hb8 was really into me only by a 3rd party. He thought me and my best friend were hot. I never even knew. I mean sure she was friendly and glanced a lot which at the time i figured was nothing big. Although I and my friend never did once try to escalate or get to know her any better than some hot bartender who was just working for tips.

 

[TheJazz]

"I have no desire to have anything sexual or romantic with you ever. I want a platonic relationship with you." – From back then, by my now girlfriend, who is obsessed with me and literally can not stop thinking about me every second of every day.

To answer your question, OP, yes.

 

[Who Dares Win]

If there is a rule like that, then it's bullshlt.

My current girlfriend showed no interest in me whatsoever, except one sign that could be construed as repulsiveness....almost as if she was disgusted by me.

That's not to say that this is always the case, because I have gotten high interest from girls as well...and sometimes it was attention whoring (or maybe me not playing my cards right), and sometimes we actually hooked up.

Personally, I like the idea of not worrying about interest levels and just going after girls that you like. It shouldn't matter to you what games they play. However, if she straight calls you a creep in a serious way, or she seems deadly serious in a rejecting you, then I'd say that's a real sign that she's not interested.

Is this cosmo or girlpower forum? Im asking because its usually girls who use a simple example to explain a general rule...

Something like "hey b1tch stop eating choccolate or u'll get fat" only to hear back from her "its bvllsh1t my friend brenda eats choccolate and she is slim".

So no a single case means sh1t when it comes of general rules.

"I have no desire to have anything sexual or romantic with you ever. I want a platonic relationship with you." – From back then, by my now girlfriend, who is obsessed with me and literally can not stop thinking about me every second of every day.

To answer your question, OP, yes.

We made pretty clear in this board that we consider behaviour from girls not words, its one of the basic concepts, plenty of girls tell you how much they like you only to not return your call.

So again words mean sh1t, behaviour and action are the benchmark.

Same thing said to the other guy, an example mean sh1t, generally its what we consider.

There are also few men who produce milk from their breast yet as a general rule men dont breastfeed kids.

To everyone: if a girl doesnt care about you, doesnt contact you nor return your calls and doesnt pay particular attention to you at work or in the social circle, your safest bet is that she doesnt give a
flying fvck about you, feel free to go ahead if you're ego cant deal with that and you have time to waste.

 

[bish0p]

Is this cosmo or girlpower forum? Im asking because its usually girls who use a simple example to explain a general rule...

Something like "hey b1tch stop eating choccolate or u'll get fat" only to hear back from her "its bvllsh1t my friend brenda eats choccolate and she is slim".

So no a single case means sh1t when it comes of general rules.



We made pretty clear in this board that we consider behaviour from girls not words, its one of the basic concepts, plenty of girls tell you how much they like you only to not return your call.

So again words mean sh1t, behaviour and action are the benchmark.

Same thing said to the other guy, an example mean sh1t, generally its what we consider.

There are also few men who produce milk from their breast yet as a general rule men dont breastfeed kids.

To everyone: if a girl doesnt care about you, doesnt contact you nor return your calls and doesnt pay particular attention to you at work or in the social circle, your safest bet is that she doesnt give a
flying fvck about you, feel free to go ahead if you're ego cant deal with that and you have time to waste.

Keep spouting more bullshlt. We don't have enough of around here.

Also, aren't you one of the many bitter guys around here?

 

[Zerro]

The truth is always more complicated than the theory.

The girls who've given me the green light right from the start always fizzled out fast and ultimate went nowhere.

Meanwhile the ones who ended up crazy over me had no discernible interest the first time we met, but it did escalate with each subsequent encounter.

My current woman said yes the first time I asked her out only to cancel at the last minute. The second time she said no and didn't counteroffer. The third time came months later and only after two other chicks had turned me down so I saw she was online and went "what the hell, why not?"

She said yes so fast it broke the sound barrier and gave me her address so I could come pick her up. We're going on 8th months now and she can't go a week without seeing me.

 

[ialphamaster]

A girl may ignore you if she like you, only if she's trying to be hard to get.

She'll do it for the purpose of getting your attention. There is one solution to this, just ignore her back and this most likely will turn the game in your favor.

 

[Who Dares Win]

Keep spouting more bullshlt. We don't have enough of around here.

Also, aren't you one of the many bitter guys around here?

Nope Im doing pretty well and Im happy, Im bitter only at sheeps who believe what they are told without questioning it or which "learn" reading magazines at the barber shop only to come here and call bvllsh1t any red pill given to them.

Anyway if I were you I would send her an other text, she probably didnt receive the other 10 or is too shy to answer and wants you to prove how noble you are, right?

 

[bigneil]

If there was such a rule women would deliberately break it, eventually. I blew off my gf on Christmas, hoping she would initiate. She did but not until NYE. Then she confessed she was devastated and proved how happy she was to see me again.

 

[bigneil]

She got naked within minutes. So to the OP, yes they will sometimes ignore men they really like.

 

[sageproduct]

My current girlfriend showed no interest in me whatsoever, except one sign that could be construed as repulsiveness....almost as if she was disgusted by me.

Did she do that because she genuinely wasn't interested at first, or was she actually very interested and did not want to show it?

 

[foreverAFC]

i think its pretty common actually, a lot of women are timid or afraid or are in a relationship but still like other guys etc.....and guys do this too, havent you guys ever liked a girl or found her extremely attractive but were AFC so you just avoided her cause you felt you didnt have a chance or mabye she was already taken etc.... ?

 

[perseverance]

She got naked within minutes. So to the OP, yes they will sometimes ignore men they really like.

That's completely illogical, so, yeah that sounds like something a woman would do.

So if a girl looks at you, but doesn't smile or eye balls you like she wants to cut your throat, she could well think you're attractive or like you?

That's f*cking crazy!

 

[TheStig]

i think its pretty common actually, a lot of women are timid or afraid or are in a relationship but still like other guys etc.....and guys do this too, havent you guys ever liked a girl or found her extremely attractive but were AFC so you just avoided her cause you felt you didnt have a chance or mabye she was already taken etc.... ?

Yeah this is pretty true but it's impossible to tell if a particular girl is actually like this. If a girl thinks nothing of you, or if she likes you but is shy, the outward appearance of the way she acts around you is the same. If anything it just supports the fact that you gotta make a move anyway because that brings out the true gauge of her interest level: how she reacts to your advances.

Even if a girl is shy or super insecure there most likely will be some subtle signs of interest if she likes you.

But that's just my 2 cents.

 

[Naughty Ninja]

I think I'm going to field experiment this theory at my part time with the hot chicks who work there. I'm going to tell them I heard if you really like a guy you'll ignore him and if you don't really like a guy you'll AW flirt all over him. That way if they begin to completely ignore me I know they like me and I'm taking them out. If they begin to paw all over me I know they don't but at least I'll get my jollies. I see it as WINNING regardless!

 

[DonJuanabe]

This is why if YOU like a girl you ask her out. Stop trying to shove a hamster in your head by wondering whether she likes you or not -- just be a man and ask her out. At the end of the date go for the kiss -- you'll know whether she likes you or not. If by some chance she doesn't kiss you back despite being attracted to you and thus gives the impression that she does not like you, and subsequently doesn't text/call/email you letting you know she enjoyed going out with you, then she isn't worth the effort.

 

[bish0p]

Nope Im doing pretty well and Im happy,

I sincerely doubt that.

Anyways, keep preaching your bullshlt. If this is what your life experiences have brought you to then it is what it is.

My life experiences have brought something different so you can't convert me on this matter.

Did she do that because she genuinely wasn't interested at first, or was she actually very interested and did not want to show it?

I'm not an ugly guy, but not the best looking either. I met her at work and I worked all of 3 days with her...with very minimal contact, before she quit. I had no extended conversation with her AT ALL.

I caught wind of her potential interest when she refused to sit directly beside me and instead asked someone else to move closer to me on a couch (I work in a grouphome and we have a lot of down time). It was like she was intentionally avoiding me in this particular instance.

I found out through another coworker who was close to her that she thought I was hot. But, other then the above sign, I would have never thought she was interested. She never talked to me, her eye contact was normal. She didn't look down, she didn't blush...she was stone cold.

But, this is only one example...the most recent one in fact. But, I've experienced stuff like this all of my life.

However, I've also experienced the other side with girls being overly aggressive...but as someone else said in here, these are the ones that quickly lose interest...though not always.

I had an affair with a married woman some years back who was overly aggressive in talking to me (who took me out to lunch in our first outing), but took me a while to break down her resistance.