I see multiple members on this forum who expect a high standard on women, but don't exactly live up to that level of quality themselves. Not that many of them even seek relationships, but still the hypocrisy disgusts me.
For many guys the go to after a break up is "go NC and hit the gym". While I'm for that, rarely is it explored whether the guy experiencing the break up actually could have done better. Then we sit here circlejerking about how the girl is to be blamed. While I don't deny that in many cases they do deserve some blame, I think the guys side of it is toned down way too much.
What I'm reading about on the forum these days is mostly sh!t compared to 15 year old posts. Where did Pook's "focus on yourself" go? I always took that to mean not getting hung up on the sh!tty side of women and rather focus entirely on oneself, because we can't change the world but we have sovereignty over ourselves. But here we are posting threads about women this, women that, feminism this and feminism that. I see a bunch of blaming on things way way larger than ourselves and it's an activity we have nothing to gain from.
A man doesn't meet the right woman before he is the right man. So when guys b!tch about women they're quite far away from being the right man.
Perhaps, how when you deal with one side (male or female) who refuses to work on a relationship or marriage, what do you do then? Self-reflecting usually happens after the fact they realize there is an issue. Women, seem to keep quiet and let it fester a bit. Men are usually clueless until it is too late. Why? Because the time the woman speaks up, she's done. You need to people willing to fight and make the marriage or relationship work. This is a rarity these days. There used to be negative consequences because of a break up or divorce. Now, it's common place.
Bottom line, one person usually cares too much, and the other couldn't care less. If a partner doesn't speak up, how is the other one to know there's an issue? I can only speak for myself, and I am not a mind reader. Also, I've read several threads here and other relationship support forums where the man was very supportive, but in his time of need, she either left him high and dry or couldn't care less.
It's not always the man's fault bro. This day and age, I'd say it's more on the side of a woman's for the single fact that they have so many options and society no longer looks down on failure relationships or failed marriages while the man gets a-z-z- raped in court.
@Grewd, I usually agree a lot with you on many of your posts, but this one I am going to have to respectfully disagree. Half the men here beating their chests are BS posters anyway. Unless it's a detailed post, I just pass because it is most likely BS.
