This site seems to claim that once you are in the friendzone with a woman you never get out, but I've seen more than one of my bros who were just friends with great women that are very good looking turn into LTRs with them. In fact after talking with a few female friends that are hot in their own right, they often don't get involved with guys until they've known them for a while and had the opportunity to see them in a variety of situations that reveal their true character.
Since I've been coming here I've adopted a bit of a 'no friends' attitude with women and although it keeps me from feeling like I'm the emotional bandaid for girls, I've also realized that I'm not really that kind of guy anyways. What I mean by that is I'm not really very AFC. Recently, I've asked out two girls that seem really smart, confident and drop dead gorgeous. Both have replied that they are currently in relationships but would be interested in spending time with me. In both situations, the women seem attracted to me and interested in me as well but are just being clear about expectations and respectful of their current bf which having dated a girl who wasn't in the past (the reason I found this site) I appreciate.
In both instances I chose not to get their numbers because I wanted to stay out of the dreaded friendzone and the drama of a girl with a bf, but after the fact and with a little reflection it seems to me that I might actually benefit from spending time with these women and if they happen to be worthwhile, who knows what happens.
Currently I am trying to spend time with a girl just as friends who I have dated in the past but for a # of reasons it didn't work out. We still get along well, we have fun together and we have more than a little in common. To be honest, even with all that I'm not sure she's what I'm looking for in a woman but at least as her friend I get to find out one way or another. Am I scared of always being in the friendzone with her? No. I know I'm a great catch and she'd be lucky to have me and I'm still pursuing other women too....for me its about finding out if she's worth having and the friendzone seems like the perfect place to be for just that.
That said, I'm interested to hear what you guys think?
Since I've been coming here I've adopted a bit of a 'no friends' attitude with women and although it keeps me from feeling like I'm the emotional bandaid for girls, I've also realized that I'm not really that kind of guy anyways. What I mean by that is I'm not really very AFC. Recently, I've asked out two girls that seem really smart, confident and drop dead gorgeous. Both have replied that they are currently in relationships but would be interested in spending time with me. In both situations, the women seem attracted to me and interested in me as well but are just being clear about expectations and respectful of their current bf which having dated a girl who wasn't in the past (the reason I found this site) I appreciate.
In both instances I chose not to get their numbers because I wanted to stay out of the dreaded friendzone and the drama of a girl with a bf, but after the fact and with a little reflection it seems to me that I might actually benefit from spending time with these women and if they happen to be worthwhile, who knows what happens.
Currently I am trying to spend time with a girl just as friends who I have dated in the past but for a # of reasons it didn't work out. We still get along well, we have fun together and we have more than a little in common. To be honest, even with all that I'm not sure she's what I'm looking for in a woman but at least as her friend I get to find out one way or another. Am I scared of always being in the friendzone with her? No. I know I'm a great catch and she'd be lucky to have me and I'm still pursuing other women too....for me its about finding out if she's worth having and the friendzone seems like the perfect place to be for just that.
That said, I'm interested to hear what you guys think?