Is Silence Really Golden?

[New_Journey]

I get what you're saying.. she definitely has some red flags that rule her out of LTR material. I kind knew this from day one.

However somewhere along the line, I caught some feelings for her (but not in a major way)

5 WKs of no contact and all I see her good for now is smash only

That's good that caught feelings. It doesn't matter, it is what it is, now you know what's up and to treat her. If you don't want that, then don't, but if you wanna have fun with her running game and fvcking with her head, then its up to you

 

[SW15]

Should I even reply back to her false accusations? Or is ignoring her the better option.

She ended the relationship. You already did let her know she's a crazy ***** and you want nothing to do with her. There is nothing here. Black list her.

Ignore her.

No Contact Strategy

There is a great thread on this forum about no contact.

 

[soulforge]

First, I have a hard time buying you “accidentally” swiped right on the ex you’re currently in NC with. But regardless, absolutely unmatch her. Why in the fvck would care if it looks “petty” to her? She’s an ex now. You don’t have children with her. She’s nothing.

I have a suspicion you WANT the contact with her through the app. You’re playing with fire and delaying your ability to move on. Be smarter. You know better.

Seriously i'm actually really good at sticking with NC.. My last relationship, it's been two years since the break, and I never once made contact or reached out (and I really liked her)

With this current girl, I'm over the worst part of the initial break up.

She has messaged several times, with accusations, blame shifting etc, and every single message was ignored by me.

This was a pure accident, which actually really annoyed me, when I realised what had happened.

I haven't replied back to her, and unmatching her did cross my mind.

I did consider for a little while, if I should keep her around as a FWB, but realistically that never works out well with EX'S.

She initiated the break up, so you're right.. I don't owe her anything. Will unmatch her.

 

[New_Journey]

Seriously i'm actually really good at sticking with NC.. My last relationship, it's been two years since the break, and I never once made contact or reached out (and I really liked her)

NC should not be a tactic, it should be a mindset, when people are taken for grated they should leave.

With this current girl, I'm over the worst part of the initial break up.

You should hive yourself more time to feel the emotions, being okay with being alone in case you don't have a rotation of women when it happens, it shouldn't phase you being alone.

She has messaged several times, with accusations, blame shifting etc, and every single message was ignored by me.

This is common, women are like that, all of them, no matter where you find them, they all are hardwire to try to manipulate to get an emotional response from you to get what they want. Imagine a 10 year old girl writing that victim puke cause daddy don't like her no more and its giving her distance. Whether you do it to heal yourself or to ignore her on purpose, you're the one who knows.

This was a pure accident, which actually really annoyed me, when I realised what had happened.

Good riddance. The universe is testing your frame to see if you've grown, what to do, its only on you, not nobody in here. The decision you make will only lead to one road, Learning.

I haven't replied back to her, and unmatching her did cross my mind.

Do you really think if she hated you, she wouldn't unmatched you already? She might be looking for d!cks, who cares, you were fvcking other women. But if you see, she's wasting energy texting you, hot women don't text men, and much less to "fight" unless they are emotional invested.

I did consider for a little while, if I should keep her around as a FWB, but realistically that never works out well with EX'S.

The response to that question will reveal itself with time. It never works out with men who are needy and low value.

She initiated the break up, so you're right.. I don't owe her anything. Will unmatch her.

Was this recently? it looks like you have some feelings for her still, if that's the case, you are still vulnerable which is fine, but just you need to know the situation, heal and move on. Once the veil is lifted, you'll see her for what value she can really bring to your life and what category to place her.