Is sideways glance IOI or IOD

[EmotionalGeek]

I am walking towards the girl on the right side of pavewalk. She is on the left side looking straight in front of her. I look at her face. She moves her eyes rapidly to the other side (but no downward movement) without or with head movement. Then get back to looking straight ahead. Is it IOI or IOD or maybe some other feeling like embarrassment?

 

[9Volt]

I am walking towards the girl on the right side of pavewalk. She is on the left side looking straight in front of her. I look at her face. She moves her eyes rapidly to the other side (but no downward movement) without or with head movement. Then get back to looking straight ahead. Is it IOI or IOD or maybe some other feeling like embarrassment?

meaningless.

only true interest is you asking a chick out and her not only saying yes but actually showing up to meet you where you'll be.

Anything else is mental masturbation.

 

[EmotionalGeek]

meaningless.

only true interest is you asking a chick out and her not only saying yes but actually showing up to meet you where you'll be.

Anything else is mental masturbation.

I saw this few times today and I remember reading about this sideways glace somewhere it good to know such cues but of course utlimately what counts is whether she decide to go for date. Unfortunately I chcickened out so I will not know soon.

 

[9Volt]

I saw this few times today and I remember reading about this sideways glace somewhere it good to know such cues but of course utlimately what counts is whether she decide to go for date. Unfortunately I chcickened out so I will not know soon.

such "cues" mean little to nothing and could mean anything. only "cue" she possibly likes you is again you talking to her, asking her to meet you at a place you're going to be at and she says yes and shows up to be alone with you.

then the rest is up to the both of you and how you get on and progress.

 

[Mike32ct]

It's neutral. Your call if you want to approach or not.

 

[nismo-4]

Stop analyzing this meaningless sh*t.

If you think she's interested, make a move. Take the initiative. And only one of two things happen.

1. She follows your lead and she says yes, complete with the backing actions.

2. She turns you down, dodges you, etc.

On #2, don't linger unless you want to be an orbiter.

Case closed. Make a damn move.

 

[Chamber36]

Tell her to suck on your cawk!! Maybe it'll work!

 

[9Volt]

Tell her to suck on your cawk!! Maybe it'll work!

She may actually be ****-eyed ftw.

 

[Chamber36]

She may actually be ****-eyed ftw.

cawk-eyed for the win?

U mean she wants the D!

OP is missing the signals lol

 

[9Volt]

cawk-eyed for the win?

U mean she wants the D!

OP is missing the signals lol

If her head was bobbing up and down while cawk eyed even better! lmao

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

such "cues" mean little to nothing and could mean anything. only "cue" she possibly likes you is again you talking to her, asking her to meet you at a place you're going to be at and she says yes and shows up to be alone with you.

then the rest is up to the both of you and how you get on and progress.

Walking down the footpath, you are forced into proximity, and people will just naturally glance at others. Not much to be read into here. Move along.

But when you are in a situation such as queue, or a coffee shop, and you get a 'look', and the body language backs it up, then this is often a 'signal' to approach. I 'interrogate' the word because it is more often than not an unconscious act on the woman's part - her behavior is often reflexive or instinctive.... as should be the man's when he responds. There is a sense of 'thrownness' in all genuine unforced erotic encounters because there are forces at play that transcend the ego.

 

[9Volt]

Walking down the footpath, you are forced into proximity, and people will just naturally glance at others. Not much to be read into here. Move along.

But when you are in a situation such as queue, or a coffee shop, and you get a 'look', and the body language backs it up, then this is often a 'signal' to approach. I 'interrogate' the word because it is more often than not an unconscious decision on the woman's part - her behavior is often reflexive or instinctive.... as should be the man's when he responds.

Nothing is for sure until you find out by talking to a chick, asking her out, she says yes and shows up to the place you are at to be alone with you.

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

Nothing is for sure until you find out by talking to a chick, asking her out, she says yes and shows up to the place you are at to be alone with you.

Yes, but if the interaction starts off the way I described [very warm] then there is a fair chance of it going somewhere. A lot of cold approach is a waste of time and energy because it lacks this initial impetus. In my opinion, the only reason people should be doing cold approach is to conquer approach anxiety. I doubt it is a DJ norm.

 

[EmotionalGeek]

A lot of cold approach is a waste of time and energy because it lacks this initial impetus. In my opinion, the only reason people should be doing cold approach is to conquer approach anxiety. I doubt it is a DJ norm.

If cold approach is waste of time how do you find a woman then? There is very little IOI I am gating lately or I am missing them. Situation in the queue is to much for me. To many people to go direct and I find it hard to go indirect. Often there is nothing to talk about.

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

If cold approach is waste of time how do you find a woman then? There is very little IOI I am gating lately or I am missing them. Situation in the queue is to much for me. To many people to go direct and I find it hard to go indirect. Often there is nothing to talk about.

Sounds like the social pressure is too much for you. One way around that is to act as if you know the woman... that deals with the social pressure of not talking to strangers.. and actually makes a stranger comfortable when you do talk to them,

For example, yesterday I sat down next to a lady, in full view of a crowded coffee shop, and opened up a conversation nonchalantly as if I knew her [I also got her number]. The thing is, you have to have in your mind the healthy thought that it is both natural and social to talk to people.... but also be SELECTIVE in who you do talk to. That way, you will be not be perceived as creepy but either yourself or the lady, or the bystanders. You do not creep up on the woman, but strike confidently.

 

[EmotionalGeek]

Sounds like the social pressure is too much for you. One way around that is to act as if you know the woman... that deals with the social pressure of not talking to strangers.. and actually makes a stranger comfortable when you do talk to them,

For example, yesterday I sat down next to a lady, in full view of a crowded coffee shop, and opened up a conversation nonchalantly as if I knew her [I also got her number]. The thing is, you have to have in your mind the healthy thought that it is both natural and social to talk to people.... but also be SELECTIVE in who you do talk to. That way, there will be not be perceived as creepy but either yourself or the lady, or the bystanders. You do not creep up on the woman, but strike confidently.

Today I wanted to approach few times. I had few IOIs in one situation girl just sat down on the same small coach that I was sitting. I was in the mall so there were a lot of people so I chickened out. My number one excuse is that people are watching. When I see the girl I just become ultra aware of my surroundings I can even here footsteps of people behind me.

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

Today I wanted to approach few times. I had few IOIs in one situation girl just sat down on the same small coach that I was sitting. I was in the mall so there were a lot of people so I chickened out. My number one excuse is that people are watching. When I see the girl I just become ultra aware of my surroundings I can even here footsteps of people behind me.

Yes, you are in your head. When a woman comes into proximity, and sits near you, consider that it is actually RUDE not to smile and ask how her day's going.

Your problem is you have 'approach anxiety. Perhaps you need to do 'cold approach', in a large city, to overcome it. Then once you are 'normalized' you can carry on with the more normal warm approach.

 

[EmotionalGeek]

Yes, you are in your head. When a woman comes into proximity, and sits near you, consider that it is actually RUDE not to smile and ask how her day's going.

Your problem is you have 'approach anxiety. Perhaps you need to do 'cold approach', in a large city, to overcome it. Then once you are 'normalized' you can carry on with the more normal warm approach.

Yes, I have to overcome approach anxiety somehow. Problem is when woman I do not know comes near and I know I should approach her I feel very nervous -- I do not have such problems in e.g. work enviornment.

I am not sure what do you mean by warm approach. Only form I know of worm approach is through a social circle e.g. work environment. In such case my social circle are not feeding me any womans -- I am new in city and my work is almost 100% masculine. Woman I met in work generally fvck arround and are very flakey.

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

Yes, I have to overcome approach anxiety somehow. Problem is when woman I do not know comes near and I know I should approach her I feel very nervous -- I do not have such problems in e.g. work enviornment.

I am not sure what do you mean by warm approach. Only form I know of worm approach is through a social circle e.g. work environment. In such case my social circle are not feeding me any womans -- I am new in city and my work is almost 100% masculine. Woman I met in work generally fvck arround and are very flakey.

'Warm' approach is when the woman makes it easy for you to approach. She shows some sign of interest, and puts herself in harm's way. All you then need to do is respond.