Is she screwing with me?

[Justzy30]

I have been seeing a girl I really like for approx 2-3 weeks, we have been seeing quite alot of each other and all of a sudden she seems to lose interest after her grandmother passes away. She stopped sending so many text messages and she cancelled a trip to the cinema we had planned. I called her after i received the cancellation text message (yes canx by text!!!) and after talking for a bit we agreed to go out for a walk. She came round to mine and I could tell by her body language that something was wrong, she was very closed off and didn't seem at all interested in me. We went for a walk and when we returned I said to her "I have been thinking, you have been very distant recently which, is understandable. I understand if you want us to stop this" I can't remember what she said but she agreed. She sends me a text message saying thankyou and apologising for being emotional. I reply and leave it at that thinking this is done!!
Later that night she sends me a text message saying "is it cos i'm head****ed you don't wanna see me anymore?"
Rather stupidly I phoned her saying that I thought it was her who had lost interest and to be honest I can't really remember much else that was said!

The next day I sent her a text apologising for the misunderstanding (thinking that's what it was) and said I would like to carry on seeing her. The reply I got was unexpected... "Thank's, if i'm honest I don't know what I want, I need to get Thursday out the way (funeral). I do really like you and i'm sorry as I know this isn't fair on you".
I didn't reply to this message as once again I thought I can take a hint, but she then sent another text saying "you have gone quiet??"

She tells me she still likes me despite me giving her every opportunity to say different! We have agreed to meet up after Thurs to discuss things.
I haven't text her since (it's been a couple of days) as I think giving her space may be the best thing!!

The question i guess IS SHE STRINGING ME ALONG?
and WHAT IS BEST TO DO NOW?

I obviously have a LOT to learn and have only just found these forums so I will be study hard to improve!

 

[HalfAddict]

Guess you'll find out Thursday huh.

 

[Skalioppe]

She's a woman, so a slave to all things emotional, irrational, and mentallist. Hence why you, a man, governed by logic, sensibility and rationality will never be able to fathom her. She doesn't even make sense to herself for fvck's sake.

But my hunch is she's simply grieving because she really loved Granny, used to bake cakes with her and sh1t like that, and used to listen to the anecdotes from a slightly wiser version of the irrational unhinged female mind she's inherited. You're the least of her worries at the moment, her mind right now (post Granny RIP) is like a blender stuffed with 14 different types of berries in, put on fast for 30 seconds and then she's left trying to reconstruct the fruit by hand from the smoothie, basing her irrational task on colour, texture and taste and bits of pip. Emotions... women.....

She likes you, she likes your support, probably will bang your brains out during her messed up grieving phase, but only if you start acting more Alpha. Stop being so desperate, apologising, doing the "you don't love me anymore do you?" girlie Omega male sh1t. If she goes weirdo for a while, pull back, don't contact let her sweat it out.

Next time you see her, pay condolences to her, for Granny and her funeral, but get down to the bollocks of the issue, say to her some sh1t like "I understand your bereavement has been extremely hard for you, and I'm fully empathetic with the difficulty you're going through, but I have to say, you're right, regarding the you and I situation - it hasn't been fair on me. You see, the thing is I'm very fussy with women, far too fussy and I don't have time to play Mr NambyPamby being messed around waiting a while. If I like someone I don't fvck around, I go for what I want and I always get it. The truth is I like you, you intrigue me, attract me in a refreshing way, you do something to me. So, it's choice time... " Play it right, play it Alpha and she'll probably be worshiping Mr C0ck inbetween tearful regression episodes remembering Granny's Irish Stew and her overly cinnamon-ed apple pie...

 

[WomenAreEasy]

Her grandmother just passed away....

If she had a close family or if her grandmother raised her for some of her childhood this is going to be very hard on her. Or perhaps this is the first real family member she has lost. (By real I mean not a distant relative she does not see often). She probably has a lot on her mind and is having a hard time coping with the loss. She is not stringing you along. If she texted you about not responding then she definitely likes you. The best thing to do would be to give her space for now and when she does text you be supportive. She may be busy and just want to spend lots of time with her family for the next few weeks so don't be too overburdening and don't over analyze it if she says she doesn't want to see you or cancels plans. But I mean...here's a few words of wisdom too...if she keeps going back and forth in a week or two then you probably want to next her. If she is texting you crazy like why didn't you respond and only five or ten mins went by...then next her. Stage 5 Clingers(crazy chicks who get over attached) are the ones who respond right away like why didn't you text back??? You have to let women realize you are a busy man with ambitions and things to accomplish haha. But if she is sexy and has a good personality then definitely stick with it! Best of luck my dude!

 

[Justzy30]

Thanks for your replies guys. I feel I should add I work with this girl (not very often but enough). I tried to give her an out but she didn't take it, I hope shes not messing with me as it would make things difficult at work. She also sent a text message recently saying "I hate to mess you around but I don't wanna not speak either" (this was a couple of days ago)

I'm doing the whole NC thing at the moment but i'll see her in work on Friday.

 

[Krueg]

1. Like the other guy said, her grandma died.. and she has to go to a funeral. Not reallly a time for glitter and sparkles!

2. Seeing each other too much will either cause you or her to loose interest.

3. Just relax, girls are the ones wondering "OMG does he like me?" Men could care less...


EDIT: You work with her!!?? Well, good luck with that... :nervous:

 

[Justzy30]

Bump - anymore input?

 

[Zeratul_]

wait for few weeks let her get over with her grandma's memories. Then be back here and report. Good Luck!