Slept witht his girl last Sat night. Called her next day just to see how she was doing and everything. Didn't talk to her all week but last night I texted and asked her if she wanted to hang out tonight. I texted late, about 10 or so. Never heard from her. This morning at about 9 am I get a text saying that she went to bed early and that she has to do something with her sisters kids. She asked me if we can do it another time, but didn't give a date. I said, "well maybe some other time. Have a great day and talk to you soon (something along those lines)". She didn't reply back. I'm guessing she is not interested. What you think? My next move?
Is she not interested??
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Call her on Monday ask her out for thursday night, give her some notice so she does not have plans. If she says no or is busy then move on, if she says yes or counters you are good to go.... Even if she was free she might not want to look like a loser waiting around for you to call her at the last min..
I know from my past relationship at first i was easy going as far as comming up with ideas and i would always say "maybe this" or "maybe that"... Well that only worked for so long. I think you need to be more direct it some cases and leave the maybe out. Its to hard to say, to many angles to look at. If she is interested in you she will come to you and make time for you. So dont waste your time, move on to the next one.
jophil28
Master Don Juan
Doc Love says it best, " Only pursue woman who are showing HIGH interest in you."
This woman is showing LOW interest level. You fukked her, and now she is making her sister's kids a priority over being with you again.
That is her message.
This woman is showing LOW interest level. You fukked her, and now she is making her sister's kids a priority over being with you again.
That is her message.
NEXT! More or less shes acting like the "man" in this situation. Your not a priority, hell it sounds like you were just a piece of azz. What your seeing is the tip of the Iceberg. Bascially In her world you adjust to HER and what she doing.trent81 said:
Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
NEXT. No counter offer for future plans = DOA.
Hey guys,
Just to give an update;
I finally found out what her problem was. It turns out that when I was wasted that night I kinda said some things that were degrading and not very nice. Some things I said while I was having sex with her. I was embarrassed when I heard about what I said (I cannot remember but I do remember she was very upset and wanted to leave). I want to make it up to her cause she is a very sexy and nice girl and I have known her for a while. Looks like I'm in the dog house for a while but I apologized and tried to explain to her that I didn't mean to degrade her like that. Well, if she forgives me that would be cool, if not, I learned my lesson. KEEP MY MOUTH SHUT AND DON'T DRINK TOO MUCH!!! Thanks for all your replies, any ideas on how I can get her to erase those nasty things I said to her from her memory?
Just to give an update;
I finally found out what her problem was. It turns out that when I was wasted that night I kinda said some things that were degrading and not very nice. Some things I said while I was having sex with her. I was embarrassed when I heard about what I said (I cannot remember but I do remember she was very upset and wanted to leave). I want to make it up to her cause she is a very sexy and nice girl and I have known her for a while. Looks like I'm in the dog house for a while but I apologized and tried to explain to her that I didn't mean to degrade her like that. Well, if she forgives me that would be cool, if not, I learned my lesson. KEEP MY MOUTH SHUT AND DON'T DRINK TOO MUCH!!! Thanks for all your replies, any ideas on how I can get her to erase those nasty things I said to her from her memory?
well, it's close but worse. Things like "you like that you fuvking whovre, call me daddy you ****ing whovre. Your daddy fucvk you like this you slvt? and so on......(her dad is dead). This is so fuvked up, I am never drinking again. What the hell is the matter with me? I guess I also demanded that she let me fuvk her daily and that her puvvsy belongs to me and no one else. I can't believe this shivt. This is just wrong man, I am lucky she is even talking to me. I can tell her feelings were hurt. I stopped watching porn and gave up masturbation as well. That stuff really makes you think all women like that kind of talk. They may like it, but not in the beginning. So wrong....
Stopped watching porn? gave up masterbation? say what? Ok you talked a little too much crap while doin the flibbity dibbity, thats no reason to go off the deep end.bro u were drunk and caught up in the moment. Appologise and tell her it was a mistake BUt dont let her turn this into something she hangs over your head.trent81 said:
Don't always be the one putting yourself out for her. Don't always be the one putting all the effort and work into the relationship. Let her, and expect her, to treat you as well as you treat her, and to improve the quality of your life.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
jophil28
Master Don Juan
How badly do you want to fix this ?
What you said and did to her was not worthy of a good man.
More like a wifebeater in training.
What's your next step ?
What you said and did to her was not worthy of a good man.
More like a wifebeater in training.
What's your next step ?
trent, it sounds like you just want to screw this girl's brains out and fvck her till you both drop dead...she probably got that vibe from you and felt like a cheap slvt....
That kind of sexual bedroom language is reserved for somebody who you've known for awhile and have a deep emotional bond with... not what is essentially a stranger who had the hots enough for you to get naked and jump in bed with you...
That kind of sexual bedroom language is reserved for somebody who you've known for awhile and have a deep emotional bond with... not what is essentially a stranger who had the hots enough for you to get naked and jump in bed with you...
Why did you apologize? She still fvcked you.trent81 said:
If what you said was that bad (and you only have her word on it as you were snozzled) then she would not have opened her legs. She probably enjoyed it and is ashamed that she did, so now is feeling guilty so is BLAMING YOU!
You want to make it up to her?
You say: "Well if she forgives me".......
Sorry dude, but this is Top of the Class AFC behaviour.
Zunder said:
I disagree. If the woman's father died last month and you bring up the word daddy, and treat her like a whovre in bed even though you just saw her for the second time in two years, I think that is classless and just wrong. I apologized and now we are back on again. If I played the "I don't give fubk thing", she would have parted ways. There is a difference between confidence and ****iness. Confidence is admiting when you are wrong and learning from it. ****iness is blaming another person for stupid things you do. I thought it was bad call on my part to treat her like that. But, what the hell do I know.
Hold on mate, with all due respect....you have just said you treated her like a wh0re in bed. She obviously allowed this at the time, otherwise it is what is called that word that starts with R ends in E with AP in the middle. Because - you have to ask yourself, what type of woman would let a guy fvck her when he is saying all these things to her that she supposedly despises?trent81 said:
So, she let you fvck her while you are saying all these personal whorish things to her, she lets you keep fvcking her, doesn't make you stop, because if she did try to make you stop, you know what that means as I indicated before...so now, after the event, ....she thinks about it,..........decides then that she doesn't like what you were saying to her when you were fvcking her, and makes you feel all guilty like.
What does this tell you about her? I repeat - what does this tell you about her?
Like, what the fvck?!
My opinon: NEXT
But - just my opinion.
But hey, I wish you all the best with whatever track you take with this.
Well I'm here to tell you there is such a magic wand. Something that will make you almost completely irresistible to any woman you "point it" at. Something guaranteed to fill your life with love, romance, and excitement.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
I guess you guys were right, she is a b***. She texted me and asked me to come over Monday, then cancelled and said how about Tuesday instead? I figured, ok, then texted Tuesday and cancelled again. I just don't give a fuvk anymore and said "well, maybe some other time, just let me know". I don't want to pursue someone who keeps flaking (valid or not) or someone who is going to hold this over my head even though I apologized. I havent heard from her since I sent that text, and I havent' called. What would be your next move?
My next move would be tryin to bang somebody else. I dont know why youre still contemplating on what you should do next. Isnt it obvious by now?? I think the brief taste of snatch has clouded your judgement.trent81 said: