Is she just a flake ?

[Wiesman44]

Met this girl at a party on Saturday. Only girl there so didnt try to game her. She was my friends' friend. This is what she said to her:


Her to friend (7:00:25 PM): jon is hott!!!
(7:00:31 PM): real hott
friend: lol why didnt u talk to him more ?
Her to Friend: bc i was 2 busy playing hostess
Her to friend: i had 2 make sure everything was going ok and stuff
Her to Friend: : i wanted 2 tho
Her: hes real hoyy
Her: hott*


Friend: u wanna see him again ?
Her: yeah definately
Her: does he want 2 c me?


So we have a date. Everything goes great. NO kissing or hand-holding b/c we played pool and ate some food so the atmosphere wasn't there. But she said she had a 'really really great time".

this is then what she said to my friend online 5 mins after I dropped her off:

Her: i just got back from going out with john
Her: hes a nice guy
her: :-D
her: so whats he like, i want the scoop lol
him: what do u wanna know ?
her: ummm, i dunno actually, is he trust-worthy?
her: thats about all i need 2 know
him: yea hes a good guy hes not gonna play any ****ed up games with you
him: are you gonna be good to him ?
her: yeah of course
her: i was good 2 the last one.


Called her Tuesday, she doesnt call back. Text her today, nothing. I mean, i Don't understand how a girl with high interest can completely ignore me. Do u guys understand this ? WTF can it be ? she said she wanted to see me again sometime......

 

[Tazman]

Her: hes a nice guy

Maybe this could give you some insight. Is it possible that she thought you were "too nice"?

Did you flirt or create some kind of sexual tension at all, joke around or poke fun at her?

 

[crowes22]

Relax dude. Don't fvcking text/IM girls!! DON'T. It will haunt you, trust me, I know.

Call her next week 1 more time, if she blows you off, she's history.Move on.

Good luck.--Crowes

 

[HeartlessBtch]

Gotta love it

 

[Ebach]

don't wait... be direct and enough with the games!

 

[duttylove]

you should have used kino on your date. hit her ass to distract her from her shot or something, use your imagination. also you should have gone for a kiss close at the end of the date. if she kissed you back then you would know her IL.

 

[Wiesman44]

Okay, here's what happened.......she immed me this while i was away later that night:


her: sorry, and i still want 2 chill
her: i was at the gym tho
her: but i cant chill tonite, im going 2 my summer house. I do want 2 c u again
her: i gotta go tho 4 now
her: later


This is why I dont understand women. They say one thing, and do another. She said she wanted to do hang out, her actions don't show it.


FOr all you telling me to kiss close, that means absolutely nothing. Women want their first kiss with you to be something memorable, not an expected kiss right before I drop her off at my house. Thats not my style. I wait for the moment. If that moment doesn't happen on the first date, then oh well.

And on a priming / feeler date like that, I dont use kino. Atmosphere wasn't right.

I might sound like a complete noob, but I handle myself pretty well around girls. A lot of the stuff this forum spits out is just crap. The typical do's and don'ts of first dates on this forum is just plain stereotypical, and doesn't apply to all girls.

 

[darth yoda]

Sounds to me like you're making excuses.

My opinion. She didn't feel the great 'spark' on the first date. Maybe a little spark. Not enough for her to be too eager to see you again. So you are not at the top of her list.

You didn't use kino and you used excuses why you didn't. Instead of saying the stuff on the forum is garbage (I know it all isn't great), why don't you try it and then see.

I bet you if you would have used some kino on her, she wouldn't be acting like a flake and wouldn't think of you as a 'nice guy'.

 

[medjaun]

I got to agree, I'm still new in the dating game but I don't see any reason you can't kino and kiss on first day. You say the atmosphere isnt there but you need to CREATE the atmosphere. And nothing wrong with kissing at end of date, give them something to remember. I think if you keep waiting for the "right time" too much it might never happen and they'll move on because you didn't make a move.

 

[Wiesman44]

Ha, more news.....Your all wrong. She was talking to my friend. She's somewhat hooked on her ex, they're not together or anything. But they talk, and she's trying to forget it and move on.



ie: Baggage........Don't think its worth it.