I have been seeing a girl for about 6 weeks now. She seems to be really into me, she tells me that she cannot wait to see me and says really nice things all the time, which I think are very genuine.
I have a couple of issues which have arised though, and after speaking with a close friend of mine, don't realy have a clear answer.
1) on the third date i went to the toilet after our dinner in a restaurant and when i came back she had paid for the meal which i really appreciated. She said 'this is normal that the girl pays too'. She is Czech so i don't know how shiz goes down out there..... since then she hasn't paid for ANYTHING - traing ticekts, dinners, theatre tickets (last week i took us to the theatre with my friend and his girlfriend, we then went for dinner, and she didn't offer to pay for dinner or anything, she almost expected that i paid for everything). Today i tested her - we went for lunch in a restaurant - the bill came (and coincedentally it was facing her). I waited for 5 mins to see if she would take out her wallet but no - nothing! I paid (of course!). She is an Au Pair so I thought maybe she doesn't earn much money (i googled it and it's about £100 per week) so i thought maybe she was shocked when she paid last time as it was £45 for the meal. But when i speak with her on the phone she tells me she has been shopping and bought 2 new pairs of pygamas, a new handbag (and planning to buy another one next week) etc etc. So she obviously has money in the bank or a semi-decent income.
2) she is living with a family and today she told me that the father (who is 37 - she is 26 - i am 28) is sexy, this was in conversation. Apparently he walks around in his boxer shorts a lot, she said this is a problem, she feels uncomfortable. I'm not massively insecure (although i am on this site so obvioulsy i'm not massively secure either!!) she has never once told me that i'm sexy. This has annoyed me a little bit, she was saying that the wife is always out and maybe the husband is expecting more of her (ie sex) and how would she say no, she might lose her job etc....
I think i set the wrong precident - being too nice, treating her very well - respectful etc.
It's not that she is a bad person, or using me, it's hard to put into words right now. She always wants to see me and spend time with me, she tells me she is all mine, she feels good with me etc...
I'm no mug hence why i'm writing this. I'm going to need to say something to her, i'm seeing her tomorrow and i feel i need to take her for a coffe (im not going to pick her up, i might say to meet me in town - she can make her won way there) and say that if she's into me she should be paying, or at least offering to pay, for some things, and also that it makes me feel pretty lame when she's saying that the man she's living with (when his wife is often not there because she works abroad so much) is sexy when she's not once told me that she thinks i'm sexy. I don't need constant reassurance, but surely this isn't right???
Any thoughts would be appreciated. Obviously there might be some haters saying 'you fukd up' etc.... 'dump her' but im looking for poeple who have been in a similar situation and have come through it.
Thanks guys, have a good 1
I have a couple of issues which have arised though, and after speaking with a close friend of mine, don't realy have a clear answer.
1) on the third date i went to the toilet after our dinner in a restaurant and when i came back she had paid for the meal which i really appreciated. She said 'this is normal that the girl pays too'. She is Czech so i don't know how shiz goes down out there..... since then she hasn't paid for ANYTHING - traing ticekts, dinners, theatre tickets (last week i took us to the theatre with my friend and his girlfriend, we then went for dinner, and she didn't offer to pay for dinner or anything, she almost expected that i paid for everything). Today i tested her - we went for lunch in a restaurant - the bill came (and coincedentally it was facing her). I waited for 5 mins to see if she would take out her wallet but no - nothing! I paid (of course!). She is an Au Pair so I thought maybe she doesn't earn much money (i googled it and it's about £100 per week) so i thought maybe she was shocked when she paid last time as it was £45 for the meal. But when i speak with her on the phone she tells me she has been shopping and bought 2 new pairs of pygamas, a new handbag (and planning to buy another one next week) etc etc. So she obviously has money in the bank or a semi-decent income.
2) she is living with a family and today she told me that the father (who is 37 - she is 26 - i am 28) is sexy, this was in conversation. Apparently he walks around in his boxer shorts a lot, she said this is a problem, she feels uncomfortable. I'm not massively insecure (although i am on this site so obvioulsy i'm not massively secure either!!) she has never once told me that i'm sexy. This has annoyed me a little bit, she was saying that the wife is always out and maybe the husband is expecting more of her (ie sex) and how would she say no, she might lose her job etc....
I think i set the wrong precident - being too nice, treating her very well - respectful etc.
It's not that she is a bad person, or using me, it's hard to put into words right now. She always wants to see me and spend time with me, she tells me she is all mine, she feels good with me etc...
I'm no mug hence why i'm writing this. I'm going to need to say something to her, i'm seeing her tomorrow and i feel i need to take her for a coffe (im not going to pick her up, i might say to meet me in town - she can make her won way there) and say that if she's into me she should be paying, or at least offering to pay, for some things, and also that it makes me feel pretty lame when she's saying that the man she's living with (when his wife is often not there because she works abroad so much) is sexy when she's not once told me that she thinks i'm sexy. I don't need constant reassurance, but surely this isn't right???
Any thoughts would be appreciated. Obviously there might be some haters saying 'you fukd up' etc.... 'dump her' but im looking for poeple who have been in a similar situation and have come through it.
Thanks guys, have a good 1
